Is your husband your best friend?

SepticChange · 09-14-2011, 06:54 PM

For him he doesn't really say much and says things along the times of "Well that sucks, but that's life" or if it's bad "Well, I don't know what to tell you, babe." He just cuddles with me depending on how bad the news is. He has told me though that I can talk to him about anything but I KNOW that is not true!

SepticChange · 09-14-2011, 06:56 PM

heartsbeating, kind of the same here. I love my friends to death but after a certain amount of time I just have to get away with them and finish up a conversation or something on the phone or just take a break from them. So far with my H I don't mind being with him all the time. He's been away since Friday and won't be back till Monday and I feel stupid over how lonely I am. In the past I could have gone literally weeks, even months without physically seeing my best girlfriends and have been just fine.

heartsbeating · 09-14-2011, 07:03 PM

I can talk with my H about anything but that's not to say there aren't some things he's not interested in and doesn't pretend to be for my sake. For example he has no time for celebrity and I was working somewhere that had me meeting certain people. I'd excitedly get home to tell him "oh I met ____" today and while he'd be interested about ME, he couldn't fain enthusiasm for these stories. He'd just laugh and suggest I call my mom to share it with instead. And then her and I would be on the phone for hours. He's still my best friend though

heartsbeating · 09-14-2011, 07:12 PM

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Originally Posted by SepticChange

He's been away since Friday and won't be back till Monday and I feel stupid over how lonely I am. In the past I could have gone literally weeks, even months without physically seeing my best girlfriends and have been just fine.

You have moved to a new town though? There's new surroundings and you don't have the "comforts" of people and certain familiarities. Completely normal to feel this way. Maybe you could set up video chat with one of your friends or send an email. Sometimes it's good to touch base and hear a friendly, familiar voice. Maybe you could bake some cookies and meet up with that older lady for a tea and a chat?

SepticChange · 09-14-2011, 07:20 PM

Yup, I'm in a new place. It's also the isolation and being away from everything that's familiar. I keep in touch via facebook and those losers don't believe in skype lol. I spoke with the lady for a few minutes when I got home, she's very nice. Told me there are lots of good people living in the area whom I'd like. I need to be more social. It doesn't help that I'm an introvert.

TwoDogs · 09-15-2011, 03:20 PM

I'm in a bit of a different position (well, I don't have a husband for one!) but I wouldn't say my SO is my "best" friend.

Quite simply, I've only known him for a little more than 3 years but I have close friendships that exceed 25 years in duration. Many of those are work friendships where we naturally share a lot of the day-to-day ins and outs that he has no knowledge of. There's just way more history with my longterm friends -- and that factor alone makes the calibre of the relationships so much different. I just don't have the same intimacy? depth? (don't think either of those are the right words) with someone I've known for 17 - 22 years less.

YinPrincess · 09-16-2011, 06:34 AM

I can honestly say my husband was and is my best friend... even when we really were just best friends. (Years before the relationship).

MrK · 09-16-2011, 07:01 AM

I'll answer for my wife:

No. Not even close.

Currant · 09-16-2011, 12:21 PM

I consider him one of my best friends. I wouldn't want him to exclusively my best friend because I don't want to be that person who ditches all their friends for their man, and then if the relationship falls apart all the friends are gone
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SepticChange · 09-16-2011, 02:04 PM

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I consider him one of my best friends. I wouldn't want him to exclusively my best friend because I don't want to be that person who ditches all their friends for their man, and then if the relationship falls apart all the friends are gone
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That's what I don't want to happen. My friends were afraid that I would forget about them once I married. I don't want him to be the ONLY person there for me in my life.

remmons · 09-16-2011, 02:50 PM

I use to be, until I caught her with another....

Lavender · 09-16-2011, 04:43 PM

Yes & no both! He is when there are serious issues you dont trust discussing with everyone, I know all I tell him is safe, and that he will give sincere advice and opinions to our convos. Same time there are many friends in my life who provide female insight & girl time bonding etc that a husband just cant give.

Created2Write · 09-16-2011, 05:24 PM

My husband is the best friend I have ever had. Everyone else who's ever been close to me has betrayed me in some way or other. My husband is the only person, ever, to not betray me. So, yes. My husband is now, and always will be, my absolute best friend in the world.

janesmith · 09-20-2011, 08:09 PM

yes, although i didnt always realize it

Stonewall · 09-24-2011, 06:41 AM

We are the best of friends. No one is on the same frequency that we are. after 34 years that is an accomplishment that I am very proud of. I don't desire to "hang out with the boys" would rather be with her. However I do understand when she needs "me" time so I don't hold her back. More than anything else in life I want her happy and fulfilled in every way. She deserves it!