I know I'm dealing with generalities, but I'm curious on the ladies opinions.
My particular situation is that I've been seeing someone for about 6 months now, following my separation. We spend quite a bit of time at my place. Numerous times she's offered to do things like take my laundry home with her to do it and bring it back, and I regularly have to chastise her (gently and teasingly) for doing the dishes in the kitchen, folding my clothes, making my bed. Not that I'm a slob, and it's bothering her, I don't think, as I think I keep things pretty tidy.
My feelings are that I don't want her to ever feel I want her around because she's a great maid. And to be honest, I'm reasonably proud of the progress I've made in keeping up on housekeeping. But... If she's offering because she has some strange female desire to take care of me, am I hurting her somehow by not letting her do these things? In the same way I'd be hurt if she, for example, didn't call me to change her tire or fix her lawnmower if she needed it?
The kinda weird part is that she has never been a stay at home parent or even a mom at all, for that matter. She's a very intelligent and classy professional lady. I guess I could see it more if she had a lifetime of taking care of other people, but she doesn't really. We're both in our early/mid 40's, and recently separated.
Your thoughts and opinions are eagerly awaited.
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