Re: To women who have cheated on their husbands...
lonelylady, a simple "no he didn't know and still doesn't" would have sufficed to answer the OP.
The fact that you went in to much more detail suggests that you are spending a lot of emotional energy on your situation. You still cannot resolve the fact that you have outright lied to your H and continue to do so, and are acting cruel enough to watch him be the fool you made him into. You will never find happiness as long as you continue to lie to yourself. Shaggy's comment is spot on.
BTW, I had to check the dates and details in your story because I kept thinking you may be my WW coming to this site for answers... Your H may have lost your respect, but if you leave others to discover the truth for themselves, they will ALL lose their respect for you.