Re: Are there that many Jack A$$ men
I was the only female broker among 50 males. They are many as*hol*s as this is an aggressive environment of win at all cost. Lots of alpha males who believes that they are the greatest and the best. We were taught not to accept no.
When I first started I was fresh meat. I was young, unsophisticated and naïve. Everyone thought I was available from my fellow brokers to the customers. I quickly understood that in order for me to survive I had to learned to speak up for myself. I let everyone know that I was there to work. I am not going to date the people I work with nor was I going to drink with anyone.
I became friends with a few of the guys who were respectable and married. I went to company events and had a few sips, say hi and went home. The customers were the worst, from the old to the young. I heard so many sappy stories of how unhappy they were and if only I could join them at the Bull Run for a drink. Yeah right. I told them straight up to go home to their wives and kids, not happening. I love your commission not you buddy. But was fun telling them no.
Your wife needs to keep her hands to herself, put on her professional face and tell them to back off. She might also be trying to gauge your response to see how you react. Is he jealous enough?
After, I got married I never told my H of any of these issues. Why worry him, if I can handle it myself.
Only story I told him was about the guy who invited me for a weekend of alligator hunting. He was old and from Texas. He wanted to introduce me to country living.