I am the ODD woman here, doesn't bother me.
But our historys with our men , or what has happened to us in the past with other man may play a role in how we view this-- if a woman has been hurt -even a little, it could play on her mind DEEPLY, cheated on-even more so, or her moral "beliefs" -she has been taught -in such things.
My husbabd has given me such a beautiful rich life of sacrificial love and caring , total devotion to only me -since the day we met (29 yrs ago , I was just 15)........he waited for years to have intercoarse with me before we married, being more patient than any man could stand during our years of infertility & not enough sex from me-timing sex, with never a hint of his wanting /looking elsewhere, treating me like gold from day one.
I KNOW what I am to him, he has proven it over & over & over & over, he tells me every morning, every night. I know his heart . But that doesn't mean he doesn't mind a passing glance of female beauty, just as I get a little smile looking at a hot guy on the beach , in a movie, at a concert, I enjoy looking too, so why would I judge him?
We both allow each other these passing delights that run through our brain in seconds, then we hold each other close, give a kiss, a pat on the butt, a grab, arms around each other, knowing he is my one & only and I am his. IN heart, in spirit. None can compare, no matter their Physical beauty.
Love is a WELL much deeper than that.
I understand men are not going to sheild their eyes if a beautiful woman walks pass, that is just silly to expect, but it does matter HOW they REACT in front of their wife or girlfriend -hopefully not eyes bulging out of his head.
I never forget this little story about this old man & his wife on an Elevator & on another floor walks in this Bombshell with her bust almost popping out & the wife is noticing her, she can tell her husband WANTS very bad to look but is trying to respect her , and she pokes him in the ribs and says " You can look -just don't DROOL". (something to that effect anyway) (Or maybe he is looking but getting carried away - I forget now!)
BUt itsn't that the attitude we should have for the FAITHFUL DEVOTED men in our life.
Mine has never been disrespectful to me in any way- EVER. It is even more me who might say, "look at her over there, love her dress" I know what my hubands type is, he knows what I like too, we talk about it all- openly -no insecurities.
I realize others experiences are not like this, and if a man makes it obvious, makes comments that sting like reducing you to "less" somehow, I wouldn't like this either! Or if he flirts with many women, not caring if it makes you jealous, none of this is OK.
But the human desire to look upon attraction of the oppostie sex is only natural, I would not even try to fight that. So long as you have your man's heart & soul , these things will (or should) slide off of you . That is my experience.