Thank You 8 month spell lady,
I appreciate your advise and sharing your knowledge that you have found helpful through these interesting reads. I am going to check out the books you suggested to get a better understanding for my H sex drive. As they say, The more you know....
I sometimes wonder if I am any help on here, cause I go on & on about these things that likely sound outragous to some women. I so appreciate your hearing and.... believing.
I get ANGRY at myself NOW in my mid 40's for NOT being what I needed to be for my husband back then, and this is the only thing I can accually do to make up for that, ya know- cause he ain't feeling it now the way he used to. This is kind of a cruel joke God plays on us. I wish I had a sexual mentor back then, da** what a blessing it would have been, or I picked up the right books on sex.
So all I can do is try to get other young women/wives to learn of these things -so it will help their marraiges. My husband NEVER nagged or pushed me for sex like MOST husbands do...(would you believe I was mad at him for this -after my drive went up, I feel his holding back cheated us both!!)..... what he did instead was "suffer in silence"- though we always had sex at least once a week -cause by then I was craving it like MAD too, I alwyas had a decent sex drive, but I don't think he knew that, cause we never talked about it -ever in 19 yrs. He would have loved at least once a day back then, but I was sexually repressed somewhat and very uneducated about the male sex drive -obviously.
So good for you ! This will only enhance your marraige. I just hope your husband gives you all YOU need as well -emotionally affectionally, communcatively, his time, his love. Mine always did --so really, I am the one who screwed things up back then, he was always wonderful to me, I had zero complaints about him. His problem was he was too respectful, even too unselfish, you don't hear women say that one too much!
I am seriously nothing like my husband, if these roles would have been reversed, I would have been a nagging lunatic to get sex. I just know me too well. So again, I can relate to men and their irritating ways. That crazy drive of mine has passed, though it still ticks me off that we NEVER had that special "hopping like bunny rabbits time" of 3 times a day like so many young people experinced.
Sorry if I already repeated some of this, but what we have now is ......we still have sex 4-6 times a week, but what drives us is purely the emotional connection. I am not feeling that LUST like I was- kinda miss it -da** it ! Wish it would come back but I think my time has passed.