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Male Camel Toe

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#1 · (Edited)
Serious question here.
In the last couple years I have lost 50 pounds. I am no longer overweight. Because of the loss of weight I had to buy a new wardrobe. The pants in question are a 34 waist and fit nicely. Not tight, just right.

Anyway, since the loss of weight and nearly 3 years of jelquing my penis hangs a lot more than it used to. My wife says I have major camel toe and says I need to start wearing tighty whiteys and baggy pants.

For some reason, maybe it happens with age, I am hanging big time. Every time I put on a (any in my size) pair of pants with my boxer shorts I have to position my penis on one side or the other because the seam is in the way (Not tight at all). My wife says it looks like I am naked and she can see the head.

Is male camel toe repulsive, sexy, or what? What should I do?

Remember, these pants are NOT tight at all. I feel if I go up a size I will look like I am wearing a bag around my waist.
 
#2 · (Edited)
There is a certain point at which most women find that they need the increased support of more structured bras. Because our breasts sag as we get older. Eventually, if you don't put those things in something to hold them up, you'll find yourself tucking them into your waistband.

Sadly, the same thing seems to happen to gentlemen. As you age, skin loses elasticity and things begin to head south. At which point, you either have to decide you're cool with your package hanging out the bottom of your shorts, or you switch to closer fitting (more supportive) undergarments. I vividly remember that my grandfather stuck with the boxers a little too long. By the time he was 65, shorts weather was a bit traumatizing for everyone in the family. :eek:

I'll be honest and say that this is not something that I've really noticed on other men (other than the glaring exception of my grandpa). It appears to bother your wife, and perhaps bothers you a bit as well, which is really your only concern. Have you tried a looser cut (not a larger size) of pants? Or maybe boxer briefs?
 
#3 ·
By the time he was 65, shorts weather was a bit traumatizing for everyone in the family. :eek:
:rofl: Omg that made me laugh right out loud!

I have no clue what the answers are because I didn't even know this was a thing!
 
#4 · (Edited)
I am 53, so maybe it is a factor of age too.
I will tell you that my pants are not tight and it's not my balls, just the penis hanging.
I have been wearing the boxers for around 4 years and I love them. Don't want to go back to anything tight, if at all possible.

BTW: it's not something that bothers me, but it bothers my wife. She thinks people are looking at my crotch.
I love the "hanging feeling" but don't want to be grossing out other people in the process. I have never heard of this "problem" before.
 
#5 ·
Lol, I wasn't sure which part of the package you were referring to, but I kinda figured it wasn't the testes.


So, did Jelqing significantly increase the size of your unit, and make it hang lower, so people can see the bulge? Must be a nice problem to have--my package is too big and people can see it in my pants, lol. Is it obvious that the head is poking through or is just a general bulge?
 
#6 ·
It was a double effect. The 50 pounds I lost AND the 3 years of jelqing really gives me a "hanger".
My wife says she can actually see the "head" sometimes. Not a bulge, just a pole with a head attached. You don't need much imagination to see it, I guess.
 
#7 ·
Serious question here.
In the last couple years I have lost 50 pounds. I am no longer overweight. Because of the loss of weight I had to buy a new wardrobe. The pants in question are a 34 waist and fit nicely. Not tight, just right.

Anyway, since the loss of weight and nearly 3 years of jelquing my penis hangs a lot more than it used to. My wife says I have major camel toe and says I need to start wearing tighty whiteys and baggy pants.

For some reason, maybe it happens with age, I am hanging big time. Every time I put on a (any in my size) pair of pants with my boxer shorts I have to position my penis on one side or the other because the seam is in the way (Not tight at all). My wife says it looks like I am naked and she can see the head.

Is male camel toe repulsive, sexy, or what? What should I do?

Remember, these pants are NOT tight at all. I feel if I go up a size I will look like I am wearing a bag around my waist.
On a male I believe it is called Moose Knuckle:grin2:
 
#8 · (Edited)
This cracked me up!! Not your predicament, UMP... but your coining of the phrase "Male Camel Toe"... :D

:rofl:

I know you like boxers, but my SO (who also has an ample "package") wears really cool, sleek, charcoal grey boxer-briefs. I find them incredibly irresistible, looks wise. And it holds those boys firmly in place :D. Much cooler than tighty-whities.

(*happy as a clam quietly leaves now to Google "male camel toe"...)
 
#11 ·
I have worn the tight whites and boxer briefs in the past. There is NOTHING like boxers. I am free !!
I really don't want to get rid of them unless what I am currently doing is inappropriate. Hence the question.
My wife is giving me a complex. I thought I was normal.
 
#10 ·
I don't care myself. I actually enjoy it. However, my wife is making me feel self conscious about it. She thinks women are looking at my crotch. I see it sometimes too and truth be told I enjoy the looks. However, I don't want to be perceived as some kind of freak.
 
#21 ·
**** that - it IS a badge of honor - especially if it makes you feel good. You aren't obligated, beyond wearing underpants and pants, to hide your ****.

I have a fairly large member, and do notice people (dudes too!) copping a stare now and then. In fact, one time at a former job, I walked in on the accountant and opps manager actually discussing the size of my package (both women). They were SO embarrassed. I loved it, of course.
 
#22 ·
My wife complains about this. And I also lost about 14 pounds like three years back. But I wear briefs. So it looks like a bulge in the crotch and to be honest I am very average down there.
But my wife likes to complain about it anyways.
 
#36 ·
UMP, I think women are going to look at you no matter what. You are an appealing man, and appealing men are going to get attention.

I want you to be comfortable. I also want your wife to feel secure in your commitment to her.

Imho, I would suggest doing what you find is best for you, whether that is tight or loose undergarments, and simply reassuring her, whenever the issue comes up, that your love is and will always be exclusively for her.



All that said, I certainly see the value of happy's advice, too. :)
 
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#42 ·
Truthfully @happy as a clam , I was thinking about Cargo Shorts. Wife regularly approves of underthings I wear, so I'm pretty safe. After several years of un-diagnosed low testosterone, there is absolutely no danger of me "having a flaccid, spindly, obvious penis showing through my drawers".

Mostly I wanted to appreciate fully @jld 's comment allowing men to own their own bodies. Taking ownership of my own some 6-8 months ago was one of the most liberating experiences of my life. UMP is facing exactly this decision. To own his Junk, or to put it back in Mrs. Ump's handbag. Now if he can find a solution that makes both of them happy, great. But if not, she will have to provide positive incentive for him to change, not negative nagging.

Now personally I'm not a fan of tight, genital revealing, pants on men. But I don't tell my son what kind of underwear to wear.
 
#47 · (Edited)
Truthfully @happy as a clam , I was thinking about Cargo Shorts. Wife regularly approves of underthings I wear, so I'm pretty safe. After several years of un-diagnosed low testosterone, there is absolutely no danger of me "having a flaccid, spindly, obvious penis showing through my drawers".
Ahhh... Mr. Nail... this made me smile :). Your quote makes me realize the absolute absurdity (although truthfulness) of my post!

:lol:

And UMP... P.S.... I'm glad your wife approves of your underthings. My SO and I are also very respectful of each other's clothing choices.

He is a real muscle-bound hottie -- and still a national record holder in several weight-lifting titles. When we go places, he is still often recognized in public. (And I'm not too bad myself, he-he) As the wise @MountainRunner suggested... it's not necessary to flaunt your stuff... sometimes, less really IS more. Less "show"... more "mysterious." In other words, keep 'em guessing. :D My man looks as sexy under a cool Harley t-shirt as he does in a clingy cool-max T. Bottom line, you cannot hide that chest and those biceps... (and thighs, and hams and glutes and lats and pecs) :D

(And abs, which are only reserved for me :))

Well, you know what? I've made up my mind.
I'm staying with my boxers. I like it.
UMP... personally speaking, I would ditch the boxers in public.
 
#48 ·
you have to find a nice compromise. It can't be all about her, it can't be all about you. @MountainRunner doesn't seem to care if he wears those shirts, they aren't the only shirts he finds comfortable. He simply wants his wife to be happy. No big deal. His wife also seems to have approached him correctly. She asked him not too, because it drew attention and made her uncomfortable. a nice, all around compromise.
@UMP, your situation is a little different. You have a comfort issue. it is a big deal to change your undergarments and you do care about it. If your wife is feeling insecure, she didn't seem to outright mention it. Instead she told you that it was unattractive, something that may or may not be actually true. This is a little manipulative. You can try to make her happy by changing your support, but if at the heart of it she is feeling insecure, this may not even help. All i can think of is that you get a second opinion from someone who you trust to be completely honest.

If she were wearing clothing you didn't find particularly attractive, but it was the only way she could be comfortable, how critical might you be? What is the precedent of comfort over fashion in your relationship? Ie: Does she wear anything uncomfortable at your request simply because you like how it looks? Maybe you could determine, as a couple, a priority of places to return the favor? ie: you wear your choice of boxers at home and at work, but on saturdays when you two see her friends you will wear some briefs for a few hours.
 
#49 ·
I'm not sure that obvious penis is what is making other women look at you, at least not in a positive way. If I happened to notice that on a guy, even a very handsome and well-dressed one, it would be likely to solicit a snicker and a "does he not own a full-length mirror?" thought. Not the "helllooooo, sailor!" that you perhaps were hoping for.

So, if you prefer this look because you believe it will be a turn-on for other women, you may not be achieving that goal. If it also turns your wife off, you may need to examine the ROI on dressing this way. Of course your personal comfort also figures into that calculation.
 
#51 ·
I'm not sure that obvious penis is what is making other women look at you, at least not in a positive way. If I happened to notice that on a guy, even a very handsome and well-dressed one, it would be likely to solicit a snicker and a "does he not own a full-length mirror?" thought. Not the "helllooooo, sailor!" that you perhaps were hoping for.

So, if you prefer this look because you believe it will be a turn-on for other women, you may not be achieving that goal. If it also turns your wife off, you may need to examine the ROI on dressing this way. Of course your personal comfort also figures into that calculation.
As usual, Rowan summed it up perfectly! :)

If I saw a guy with his d*ck showing through his pants, I might ask myself the same thing. "Did this guy check his look on his way out the door???"
 
#61 ·
For me personally, I generally don't care if it's visible, as I'm not looking for attention - it's just the way my clothes fit and my body is shaped. Like UMP, this happens when I wear properly fitted pants, and the only way to hide it is to wear baggy pants. (which is fine when I'm mowing the lawn, or camping).

The only thing that bothers me, or makes me self-conscious is that you CAN usually see a pretty accurate outline some of the time, head and all. We're all shaped differently (including down there), and some guys are just more easily visible than others. I'm not much bigger than average, but the head is, therefore it tends to be visible.

My wife tells me not to worry, as it's really only visible if you're looking for it, or directly at that area, and she's confident that most women don't do that, anyway. I trust that she's right, and TBH, I don't particularly care if somebody does - I'm covered up. It's really not all that different if a woman is wearing a tight-fitting turtleneck sweater. You can't see any skin, but you can get a good idea of the size/shape of her breasts all the same.

But the kicker for me is that I'm not walking around with a boner in sweatpants or anything. It's me in jeans that fit properly - not tight, not low-waisted, just normal, everyday jeans that are my size. Our bodies are all different, and like women with ample bosoms, wearing baggy clothing to conceal everything isn't the only solution, or something that somebody else should dictate to you - especially if you're not looking for attention.

But that's the thing, UMP - if your wife is telling you she's uncomfortable with your clothing choices and telling you exactly why, then it's worth listening to her. She is the one that matters, after all. My wife doesn't care AND I'm not cognizant of anybody looking at me (even though I do still check myself in the mirror before I leave the house).

TBH, if I was wearing pants that showed this off on purpose and/or I was checking to see if anybody was looking, then I'd have to re-evaluate my clothing options, at least for my wife's sake if she was uncomfortable. But as it stands for me, my only concern is that I'm wearing clothes that fit me well and I'm comfortable in when I leave the house - not one size too big for the sole purpose of concealing my junk. I'm no fashionista, but I'm also too old (and too short!) to be wearing baggy pants.
 
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