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post #1 of 107 (permalink) Old 03-11-2016, 02:52 PM Thread Starter
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So my wife works in the financial field. There have been several instances where she has received unwelcomed advances from coworkers or x-cowerkers while attending offsite company parties.

Like many women she is a "toucher" and perhaps men cannot decipher freeindly touching vs. flirting. There have been 4 men over the past year that have not subtly propositioned her. These men all know she is married and still pursue aggressively. I am by no means an angel in the case that I find many women attractive and am guilty of wondering what they may be like to be with sexually, admired their lady parts, face or whatever...OK to be truthful I look at women and admire them and even am aroused by other women, but would never actually make advances. I would only do that if I were totally unhappy.

I should point out that spouses are not involved in these outings but, perhaps men are assuming "hey if she is out without her hubby..."

My questions are;

1-Are there men that are that clueless that they can't diffentiate between "hey you are nice" and "I want to fu$% you.

2-Is it a fishing contest IE if I ask 25 women for no-strings extramarital fling that some will bit?

3-She has a big rack and candidly doesn't disquise them (though she in no way could be accused of dressing ****ty (though some of her outfits can be revealing especially when she bends over). I don't relish her being oogled or hit on but, on the other hand don't expect her to dress like a nun as a result.

4) Could she be unknowingly putting out a vibe. She has come home upset about these advances. Part of me is not sure if she is trying to let me know that she is still attractive to other men (though not sure if I am being strange.

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Men are usually into approaching women when they think they have a good chance. If she is a toucher and has a good body and dresses to show it off-- you have your answer.

Don't put out the bait if you don't want bites.

Yes, there are a lot of jerks out there. You already knew that.
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Re: Are there that many Jack A$$ men

yes, there are.

the sad thing is, that it must work sometimes, or they wouldn't do it!

At work or work events, however, this stuff is harassment at a certain point.
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So my wife works in the financial field. There have been several instances where she has received unwelcomed advances from coworkers or x-cowerkers while attending offsite company parties.

Like many women she is a "toucher" and perhaps men cannot decipher freeindly touching vs. flirting. There have been 4 men over the past year that have not subtly propositioned her. These men all know she is married and still pursue aggressively. I am by no means an angel in the case that I find many women attractive and am guilty of wondering what they may be like to be with sexually, admired their lady parts, face or whatever...OK to be truthful I look at women and admire them and even am aroused by other women, but would never actually make advances. I would only do that if I were totally unhappy.

I should point out that spouses are not involved in these outings but, perhaps men are assuming "hey if she is out without her hubby..."

My questions are;

1-Are there men that are that clueless that they can't diffentiate between "hey you are nice" and "I want to fu$% you.

2-Is it a fishing contest IE if I ask 25 women for no-strings extramarital fling that some will bit?

3-She has a big rack and candidly doesn't disquise them (though she in no way could be accused of dressing ****ty (though some of her outfits can be revealing especially when she bends over). I don't relish her being oogled or hit on but, on the other hand don't expect her to dress like a nun as a result.

4) Could she be unknowingly putting out a vibe. She has come home upset about these advances. Part of me is not sure if she is trying to let me know that she is still attractive to other men (though not sure if I am being strange.
Perhaps these men think as you do and they are totally unhappy...therefore, making advances toward your wife.
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Hey if she is going to flaunt her boobs there will be guys ready to look and figure that she is flirting with them. If she doesn't want to get hit on, she wouldn't be wearing what she's wearing. Truth is, she likes being hit on and all takers can just be written off as *******s and perverts. Perhaps you should re-name your post "Are there really that many married women who willingly flaunt their chest, trying to get hit on?".

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Perhaps these men think as you do and they are totally unhappy...therefore, making advances toward your wife.
This is exactly what stuck out to me about the OP too. He would not do anything like that...unless he was unhappy. Which basically says, under certain circumstances, I too would aggressively pursue a married woman.

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OP, yes they are referred to on the street as Man Wh***s ( I hope this word doesn't get me put in a" time out ")
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Yup but classy women shoot them down before they get started.
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I just got back from an event filled with high-T I banker, investment types. There is a higher than usual percentage of a$$hole in these groups for sure, as the roles select for aggressiveness.

She needs to sharpen her elbows if she wants to run with this crowd. Saying F-off in a firm, friendly way is a good skill to have.

And yes, tell her to be less touchy and cover up so not to be misinterpreted.
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I just got back from an event filled with high-T I banker, investment types. There is a higher than usual percentage of a$$hole in these groups for sure, as the roles select for aggressiveness.

She needs to sharpen her elbows if she wants to run with this crowd. Saying F-off in a firm, friendly way is a good skill to have.

And yes, tell her to be less touchy and cover up so not to be misinterpreted.
Making the occasional appearance when these types are around your wife might go a long way as well.

Nothing puts the chill on their little dycks faster than having to look a husband in the eye.

Been there, done that and have the T-shirt.
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I know men can be sexual beings and by no way am I (a married woman) touchy friendly with a co-worker, or another man other than my husband. They might take that as a sign to take possible action. I don't really blame the man for questioning her stance... To me it's borderline flirting and sorry your wife needs to learn her own boundaries. I've seen women too come at married men. There's many who show little to no respect for others in marriages.

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How come she hasn't learned to shut that shyt down before it starts?

She still touching guys at parties where spouses aren't welcome?

Dumbass idea anyway to have parties and exclude SO's.

Orchestrated and attended by the perpetually divorced.

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I was the only female broker among 50 males. They are many as*hol*s as this is an aggressive environment of win at all cost. Lots of alpha males who believes that they are the greatest and the best. We were taught not to accept no.

When I first started I was fresh meat. I was young, unsophisticated and nave. Everyone thought I was available from my fellow brokers to the customers. I quickly understood that in order for me to survive I had to learned to speak up for myself. I let everyone know that I was there to work. I am not going to date the people I work with nor was I going to drink with anyone.

I became friends with a few of the guys who were respectable and married. I went to company events and had a few sips, say hi and went home. The customers were the worst, from the old to the young. I heard so many sappy stories of how unhappy they were and if only I could join them at the Bull Run for a drink. Yeah right. I told them straight up to go home to their wives and kids, not happening. I love your commission not you buddy. But was fun telling them no.

Your wife needs to keep her hands to herself, put on her professional face and tell them to back off. She might also be trying to gauge your response to see how you react. Is he jealous enough?

After, I got married I never told my H of any of these issues. Why worry him, if I can handle it myself.

Only story I told him was about the guy who invited me for a weekend of alligator hunting. He was old and from Texas. He wanted to introduce me to country living.
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I love your commission not you buddy.
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Yes, there are quite a number of jackass men, and women are often put in the position of having to manage those guy's sexuality because they won't do it themselves. Indeed, the behaviour is typically excused as a "boys being boys" thing.

As a woman, not only do you have to control your own behaviour, you are also responsible for the behaviour of horny dudes who feel entitled to treat women's bodies as objects for their own pleasure.
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