When I met my then boyfriend/now husband at age 15, my relationship with my BEST BEST BEST girlfriend (we were like sisters, the one I never had, the one she lost at birth- her words ) ....was starting to take a turn.... she was slowly moving towards newer & more exciting friends (I think I was too moral and she was getting her wings to be more intimate with the guys, FUN, staying out all night, smoking, a little drinking etc) ....and I was really down about these things-that she was moving on. I was never the type to go along with any crowd, I didn't care for the crowd she was leaning too, so I stayed who I was but a little too uptight for them. I did hang with them for a time though. But it did hurt deeply -for me, as I felt we would forever be "BEST" friends, remain a constant in each othes lives, grow old together. Of coarse we never lost touch, she was still my chosen for Maid of Honor in my Wedding, a friend on FB today living states apart.
Once I met HIM, well, it suddenly became clear I had a NEW Best friend and he was alot more fun in alot more ways! HE eased that jealous girlfriend best friends loss I was feeling.
Never since meeting HIM has any female friend been able to superceed that term "BEST" in my life. He is my BEST friend, has been since the year we met. For our wedding invitations, I purposely looked for something to focus on the "friendship" aspect of our relationship, when I found this , the search was over:
It would be foreign for me to imagine how a friend outside of a marraige could be "closer". Not saying it is wrong, just that it is so much a PART of MY personal experience, I can not imagine it another way.
My husband has never had a friend as close as ME. I would consider my love for that dear Girlfriend before him very very entagled though, she was a "BEST" as he is a "BEST". And of coarse I have other very close friends, we talk about it ALL , but they will never be "Best" in my eyes , I don't think they are bothered by that.