Re: To women who have cheated on their husbands...
After 12 years of a loveless, empty marriage, I ended up meeting a guy online and eventually ended up having an affair with him.
We began as chat friends but the more I got to know him, I was intrigued and very flattered with all the attention he was giving me. Being 4 hours apart, I originally felt safe flirting and playing with him while online, phone conversations and text messaging him. He knew all about the problems in my marriage and was very sympathetic to it. I should also add that he was recently separated and hadn't begun dating yet. After 2 months of very regular and constant correspondence, I invited him to meet me in a town close to where he lived. I would be approximately 4 hours from home, had old friends in that area that I used as the excuse for going, and felt very safe leaving my husband for the weekend to meet this guy. As a matter of fact my husband sent me off with his blessings, happy that I had reconnected with old friends.
The guy and I met and shared a hotel room for the weekend. The first night we slept in separate beds and then spent Saturday sightseeing, and having 1 of the most enjoyable days I had experienced in a long time. We had sex on the 2nd night together. On Sunday we spent the day walking through a park, holding hands and talking. It felt like the most natural thing I could have ever done. To make a long story short, he and I continued seeing each other at least once a month and continued corresponding everyday through text and phone as well as IM every evening.
My husband never suspected anything until I began getting more and more hateful and bi**hy towards him. I hated going home in the evenings, hated having to share the same bed with him, refused to go on vacation with him, etc. Sex was pretty non-existent before my affair so that was anything for him to wonder about. In the meantime I had also told OM that I wanted out of my marriage and was planning on moving out as soon as I could afford it. By the end of August I told my husband I was leaving and moved into my own place. I had already decided I would move to the other state to be closer to OM as soon as I could finalize my divorce. 2 weeks later I went to be with OM. During that weekend he told me he cared for me, that I was his best friend and that he could see us together in the future. 2 weeks after that I was with him again and had what I thought was a wonderful weekend, but I noticed that when I returned home, he stopped contacting me as much as he normally had. All of a sudden, he was busy, didn't have the time to talk on the phone or even text as much. I didn't want to think the worse and accepted his feeble excuses, until I caught him on the same chat site he and I met on.
Within a couple of weeks of being treated like I was nothing more then a casual distant friend, he finally admitted that he didn't think he had the time to nurture a long distant relationship. I have it on good authority that he has been actively looking for other women to date. BUT...he'll still text me a couple of times each day. We no longer chat online and I haven't spoke to him on the phone in over a week. That's because I stopped calling him!!
Although I vehemently denied it to OM, I left my husband because I honestly thought there was going to be a future with him. Hell, he had even suggested for us to move in together when I was ready to move to his state. Guess I can blame it on Karma!
BTW- hubby has asked me a couple of times if there was OM, which I've always denied. And no, I have no desire or intention of ever reconciling with him. That marriage is officially over.
I still hope that the OM will eventually want to reconnect with me and pick up where we left off, but I'm not holding my breathe.