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Old 09-25-2011, 12:47 PM   #61 (permalink)
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Some women prefer older men because of stability & maturity, some women prefer men their age because they tend to have more of the same interests, & some women prefer younger men because it gives them a sense of freedom & youth...

You just have to find the right woman for you though.

You are wanting to date a single mother so you can be a "Dad"... do you have children of your own? If not then I understand your need to parent, it's only natural but you certainly need to be careful & watch your wallet because you might get taken advantage of. NOT SAYING all women or single mothers are like this BUT there are a certain few who will take you as an easy ride & jump on. You seem to focus on the single mother group & maybe this is your mistake... You are excluding many women that may be better suited for you. Also understand, children of single mothers already have fathers, you may not be well accepted by their children either...
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Old 09-25-2011, 04:20 PM   #62 (permalink)
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How many men do you think actually meet younger women on these sites? The competition must be fierce, each young woman must get 100s of responses. I'll bet if you are not wealthy and willing to spend lavishly, you will not make the cut. It is flattering to think that there are young women actually looking for older men but I think there are very few compared to the number of older men looking for younger women.

. My social group includes some young single women and none of them, except the two I mentioned, date older man. The number of older men hitting on them is a running joke. if they wanted they could have their pick of any one of them but it would be a backup plan. Most think being in such a relationship makes them look as if they cant get a man their own age.

There is nothing wrong with older men but they cannot offer what a younger man can at their stage in life. Missing out on a relationship with a young man is a mistake in my view. It is one of life experiences that make it possible to love a man as he ages.

The two women I knew did not bring their older bf around friends because of the WTF is she doing with him factor. It may be common for movie stars but not in real life. The women who do it, select rich guys who pay their car note, rent, and give them a credit card.

If they did not provide these things I doubt that there would be a relationship. The two women I knew were disappointed at how insecure the men were after winning their prize. That made them less attractive in the relationship because they were not as confident as outward appearences would indicate.

Sex was also a problem for both. I think the insecurity effected their performance. They ended up wanting younger men and swore off older guys no matter what resources they dangled.
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How much older are you talking about? 20 years or something?

10 years makes no difference as long the person is past their party years!! Imo you start pushing more than that especially getting closer to 15-20 years then some "issues" arise.
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Old 09-25-2011, 04:35 PM   #63 (permalink)
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For me personally, anything over 10 years is TOO much , whether younger or Older - when I did my posts I was referring more to the 15 - 20 yr marks.
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Old 09-26-2011, 06:44 AM   #64 (permalink)
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They say you can't find what you believe isn't there.

This being said... A LOT of women like older men. A lot... But at a certain point they turn around and want younger men. Mid life crisis, they're getting too old to be old... I don't know. I'm only 20. I can't give reasoning.

However there are a lot. I like older men. Age is just a number and if I'm attracted to him that's it. I've been with people 30 years my senior and I always find a deeper connection with them.

Just don't give up hope and stay positive.
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Old 09-26-2011, 10:09 AM   #65 (permalink)
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This thread title is funny to me. Look around. So many women do like older men, just as older men like younger woman. It's not exactly a new concept.
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Old 09-26-2011, 10:53 PM   #66 (permalink)
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That's interesting, and I'm not at all doubting you, but my brother, divorced, said that on many of the dating sites, men try to claim that they are looking for younger women because middle aged women are so sedentary. I said, "Look around. Everybody is." I suspect that it is some sort of internal rationalization some men go through to justify an interest in women who are young enough to be their daughter.
I was in my late 20's and 30's so these guys were respectively late 30's and late 40's.... and neither of them would even come walk the dogs with me!

When I dated 8 yrs younger, we went hiking every weekend and did hiking vacations.

Current SO is close to my age and professes willingness to go walking with me, but has been telling me for the past 3 yrs that he needs to buy the "right" shoes first.

I hear the same thing from my girlfriends. Some of them are running marathons; none of the hubbies are. We're all doing physical activities with one another while our menfolk stay home on the couch.
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Old 09-27-2011, 09:13 AM   #67 (permalink)
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I am the couch potato in our marriage. My husband was a marathon runner before we met and he still runs for nearly two hours 3-5 times a week. Strangely, he still gained weight and a married belly over our first year.

I will be 30 next spring and he is pushing 40.
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Old 09-28-2011, 10:38 AM   #68 (permalink)
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I have always had older men in my life, from 23 years older, to current, 7.5 years older...and anywhere in between! As I got older, the age gap narrowed more and more. I'm happy it did, because if I'd stayed with Mr. 23-Years-Older, he would now be approaching senior citizen age...Somehow, I don't know if that would have worked.
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We have the perfect age difference with our hubbies, CandieGirl. Old enough to have the maturity, but not so old that it looks like we are with our fathers in public.
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I love older men! My husband is 16 years older. Overall this has not been much of an issue. There are considerations of course, related to aging, but if you truly love each other your relationship can evolve as you both add on years. I am much more attracted to men in their 40s and up! Not elderly, but experienced, confident, secure, men look great no matter what their age! Most actors and musician I am attracted to are older guys. I do enjoy looking at younger fit men at times, but really am happy wiht my older gentleman.
He is in a high position in his work, dresses well, earns excellent income, treats me very well, is an excellent father to our daughter, always honest and accountable, is liked and respected by everyone. He is very intelligent, speaks well. The way he carries himself really appeals to me. He stays cool in all situations and can handle pretty much anything. He does all this easily, naturally. Not at all ****y or egotistical. Being with him makes me feel special and like I have earned his respect and love. Plus I do like feeling a bit spoiled....But our marriage is not about him spoiling me at all. NOT a sugar daddy situation. We both do enjoy what he provides together. We are close as friends. I have yet to meet a younger man who can carry himself in such manner!
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I love older men! My husband is 16 years older. Overall this has not been much of an issue. There are considerations of course, related to aging, but if you truly love each other your relationship can evolve as you both add on years. I am much more attracted to men in their 40s and up! Not elderly, but experienced, confident, secure, men look great no matter what their age! Most actors and musician I am attracted to are older guys. I do enjoy looking at younger fit men at times, but really am happy wiht my older gentleman.

He is in a high position in his work, dresses well, earns excellent income, treats me very well, is an excellent father to our daughter, always honest and accountable, is liked and respected by everyone. He is very intelligent, speaks well. The way he carries himself really appeals to me. He stays cool in all situations and can handle pretty much anything. He does all this easily, naturally. Not at all ****y or egotistical. Being with him makes me feel special and like I have earned his respect and love. Plus I do like feeling a bit spoiled....But our marriage is not about him spoiling me at all. NOT a sugar daddy situation. We both do enjoy what he provides together. We are close as friends. I have yet to meet a younger man who can carry himself in such manner!
Sounds a lot like my husband! Older guys are great.

I am rather spoiled myself. I only work because I want to and some other women are jealous of how well my husband looks after me.

I used to be friends with a lonely and hateful woman. She was a single mom, with a HIDEOUS babydaddy who left her. She often made nasty comments about how I was a "lady of leisure" and called my husband a "redneck". She makes me laugh when she talks smack, because she turns an ugly shade of envious green. Eat your heart out, b****h!
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older men and women are less attractive imo that's juust me an 18 year old guy here.
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older men and women are less attractive imo that's juust me an 18 year old guy here.
And 18 year olds look like little children to me.

There is a great thing about being 18. Your are no longer 17. At 17 you know everything there is to know. At 18 you have a year of experience to begin to recover from that condition. It takes time. The more you learn the less you know. It is cathartic. You learn what real attraction is over time once you actually have a basis for understanding. Being 25 is way way more sexy than being 18 for example.
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Why would an older man want a really younger woman?
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Old 10-01-2011, 03:50 PM   #75 (permalink)
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Conversely, why do most men not want an older woman?

Face it, once either a man or woman is in their 50's they loose lots and lots of value on the dating market/circuit.

Some people are interested but many many in the pool are not.
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