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Old 08-26-2011, 04:19 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Default Ladies: why does a man lie/hide things?

I request for your opinions here:

My,otherwise lovely, Husband is totally uninterested in social networking and suddenly I get to know that he has opened a twitter account last night.
I want to scream my lungs out and ask him why he does not want to tell me that; I have a twitter acct by the way but do not use it at all.
So should I confront him about this? Am I over- reacting?
He has this history of telling me lies like these, so is it something to worry about?

P.S.:He does not know about my account here, but hey I use it only to help myself/my relationship or others.
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Old 08-26-2011, 04:23 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Did he just open it last night? Why is it important that he tells you? If you suspect an affair, then I can understand why you're worried. If you've asked him about it and he lied, I can see being upset as well. But if he just created an account and didn't mention it I don't see the issue.
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Did he just open it last night? Why is it important that he tells you? If you suspect an affair, then I can understand why you're worried. If you've asked him about it and he lied, I can see being upset as well. But if he just created an account and didn't mention it I don't see the issue.
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WhereAmI, yes he opened it last night. I got late from work last night and I called and told him. I came in at 9 pm. So I think he was 'bored'. I wonder why he never even mentioned it earlier to me. But , knowing him may be I could just give it to him. IDK.
No, I don't suspect any affair as of now(but who knows).
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Why does it matter if he opens a Twitter account? Maybe he just wanted to. Does he have to ask permission? O.o Has he cheated before? I don't understand. My husband opens accounts on car sites, etc...I don't give a rip.
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Why does it matter if he opens a Twitter account? Maybe he just wanted to. Does he have to ask permission? O.o Has he cheated before? I don't understand. My husband opens accounts on car sites, etc...I don't give a rip.
Its not about permission, I just feel 'left out'. He does not even follow me or send me a message. Why would he think I'm against it considering that I myself have account?He has not cheated before but he does tell 'small' lies like this a couple of times. My husband too opens accounts on other sites, but I never seem to care. This is bothering me though.
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Maybe he tried to find you, but couldn't. Or maybe he knows what you're up to and he was thinking about catching up with old friends. There are legitimate reasons for his behavior. IMO you should start following him and let this one slide.
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He just opened it last night though! Give him a second to figure it out.

I tried Twitter for about 2 hours...It sucks. lolll Maybe he just wanted to see what the big drama was about Twitter.

It's not like he's had it for a week or something.
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Maybe he tried to find you, but couldn't. Or maybe he knows what you're up to and he was thinking about catching up with old friends. There are legitimate reasons for his behavior. IMO you should start following him and let this one slide.
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Hmmm,, well, may be a good idea to just follow him.He has not added anyone yet to his account. But I'm still wondering why he would do that without telling me, I see no harm in just mentioning it to me.

I"ll try to not question him, but somtimes I do confront him.
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He just opened it last night though! Give him a second to figure it out.

I tried Twitter for about 2 hours...It sucks. lolll Maybe he just wanted to see what the big drama was about Twitter.

It's not like he's had it for a week or something.
you are right, twitter sucks and now that's a different topic all together ;-)

may be I"ll just mention that "hey, honey, i saw that you've opened a twitter acct, so what's up there" ???? I could tell him I tried doing a search with my hotmail acct(for friends) and found you
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You could do that. Or you just just chill about it and just let him do what he does. Or mention YOUR Twitter account and who you follow, etc...and see what he says.

I still don't think it's a big deal. Twitter is lame. LOL
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You could do that. Or you just just chill about it and just let him do what he does. Or mention YOUR Twitter account and who you follow, etc...and see what he says.

I still don't think it's a big deal. Twitter is lame. LOL
Hey, thanks. I must say you made me feel better.
Yup, I "ll do that - will mention my acct today but the thing is I've not ued my for ages! so he might wonder why I'm doing that.

and then the other issue is what is he still does not say anything? I"ll feel terrible knowing he is lying.
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He isn't lying though! lollll He just opened a Twitter account. Oh well! He opened it, looked at it, probably thought, "This is stupid" and moved on. He didn't bring it up because he doesn't care about it.
Did you want him to run up to you and tell you he signed up? I would laugh if my husband did that hahaah...

I could understand if he was shady and cheating, etc, but it's pretty hard to cheat on Twitter. I'm sure it can be done, but most people wouldn't go to twitter to cheat.

Just stop before you drive yourself crazy. lol.
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you are right, twitter sucks and now that's a different topic all together ;-)

may be I"ll just mention that "hey, honey, i saw that you've opened a twitter acct, so what's up there" ???? I could tell him I tried doing a search with my hotmail acct(for friends) and found you
Asking him what's up seems more like an interrogation, especially since I know that's what you're doing. LOL If you want to talk to him about it, ask him if he liked it.

I have a twitter account with no activity as well. I think it's fairly common.
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Personally, I wouldn't say a thing. It's really not a big deal. lol. It's Twitter.
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He isn't lying though! lollll He just opened a Twitter account. Oh well! He opened it, looked at it, probably thought, "This is stupid" and moved on. He didn't bring it up because he doesn't care about it.
Did you want him to run up to you and tell you he signed up? I would laugh if my husband did that hahaah...

I could understand if he was shady and cheating, etc, but it's pretty hard to cheat on Twitter. I'm sure it can be done, but most people wouldn't go to twitter to cheat.

Just stop before you drive yourself crazy. lol.
I'm really driving myself crazy and I think I should go watch some TV lol.

Well,I'm happy to know that we cannot cheat easily on twitter.
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