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Old 08-26-2011, 05:03 PM   #16 (permalink)
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Personally, I wouldn't say a thing. It's really not a big deal. lol. It's Twitter.
This is the best course of action. Honestly, he should feel free to do things without you checking up on him.
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Old 08-26-2011, 05:03 PM   #17 (permalink)
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Asking him what's up seems more like an interrogation, especially since I know that's what you're doing. LOL If you want to talk to him about it, ask him if he liked it.

I have a twitter account with no activity as well. I think it's fairly common.
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oh so that would sound like an interrogation? SAd! I thought I'd confront him that way lol.
If I ask him whether he liked it then would that sound betteR?
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Old 08-26-2011, 05:06 PM   #18 (permalink)
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oh so that would sound like an interrogation? SAd! I thought I'd confront him that way lol.
If I ask him whether he liked it then would that sound betteR?
Yes, if you do it right. Since you're using words like "confront" I don't think you can pull it off. For your sanity and his, just let it go.
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Old 08-26-2011, 05:07 PM   #19 (permalink)
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This is the best course of action. Honestly, he should feel free to do things without you checking up on him.
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True then why am I feeling so bad about this whole thing? IDK
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Old 08-26-2011, 05:08 PM   #20 (permalink)
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Yes, if you do it right. Since you're using words like "confront" I don't think you can pull it off. For your sanity and his, just let it go.
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you are right.
In my mind its like I'm WAITING to pounce on him lol. and then when such things happen, he goes crazy and loses his sanity.
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Don't say anything! Omg...this is just....ugh. He opened it LAST NIGHT. I don't know why you want him to tell you the second he opens it O_o I feel like I'm missing something....

Just drop it or talk about how stupid Twitter is or how you want to start tweeting again....but don't ask about his account. lol.
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Old 08-26-2011, 05:11 PM   #22 (permalink)
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Don't say anything! Omg...this is just....ugh. He opened it LAST NIGHT. I don't know why you want him to tell you the second he opens it O_o I feel like I'm missing something....

Just drop it or talk about how stupid Twitter is or how you want to start tweeting again....but don't ask about his account. lol.
Yeah, I have to get myself to do that. I'm sooooooo annoying sometimes, and I don't know what to do about that

I'm definitely talking about my twitter acct today, let's see what he says about it.
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True then why am I feeling so bad about this whole thing? IDK
You've said you don't suspect him of cheating. If you did, I'd tell you to trust your gut.

From the little I know, I'm assuming you have control issues. Perhaps low self esteem? Whatever it is, I think it's your issue and not his.
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You've said you don't suspect him of cheating. If you did, I'd tell you to trust your gut.

From the little I know, I'm assuming you have control issues. Perhaps low self esteem? Whatever it is, I think it's your issue and not his.
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I don't suspect him of cheating, we are married 3 years and I think I know atleast a little of him. But, he has lied like this in the past. Pfcourse, the issues are things like this post, so it seems trivial to many people, and may be iti really is triviial.


Control issues? I sure have! I'm a control freak... Low self esteem, i don't know.
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He isn't lying though. He's LIVING. Does he have to tell you everything he does at every moment? I mean, is that what you expect?
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He isn't lying though. He's LIVING. Does he have to tell you everything he does at every moment? I mean, is that what you expect?
Hmm,I see the point. I need to control my issues first? and may be let go of this twitter thing ,atleast for now.
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I dare you NOT to say anything about twitter. You'll have to work overtime to become less controlling.This is a seemingly simple thing to start with. Have you considered IC?
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I dare you NOT to say anything about twitter. You'll have to work overtime to become less controlling.This is a seemingly simple thing to start with. Have you considered IC?
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Ok, I give up and I'm keeping quiet.

I hate it when my husband does not say things to me about what he is doing because I've had this bad experience in the past that he has a reason behind it(not cheating though)

and What is IC?
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Men lie and hide things to save their a$$es from paranoid,over controlling women.
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Men lie and hide things to save their a$$es from paranoid,over controlling women.
wow, so is that me?
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