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Old 10-03-2011, 07:05 AM   #76 (permalink)
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My wife was a SAHM when the kids were younger. We looked at her job as the most important of the two. It was an investment in the kid's future. Now that she has returned to part time work, her energy is lower, but she loves to cook. She is an incredible cook, preparing gourmet meals based on taste alone. She says that I'm a high energy machine, so when I do floors, they get done!! Even molding and trim. Carry brushes in my pockets and I go after it. Since we have tapered edged wood floors, which I installed, you sometimes have to clean the little cracks with brushes. So I do floors, bathrooms and dusting in just a fraction of the time she can. I love washing dishes, so she leaves these for me. I never even use the dishwasher when she's out of town. She will not let me near the laundry because I'm an engineer ... and color blind. Doggone thing says it holds 6.3 cu ft, so I bet the 3 sigma curve was based on generous standards, and I put in 7.2 cu ft, even if I need a broom handle to get it in (just kidding!). Our partnership works for us.
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Old 10-03-2011, 07:23 AM   #77 (permalink)
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my wife is SAHM. have no clue what she does all day when the 3 kids are in school, dont care really, and i dont pressure her although i could.
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Old 10-03-2011, 07:51 AM   #78 (permalink)
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glad I could give you a laugh.

do you pick on bald fat guys and laugh in their face!

so I'm not the best speller you new what I ment.
No, I do not pick on those who are kind to me.
You have made some insulting statements about women, so I poked fun at your horrible spelling. Don't dish it if you can't take it.
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Old 10-03-2011, 08:29 AM   #79 (permalink)
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No, I do not pick on those who are kind to me.
You have made some insulting statements about women, so I poked fun at your horrible spelling. Don't dish it if you can't take it.
which insulting statments are you refering to?
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Old 10-03-2011, 09:05 AM   #80 (permalink)
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No, I do not pick on those who are kind to me.
You have made some insulting statements about women, so I poked fun at your horrible spelling. Don't dish it if you can't take it.
your just making a personal attack. I don't I ever personally attacked anyone on this board and If anyone thinks I have its prob because I am not as good at writing my feelings as well as others.

I can take anything you dish out.
that don't mean I will let someone attack me for no reason.or because you can get over my poor spelling and grammer.

because you don't like my veiw point you attacked me presonally.

shows a character flaw at the very least.


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Old 10-03-2011, 11:20 AM   #81 (permalink)
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your missing the point.

women with hold sex and act *****y when they don't get their way
So do men.
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Old 10-03-2011, 11:23 AM   #82 (permalink)
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Our 99cent store has AMAZING produce.
I know, right? I always get my produce there first, and then go to the grocery store for what they don't have, cos theirs is just so darn inexpensive!
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Old 10-03-2011, 02:59 PM   #83 (permalink)
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See, now there is something I bet YOU have a hard time with, Because I know your husband works REALLY hard, too hard for what you all have, but by no means would you consider yourselves "rich" in the sense society would (but consider yourselves blessed) , but you always take the time & the effort to give something to charity- to help others, even volunteering for such causes. I bet it bugs you when the rest of us may be a little lax--in this area, cause you figure..."I can do this.....why can't you?".

I think all of us "speak out of that" to some degree. (I know I do when I hear smaller families who make $100,000 more than us complaining they can't afford to live).

You have me well beat Trenton, I am not a big giver to charities. I do give to my Church to some degree (never this 10% thing or I would likely starve my children), to help a friend in need.... beyond that I pretty near SUCK. I could probably do a little more.

All of us can "SAVE" in so many ways in our marraiges -just look at some of your examples. ....except HEALTH CARE & Lawyers.... if you have LOUSY health insurance (I feel bad for the self employeed what they are required to pay is unbelievable) or if you have pre-existing health issues and can't get insurance - and God forbid you get sick, one trip to the Hospital, that might cost the price of your house!! And the cost of some of these perscriptions!!! Or you find yourself facing a court battle & paying these atrocious Lawyer's fees. I can't even imagine!! Having Good Health insurance, I have always felt, is like making thousands more, cause it saves you from catastrophic financial ruin.

For anybody in those situations, my heart goes out to them.
Not really, SA, I understand everyone is not like me and they will have their own passions & goals. It's just that I see such a huge need and can't personally look away. There is so much to get done and if we all stepped up it would get done. The world would be a better place.

Don't think I undervalue your work as a Mom though or men's roles as fathers either. Raising wonderful, adjusted and compassionate kids is really an accomplishment in and of itself and it does make the world a better place.
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Old 10-03-2011, 03:32 PM   #84 (permalink)
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your just making a personal attack. I don't I ever personally attacked anyone on this board and If anyone thinks I have its prob because I am not as good at writing my feelings as well as others. You said that women withhold sex when they don't get their way. That is a nasty jab at women in general.

I can take anything you dish out.
that don't mean I will let someone attack me for no reason.or because you can get over my poor spelling and grammer. I do not attack others for no reason. See above.

because you don't like my veiw point you attacked me presonally. What on earth does that mean??

shows a character flaw at the very least.
Yeah, like painting all women as vindictive does not show any flaws.


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Old 10-03-2011, 04:50 PM   #85 (permalink)
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a personal attack is when you attack someone personaly


ie. their race,hair or spelling just to name a few.


I made a general comment about a group of people and YOU attacked me personaly.
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Old 10-03-2011, 04:57 PM   #86 (permalink)
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Since I am a member of that group, your comment was attacking and offensive. Make sense? Der!

I am so done with this argument. Next time, do not make nasty generalizations unless you can handle the reaction.
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Old 10-03-2011, 05:01 PM   #87 (permalink)
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Oh goodness..... between Chillymorn & 1st year..... He KNOWS not all women are like that, cause he reads all this stuff written by some of us Nymphos on here. He is just speaking out of his own experience---as so many of us do. I do it too sometimes, I have to re-adjust my thinking, I appear to have more of a slant towards men in general and sympathize less with women many times, probably because I am more difficult than my own husband. I know this is why I do this ...and more women (family members & friends) have hurt me in my life over men . But I have to remind myself ......this is NOT everyone else's experience by a long shot.

Trying to calm the waters here....... just lightly correct when one gets a little carried away "in a moment" -- we ALL do this from time to time, the keyboard gets the best of us. Maybe his wife just gave some attitude moments before that original post that started all of this & he was in a fowl mood when it was written, It happens. Then another feels attacked- we defend & attack, he defends & attacks = snowballing.

One thing I know is this...Chillymorn & FirstYearDown agree a hell of alot on this same issue - regardless of this little scuffle you got into here.

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I love washing dishes, so she leaves these for me. I never even use the dishwasher when she's out of town.
A guy who LOVES doing the dishes, you don't hear this much, or women for that matter. We never had a dishwasher, I never wanted one & we have 8 people. On some weekends, add another couple teens. I don't mind doing them though. I do, however, hate how they leave dishes all over the house though, then I have to crack the whip to get them brought where they belong.
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Old 10-03-2011, 05:03 PM   #88 (permalink)
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Not really, SA, I understand everyone is not like me and they will have their own passions & goals. It's just that I see such a huge need and can't personally look away.
I'll admit I WANT to look away when I see those commercials on tv where animals are abused -with that TEAR JERKING "in the arms of an angel" playing or starving children in Africa, kids eating off of a garbage dump, or kids in the Cancer wing at St Judes Hospital. I can hardly stand looking at that. I want to shut it off, turn the channel. You simply can't help every cause. I guess we all have a heart for something- or should outside of ourselves & our little families.

I could never work in a school cafeteria seeing all of that food so easily thrown away, it would bother the crap out of me. Not that we can MAKE these kids eat. I just despise waste. That is not allowed at my house. If they don't finish something, they will get it the next day. That is like a grave sin , I want my kids to know others around the world do NOT have this luxery. We have no idea how blessed & abundant things are here-in comparison.

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Don't think I undervalue your work as a Mom though or men's roles as fathers either. Raising wonderful, adjusted and compassionate kids is really an accomplishment in and of itself and it does make the world a better place.
I never thought that of any of your words. I also feel strongly about that RAISING as you stated here, I heard this saying once somewhere, loved it so much, I designed my own large picture frame with 7 dangling hearts underneath writing this saying out- with me giving my kids a horsey back ride, all big smiles on our faces...

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One hundred years from now
It will not matter
What kind of house I lived in,
How much money I had
nor what my clothes looked like
But the world may be ...
a little better because...
I was important in the life of a child
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Love that quote!
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Old 10-04-2011, 12:09 PM   #90 (permalink)
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Love that quote!
Same here. That really sums it up.

I do all the shopping, almost all the dishes, more than half the cooking and most of the heavy cleaning. And I work a full time job.

It doesn't matter what the reason, my wife just isn't going to do it. So I do it and I love doing it because I'm able and it's right. I can't think of a better person to have around for the kids than their mom so she's in, no question. And she looks good laying naked across my bed. We fight and holler all the time about a million different things but not about housework.
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