they contribute less finacialy, and thats all the husband has to bargin with.
just like a woman who shuts off sex for whaterevr reason because her precieved needs are not being met. and most time won't even comunicate about it because it would sound very bad.
my needs are not being met so no sex for you. what needs baby ,well if you don't know I'm not telling get old real fast.
I would argue that she saves me money. Do I clip coupons? No. Do I shop for the best deal? No. Do I wait for a sale to get something I want? No again. If I did the shopping there would be alot more expense. So that in my book is contributing financially.
Then pay for childcare on your own. It was $1400 per kid back in CA in 1993. So how exactly are they contributing less?
depends on how much the husband earns.
I know a fair amount of moms who thought staying at home being a mom was going to be their dream job and then when its much more dificult they cry foul. the wives can look for employment and send the kids to daycare if they can't handle being a stay at home mom.
I would argue that she saves me money. Do I clip coupons? No. Do I shop for the best deal? No. Do I wait for a sale to get something I want? No again. If I did the shopping there would be alot more expense. So that in my book is contributing financially.
your missing the point.
women with hold sex and act *****y when they don't get their way and men with hold money.
I tell my sons now if you meet a woman who thinks she is too "good" to use Ebay or go to an occasional Flea market, turn around and walk the other way, chances are you will never make enough to "keep" her or die trying.
Isn't THAT the truth!! I told my sons the same thing. Honestly, only a fool pays retail, regardless if they can afford it. Seriously, how awesome is it to find something at a garage sale that would normally cost $50 and you got for $5 and a little elbow grease to make new?! I love it and my sons do as well and no, they would never be serious about a woman who thought otherwise.
women with hold sex and act *****y when they don't get their way and men with hold money.
That is not true. I do not withhold sex unless I am ill. Being angry with my husband does not change the fact that we are lovers.
My husband does not withhold money from me at all. He loves good meals and good sex and I provide him with both, so it works well for us. Give and take is the idea.
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No sh!t. I read some of the responses and think what decade/century do you live in? There is one guy who repeatedly posts "well you work full time and she is a stay at home mother so you should withhold YOUR money". Nevermind that the poster never mentioned him working full time, having kids, her not working or her being a SAHM. It's like a damn time warp he is in.
He reminds me of my husband's Uncle. On his 5th marriage and pissed off at women. Pigeon holes them in the same group....all of us based on his experience and yeah, women are the issue. Uh, no. What is the common denominator? You.
I associate used furniture and clothing with my old single life. I don't mind a great deal from the flea market, as long as the merchandise has not been pre loved.
Now that I am building a life with my husband, I want everything that we use together to be brand new, just like our married life.
Of course, this doesn't mean that I shop at expensive places. I LOVE factory direct and liquidators, as well as Wal Mart for certain things. Most of my clothing comes from an Iglooland retailer that rarely has items over $30.
No sh!t. I read some of the responses and think what decade/century do you live in? There is one guy who repeatedly posts "well you work full time and she is a stay at home mother so you should withhold YOUR money". Nevermind that the poster never mentioned him working full time, having kids, her not working or her being a SAHM. It's like a damn time warp he is in.
He reminds me of my husband's Uncle. On his 5th marriage and pissed off at women. Pigeon holes them in the same group....all of us based on his experience and yeah, women are the issue. Uh, no. What is the common denominator? You.
By the way, what does "finacialy" and "bargin" mean?
Chillymorn is making up his own language.
Isn't THAT the truth!! I told my sons the same thing. Honestly, only a fool pays retail, regardless if they can afford it. Seriously, how awesome is it to find something at a garage sale that would normally cost $50 and you got for $5 and a little elbow grease to make new?! I love it and my sons do as well and no, they would never be serious about a woman who thought otherwise.
There you go, you are a thrifty woman, that is worth GOLD. Really, it is sooo important, no matter what we make, nothing is written in stone, it could all crash tomorrow, sh* happens ya know. Knowing how to live on LITTLE is a gift your children will carry all of thier lives, it might even save their marraiges.
Then I think .... I am THANKFUL for all those who aren't thrifty too -cause they enable me the opporunity to go buy thier used cars, and discarded near new clothes, for less than half what they paid . I tend to brag on these things. I was once told by a Professional man I worked for... he noticed when I got compliments, I would lay into how cheap I picked something up , and he outright told me to let them think I paid full price, that I was "demeaning myself". I probably was, but dagone it, I was still proud I picked up a deal ! He wasn't gonna take that away from me- but I listened to him and shut my mouth.
SAHM who whine about being a SAHM, or who find themselves unfulfilled, or unappreciated.... are ones who have self-esteem problems, IMO. Other people shouldn't have to provide you with anything... money, praise, whatever. It's pleasent when they do, but not mandatory. Of course it's good to feel appreciated, but if you are doing this "for the children" (...and who else would it be for?) ...then face it, they aren't REALLY going to appreciate it til they have their own kids. 3 of mine who have children have already profusely thanked me, and apologized for being a PITA!!
Whatever you do in life, you have GOT to be ok with yourself. You have got to know that you are doing what is right for you at this time.... even if you don't especially like it. You've got to know that things change, and you've got to be willing and able to do whatever you need to do.... work or stay home.... or both.... BOTH partners need to give 100%... there is no such thing as 50/50.
If you are confident in yourself, and in your decisions, and smart enough to know that you can always change your mind and take a different route..... then life will be good, and it won't matter what anyone says or thinks.
chillymorn, not all women do that. I certainly have never done that. You can be sure if I'm not having sex it's because I don't want to for a reason but never because I'm trying to bargain.
BrightEyes & SimplyA, I am soooo thrifty but it's something my husband and I enjoy actually. We do yard sales every Saturday morning together for the past couple of weeks and I enjoy it. We get coffee, breakfast and then take $20 cash and see if we can find any bargains.
This past Saturday morning I got a toaster, an Ann Taylor purse, a tablecloth I loooove, a motorcycle jacket for my husband, three pairs of jeans and two sweatshirts for my 11 year old (from the GAP), a cameo necklace for my daughter and two flying airplanes for my boys for a total of $13! Then twice a year we hold a benefit yard sale and donate all the funds we make to a charity that we pick as a family.
Then twice a year we hold a benefit yard sale and donate all the funds we make to a charity that we pick as a family.
See, now there is something I bet YOU have a hard time with, Because I know your husband works REALLY hard, too hard for what you all have, but by no means would you consider yourselves "rich" in the sense society would (but consider yourselves blessed) , but you always take the time & the effort to give something to charity- to help others, even volunteering for such causes. I bet it bugs you when the rest of us may be a little lax--in this area, cause you figure..."I can do this.....why can't you?".
I think all of us "speak out of that" to some degree. (I know I do when I hear smaller families who make $100,000 more than us complaining they can't afford to live).
You have me well beat Trenton, I am not a big giver to charities. I do give to my Church to some degree (never this 10% thing or I would likely starve my children), to help a friend in need.... beyond that I pretty near SUCK. I could probably do a little more.
All of us can "SAVE" in so many ways in our marraiges -just look at some of your examples. ....except HEALTH CARE & Lawyers.... if you have LOUSY health insurance (I feel bad for the self employeed what they are required to pay is unbelievable) or if you have pre-existing health issues and can't get insurance - and God forbid you get sick, one trip to the Hospital, that might cost the price of your house!! And the cost of some of these perscriptions!!! Or you find yourself facing a court battle & paying these atrocious Lawyer's fees. I can't even imagine!! Having Good Health insurance, I have always felt, is like making thousands more, cause it saves you from catastrophic financial ruin.
For anybody in those situations, my heart goes out to them.
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I do not withhold sex unless I am ill. Being angry with my husband does not change the fact that we are lovers. 
Most of my clothing comes from an Iglooland retailer that rarely has items over $30.
