I am married and am in my thirties. I have two sons and my husband is 4 years older than me. We have been married ten years. When we were dating things were great and we would go do a lot of activities. I love getting out and doing things. I play on a co-ed sports team and when I am at home I like to laugh and sing and play video games with my boys. I am sort of a gamer girl and I also play a little Warcraft at night. My husband used to join me on these things but after we got married, he stopped being affectionate or spending time with me. He just likes to be with his friends and have a beer and talk. Or be with me and talk. Or be with his family and talk. Talk talk talk. He stopped being active and exercising and started putting on weight. Sometimes I feel like I am 20 at heart and he is 70.
I am no supermodel but I am in good shape and the men on the teams hit on me all the time. I am good at turning them all down but I don't understand why my husband will not be attracted to me like they are. I wish he'd come to my games and claim me and put his arm around me and play with me. I told him all this bothered me and I tried to be super nice and told him we could have tons of sex if i felt more attractive and attracted to him. But he did not exercise with me or anything and would just say to me in bed when I'm asleep "lets have sex" and wake me up. So now I don't want to have sex with him any more. We have not had any real sex for about four years. And he is mad at me because I am not attracted to him but he will not do anything to fix it. He just likes having me at home so he can go out and talk talk talk. He wanted me to go to a concilor so we did but it's all my fault because I don't have sex with him and the therapist says he is the way he is and is a family guy and I need to be ok with that.
About two years ago I met someone on Warcraft and he was very nice and friendly. I am so used to everyone hitting on me there but he was just friends and we got close. Then I cried and told my husband but my husband just said to go be with him if I got something from him. I do not understand why he did that but I was so lonely so we started playing more and got too close. I feel like I am not being faithful but I have never met him so my husband thinks it is fine unless we have sex and then he wants to know so he can wear a condom if we have sex. I think he is happy that I play so much now because now he doesn't have to think about me any more.
This was all good I guess but something is changing and not having sex is not good enough any more. I am worth more than that. Now I want to meet my friend in the game for real. He does not want to meet me. I have tried for over a year but he keeps saying it is not right, but finally I convinced him to meet me just as a friend. But I am worried that I will want more so I can't meet him. And this seems so wrong and so unfair. I just want someone to want to be with me and not pawn me off to someone else. But I have kids so I can't get a divorce. Everything feels so hopeless and I feel like everything I do just makes it worse. I wish I knew what to do thanks for reading.
I am no supermodel but I am in good shape and the men on the teams hit on me all the time. I am good at turning them all down but I don't understand why my husband will not be attracted to me like they are. I wish he'd come to my games and claim me and put his arm around me and play with me. I told him all this bothered me and I tried to be super nice and told him we could have tons of sex if i felt more attractive and attracted to him. But he did not exercise with me or anything and would just say to me in bed when I'm asleep "lets have sex" and wake me up. So now I don't want to have sex with him any more. We have not had any real sex for about four years. And he is mad at me because I am not attracted to him but he will not do anything to fix it. He just likes having me at home so he can go out and talk talk talk. He wanted me to go to a concilor so we did but it's all my fault because I don't have sex with him and the therapist says he is the way he is and is a family guy and I need to be ok with that.
About two years ago I met someone on Warcraft and he was very nice and friendly. I am so used to everyone hitting on me there but he was just friends and we got close. Then I cried and told my husband but my husband just said to go be with him if I got something from him. I do not understand why he did that but I was so lonely so we started playing more and got too close. I feel like I am not being faithful but I have never met him so my husband thinks it is fine unless we have sex and then he wants to know so he can wear a condom if we have sex. I think he is happy that I play so much now because now he doesn't have to think about me any more.
This was all good I guess but something is changing and not having sex is not good enough any more. I am worth more than that. Now I want to meet my friend in the game for real. He does not want to meet me. I have tried for over a year but he keeps saying it is not right, but finally I convinced him to meet me just as a friend. But I am worried that I will want more so I can't meet him. And this seems so wrong and so unfair. I just want someone to want to be with me and not pawn me off to someone else. But I have kids so I can't get a divorce. Everything feels so hopeless and I feel like everything I do just makes it worse. I wish I knew what to do thanks for reading.