After you check your appearance in the mirror before you leave the house; you don't really ever see yourself.
So, the way you dress is partly to have an effect on other people. Other people are the ones looking at you. When women say, "I dress this way for myself", this is what they mean, whether they realize it or not.
It's nice to have a pretty face or good body; and to wear flattering clothes, make-up, jewelry --- whatever you like, to enhance your appearance. Everyone should invest some time and effort to look their best.
Deliberately soliciting compliments from the opposite sex, when you are married, is entering "slippery slope" territory. Why do you need someone other than your spouse to re-affirm your physical attractiveness? But, at work
, this is not acceptable. Work is work
; not a club or a dating service.
Personal story; I'm a woman. I have 36DD breasts. When I reached a C cup in high school, is when I noticed my chest (not my face) being looked at. Over the years, especially when I started working, the looks/comments began to make me feel uncomfortable. The weirdest was having a co-worker tell me that her husband
thought I had big breasts for the size of my body.
(he saw me once at a social function)
I started dressing differently. And IMMEDIATELY noticed a difference. No-one tries to get a look through two layers of relaxed fitting clothing. Same with skirts and jeans. After getting told that a skirt looked good from behind, or asked to wear my "tight Levi's" more often; I stopped doing that at work.
And it makes a difference. The comments stop.
I don't blame men for being attracted to women's bodies. I can't handle being looked at that way at work
. I want respect.
OP's wife knows when she bends over the guys can see her cleavage. If it bothers her, she can wear high necked opaque blouses. Pretty, attractive and feminine; but just showing less breast.
She does this because she loves that guys look. And she probably loves telling her husband that they look.
OP, if it bothers you - tell your wife. I don't want guys at work treating you like a piece of meat - please dress modestly and business like at work.
Save her sexy, plunging necklines for a romantic night out with you at her side