I'm 58 and have been divorced 2 years. My marriage lasted 37 yrs. before imploding. I won't detail the circumstances other than to say that I tried everything I was legally able to in order to get her to save herself, from herself.
Now. Here I am. Single, alone and lonely for the companionship only a woman can provide. I miss being married, (but not to my former wife....make no mistake). All the ladies I know are younger than I and show no interest in dating someone older than they are.
Oh, there are woman closer to and older than my age that show interest but the commitments and obligations to family preclude the flexibility I am wanting from them.
Besides, I would like to be a "dad" again. I feel that a single Mom would make the IDEAL candidate for my love, devotion and attention. What am I not seeing? Is this simply a pipe dream?
Ladies, talk to me.
The more you think like this, the less attractive you will seem.
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Originally Posted by tzsetzse
I'm 58 and have been divorced 2 years. My marriage lasted 37 yrs. before imploding. I won't detail the circumstances other than to say that I tried everything I was legally able to in order to get her to save herself, from herself.
Now. Here I am. Single, alone and lonely for the companionship only a woman can provide. I miss being married, (but not to my former wife....make no mistake). All the ladies I know are younger than I and show no interest in dating someone older than they are.
Oh, there are woman closer to and older than my age that show interest but the commitments and obligations to family preclude the flexibility I am wanting from them.
Besides, I would like to be a "dad" again. I feel that a single Mom would make the IDEAL candidate for my love, devotion and attention. What am I not seeing? Is this simply a pipe dream?
Ladies, talk to me.
Besides, I would like to be a "dad" again. I feel that a single Mom would make the IDEAL candidate for my love, devotion and attention. What am I not seeing? Is this simply a pipe dream?
Ladies, talk to me.
Why at 58 do you want to have more children?
Let's do the math. Even if you find a willing woman of breeding age (realistically younger than 40), it is not likely that you will wed her (presumably) and get her pregnant in the next year. But let's say that you get this all done by the time you are 60 and you two have a baby.
In 20 years you will then be 80 years old. Your entire childrearing years will be in retirement. Your child (only 1?) will have a grandfather for a father. Do you not remember the amount of energy and cash it took to rear children?
Regardless of whatever else is motivating you in finding a woman to love, I believe your wish for children at age 58 is misguided and unfair to any child you may produce.
You can find love, but you have to recognize that just as you bring a lifetime of experiences and family obligations to the table, so will any woman.
Oh, there are woman closer to and older than my age that show interest but the commitments and obligations to family preclude the flexibility I am wanting from them.
What type of flexibility are you wanting? If you mean that you don't want the women to have familial entanglements with exes and kids, well a single mother will have those exact same things.
I think that a lot of times people tend to go for people who have the same values, same interests.
And Conrad is right. Appearing to be too needy will not be attractive to a woman of any age.
But, a man of any age who is confident, self-assured, a leader, and the master of his own destiny will be attractive to women of any age.
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I don't recall mentioning impregnating ANY women of ANY age.
Your reply is off the cuff, irresponsible and insulting
You wrote that you want to be a dad again. To get angry about my comments indicates to me that you have issues that finding a single mom may not resolve.
And if by being a dad again really means you want to just walk in and be a father to a single mom's kids, have you taken into account that they already have a father?
I don't recall mentioning impregnating ANY women of ANY age.
Trying to interpret those statements and I’m slightly puzzled as well.
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Originally Posted by tzsetzse
Oh, there are woman closer to and older than my age that show interest but the commitments and obligations to family preclude the flexibility I am wanting from them.
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Originally Posted by tzsetzse
I feel that a single Mom would make the IDEAL candidate for my love, devotion and attention.
A single mom would understandably have obligations to her child which will more than likely impede or at the least complicate her ability to be flexible in a newly found relationship.
As far as a woman wanting to be in a relationship with an older man, I’m learning that is a preference which could very well be an unconscious one. My ex-husband was 8 yrs my senior. Even in my pre-marriage years, the guys I would date tended to be older by a few years. Now post-divorce, the greatest age gap between myself and a gentleman I dated was 14yrs. We had a blast together!
I’ve tried to steer myself towards men who are closer to my own age bracket, especially since others are constantly commenting on how I appear much younger for my age. I just can’t seem to stop being drawn to those darn older guys. If they are relatively fit and sporting that salt and pepper hair style, I will usually notice them way before the much younger hot stud all the other women are drooling over.
Oh ….. and incidentally the hair thing is a newer preference. My ex, whom I was attracted to throughout our entire marriage, began using hair clippers with no guard in his early 30’s because he chose not to fight the genetics he inherited. He was sporting the Vin Diesel look before it was even popular. These days the ex is closer to sporting the Jason Statham or maybe even Bruce Willis look. LOL!!!
I find nothing insulting or irresponsible in michzz comments. Actually exhibits quite a rational thought process.
What you get here is brutally honest opinions. Asking a question in here is like eating chicken. You eat the chicken but throw away the bones.
Word. If anything, his comment was HIGHLY responsible.
I think what the OP meant though was not to father children himself at 58, rather met a younger woman with a child of her own that he could help parent.
OP, is that what you are looking for because there are plenty of women that would love and older and probably a well established man to help them raise their child?
Why don't women like older men? 
My ex-husband was 8 yrs my senior. Even in my pre-marriage years, the guys I would date tended to be older by a few years. Now post-divorce, the greatest age gap between myself and a gentleman I dated was 14yrs. We had a blast together!
