My b'day was almost 2 weeks ago. Husband asked what I wanted for my b'day. I specifically told him Jason Aldeans cd. Not alot of money, something easy to buy.
He hands me a store bag with my gift inside. It is a hairbrush?
At first I think it is a gag gift, we'll have a laugh then he'll break out my real gift, and he will say "got cha." I laugh and say, "ok now give me my real gift, you know my JA cd." This goes on, then I realize he's for real, the brush is my gift. I laughed, because if I didn't I would have cried.
I sat there. My feelings were hurt. What is the proper response? So I say nothing. If I would have talked, my voice would have quivered. You know the quiver when a woman is trying to hold back tears.
My husband gets angry. Yeah angry. I didn't thank him for the gift
I look at him, hurt. He accuses me of being childish, and pouting. He tells me it's not about the gift, it's the thought that counts. When he gives me a gift I should appreciate it, and say thank you.
I could not bring myself to thank him for the brush. As he left the room I sat there wondering, is this guy for real.
Since that day his words "it's the thought" has been rolling around in my mind.
Does he love me that little to think of buying me a hairbrush for my b'day?
Is his value of me that low?
After 17 years am I not worth more to him?
To make matters worse the next day I get on FB. His brothers gf post that he (BIL) surprised her by leaving flowers in her car after work. At home he made her dinner, and gave her a foot massage. Gezzzz and I got a hairbrush.
So am I being childish?
Reading more into this than what it is?
Was there a better way to have handled this?