07-30-2011, 10:55 AM
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Henniker, the only one on Earth
| | Re: should I be concerned?
Sure you should be concerned.
You should be concerned that he is not concerned even after you have pointed out to him that you have concerns.
You can keep putting your finger over random leaks in the bucket but it's not going to solve the problem of how are you going to get something to drink from it if your hands are busy plugging up the leaks. In other words, you are being kept busy dealing with specific behaviors, whereas he is shifting behaviors while you are being kept busy. This will lead to a mental breakdown on your part if not just sheer exhaustion. Take a huge step back and look at the bigger picture, he is unconcerned that you are not concerned, also he is not concerned with his behavior. It's a lack of perspective overall, he is out of touch with his actions and you are overly in touch with them and not more on the fact that it is unacceptable for you to have to deal with policing his day to day or minute to minute activities. In a mature relationship, he would have dealt with his issues, not changed behavior to equally unacceptable.