Do you think it helped that you guys met when you were in your teens that he instantly became your closest friend while your female besties were out being typical teenagers?
I met husband as an adult...after going through childhood and the teenage years and even a little bit of my adult years with my female besties. They were there for me through the toughest parts of my life while he's like, a new addition, you know? I do feel that as time passes and we go through many more things together and I drift apart from my childhood friends that he will be bumped up to being the best friend I've ever had.
I am sure what you say here did play a huge role for me. Meeting him so young. Whomever I was with.....that young girlfriend during that time, her Mom, her siblings were there for ME when My mom Left me - and I had to deal with a nasty step MOM (some of my tough times). That family was MY comfort for a good 5 years of my life -till I moved on with my boyfriend, he became more of my comfort. All makes sense right !
I was really bent out of shape over loosing that much closeness with that particular friend, but I came to realize certain people are sometimes only in our lives FOR A SEASON, and this is OK. We needed to move on. We had very different lives, she went on to College, I never did. etc.
My question would be this: When something really GOOD happens to you, or devestating, WHO do you think
to call first, or if something , just a little exciting happens, just something to put a smile on your face & you want to share it -- who will you pick up the phone and call ? If your answer is always the husband, then he is your Best.
If it is more your
girlfriends or your Mom or whatever , then he is on par with them or a little lower. Maybe he is not as good of a listener
-even, not as receptive
as your girfriends would be, not as agreeable. ?? ANy of that going on.
Then many have thier guy friends who they need to hang with a few times a week in the garage, shooting the male breeze talk & want that time alone (my dad was like this with his buddies- but still held my step Mom as a closer friend ).
If a man is not that easy to talk too or seems to want more distance than the wife, I can see if she has what feels like "closer emotional bonds/connections". BUt still our spouse should be on par with these connections or above.
Wouldn't we all desire that ?