Always thought he was, but now I know he is! It is crazy, but after his EA we are so much closer. He used to treat me more like a child; now we are equals. I truly believe we can talk about anything now. Posted via Mobile Device
My husband used to be. Now he is just a stranger living in the same house.
Originally Posted by wemogirl
We aren't there yet but we're on that road. We pretty much just share kids. I don't share anything with him anymore that doesn't involve kids' schedules/school information/family obligations.
If I had fore-sight like I do hind-sight, I would have done things differently to where my marriage would have survived. Much like wemogirl had stated, my W and I were on this same road. I failed to recognize that my W needed more attention than I was giving her. I woke up to this reality just a little too late. I pray that your H "wakes up" before it is too late.
I'll answer for my wife who is not capable of doing so any longer. Married when we were 19 and 17, that was 51 years ago. She now has Alzheimer's and me being her primary caregiver can assure you all that this task is the ultimate test of friendship.
We have a great marriage. We explored every fantasy mentioned in these forums and then some. Many exciting moments/evenings, none were ever a threat to our relationship. Many strengthened it.
We both lost our parents shortly after we married and due to those events we adapted a philosophy that life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
If your mate be it husband or wife wants to try something go for it, it's not going to be the end of the world if you truly love one another and if you don't trust and love your mate and want to indulge whatever makes him/her happy, what are you doing wasting time in this relationship?
This is your life and its ending one moment at a time
My husband is my best friend. We are very close. We talk all the time call each other, and try to help each other, be supportive. We do have a significant age difference, but when we met and started just being social as friends, we found we had so much in common. We had a great connection. There have been challenges, he has been having some rather serious health issues, not age related-could happen to anyone!-that are difficult to face. These have lead to a sexual life that I am not fully satisfied with. But we continue to keep our friendship there. So we normally can deal with this. I cannot imagine living with someone who is not my friend!
My husband is my best friend. We talk and laugh all the time. We tell each other everything first. We call or email each other throughout our work day.
In my first marriage, we were not best friends. We were hardly friends at all. We loved each other, but we didn't even know each other - and that was after nearly two decades of marriage. I swore I would never live like that again.
My husband is my best friend. I think I am one of his best friends. He has several male friends that he's very close to, whom he's known far longer than he's known me. But if I were to ask him, he would say "you're my best friend." I just think I know better. And no, this does not bother me at all.
I have drifted apart from some of my closest friends - who, before I met my husband, were my "best" friends - since moving to my husband's country.
Just because my husband is the closest person to me, I don't consider him my best friend. That title would go to someone I crave to be around. Someone I am completely myself around and have all the fun in the world with. That does not describe how I feel about my husband. He is a caring, good man, but my best friend? No.
This makes me worried since we've only been married not even 3 months and I don't have a deep desire to be with him. Sometimes I feel like I spend time with him because he's my only option. I think back on other guys I knew in high school or college and I can say that I loved spending time with them and I wanted to spend time with them because we were such great friends.
my hubby is mine yes... but i have a couple of best friends... i dont have a whole lot of friends... well i do but when i got married and matured i kind of let some of them drift off.... but i still keep in touch with the friends i dont wanna live without... my best friends.... but yes... my husband deffinately takes the cake.... but we were also very close best friends before we got together.... so it helps that he was my best friend first... but i think it is important for your husband to be your friend.... i think its very important... but thats just me....