Ive had my heartbroken so many times int he past 10 years I have pretty much given up on love. BUt my need and desire to be close to someone is very strong (and was made even worse by last guy who opened all that up in me really strongly again). I am essentialy stuck in fight or flight pattern.
I am thinking about going to swinger parties as a result. I figure I can get sex and not have to worry about being misled.
I am a pretty open-minded person although its not my preference (id perfer to be in a relationship).. but is't been a year since I've had sex.
Hi lotus,
I go to swinging parties, I also work in the sex industry, have also been cheated on... Swinging is a lifestyle choice... The longer you stay around, the life lessons are invaluable, the friendships usually open & honest. Swingers usually, not always, have a greater self awareness & self honesty than the majority of people and a lot more open minded, their lifestyle and relationships demand it... There maybe diseases anywhere, but more likely with a random one night stand. The lifestyle taught me a lot about who I am & what I wanted, didnt want, how to trust me, how to say No! ..... It's all about you Hun.. If you are fragile right now, maybe swinging isn't a good idea.. However, go along and have a look.... Chances are, you'll be looked after beautifully, no pressure, no judgement, no stress.... Find some experienced people, swingers have an amazing social life.... And you know what? It's not all about sex in there... That's generally just another social misconception based on opinions from people who think they know what they are talking about, but really have little or no experience to back up their opinion... Another thought.... And yes, I'm probably going to stir a few people up... But bring it on! ... Another option is a male escort... No strings attached, your terms, safe sex (yes another social misconception... Escorts are the safest.. We have to be!) and with this option you can actually ask for, and receive exactly what you want.... Surround yourself with girlfriends, that's your emotional support.... Whatever you do, your safety is ultimately your responsibility, never leave that up to another, no matter what situation you find yourself in (even the vibrator... Use & wash frequently lol) .... Good luck & even if you give up on monogamy, don't give up on all guys or all relationships..... There are some lovely people out there... Maybe it's time to try something different
Think it's a good or bad idea?