I appreciate Men.
In my lifetime, pretty nearing from toddlerhood, to my parents, to relatives , to even my friendships today, if I had to compare ....MEN have been kinder to me over women in my life -by a long shot. I have never cared for the pettiness of women, the backbiting, even I seem to offend them , men are more gracious, more forgiving, more understanding. It has always been MY experience. So I speak out of it- I guess.
Even as a toddler, I consider my bestest friend to have been a neighborhood boy -I just liked him better -he was more fun, I didn't want to play with dolls. He taught me how to ride my bike, we climbed trees together, and buried my mom's jewelry, Then he moved away, little girl me missed him very much.
I am sure it helps I have never let a man use me, abuse me in romantic relationships, I always put the brake on. I married correctly, and I hold firm boundaries with the men in my life. Living in a house full of testosterone, reading endless books on boys, men, I understand them well, and love & appreciate many of their ways. Even if they are more mysterious, even back offish in comparison to women.
My answers here are more a reflection on the Old Fashioned type man.... the Good, responsible ones....who want to PROVIDE, live to PROTECT, live to give pleasure, caring more about the woman's sometimes more than his own- how beautiful is that, if you have one like this. I love their sacrifice in war, bravery unto death. I would NOT be so brave.
I look to men as a comfort, the physcially stronger to Sheild us, how on the Titanic, women went 1st in those row boats. This is a Good man's belief system towards us women, the weaker physically. Though men are weaken in the Sexual sense and we need to PROVIDE here willingly to show our respect & love for them --our role as women.
I LOVE how they will readily help a woman in near anything, if they see her stranded beside the road, open a door for her, pick up her books, Gentlemen ROCK!
I love a sensitive man , but strong minded at the same time. Stable, not seeking to impress but just BE. A quiet confidence is so attractive TO ME. A loud obknoxious drunk would be VILE, or a Bragging athlete to how many women he can get in bed.
I love how FUNNY men are- when they are just being themselves, not even trying to make us laugh- women can not compare. When I was in 2nd grade, the teachers had to literally put me outside of the classroom cause I could not stop laughing at these 2 boys, I was disrupting the whole class. Been laughing ever since.
I love how men are assertive, they tell it like it is, no Bullshi**, I always find it rather amusing how women can never handle their honesty -- but I see it as a HUGE plus. I love how laid back they are in comparison to women, not so worried about "Proper etiquette", I alwyas find it amusing how they don't care how dishelved they look, how dirty they smell, sometimes like Dogs, --how they almost NEED a woman to straighten them out, how if they live alone, their fridge is empty, no decorations on the wall, clearly they need a woman's touch. We can do so much for them! They are almost lost without us!
I love how they genuinelly want to FIX things, I like this, but where they go wrong is not listening to their women's feelings
before they do all this FIXING. Women are generallly a little better listeners. Comforters even. Some things I don't like
...thier LUST for sports, some of them are near insane when they get around some football fans. Their LUST for computer Games , I don't get it, games bore me to tears.
How they can not stop and ask for directions when they are clearly in a pickle, I find this very silly - as a woman.
Men who need inordinate amounts of time in thier Cave, lots of personal space, I know how NORMAL this is for the majority of men, but it's not a trait I particularly care for . My husband is different for some reason - I love that he escaped this need.
I wouldn't want the Work a holics male-where thier family, homelife is clearly behind the ladder of worldly success -feeling this is thier contribution-what more do you want attitude- to thier lonely wives. I'd rather live mediorce , struggle a little and be romantically entangled , I prefer a more needy emotional man -if that makes sense. NOt one so independent, he could happily live without me.
I appreciate the sexual side of Men. The way God designed them. It doesn't bother me personally that men are visual creatures, even my own husband. How boring it would be to take this DRIVE from man. It would emasculate them somehow. To those who choose to respectfully & responsibly restrain, sure he LOOKS, but he would never touch, USE -controls his lusts and is only devoted hopelessly to one woman, these are the finest of men. God help women to understand them.
For those who struggle to keep it in thier pants, going crazy wanting "variety", this is not a good thing at all - this is infact a curse. ONe of the bigger problems men struggle with. Not one of their better traits . Though too high of Test is at the root.
..... A man who keeps himself from addictions by right living....where character is more important that the world's riches or climbing ladders of worldly success.... can love ONE woman passionately for his entire lifetime.....who finds his destiny in Providing & protecting his family.... where his children will look up to him with admiration on how he raised them, being that manly example...... his wife feeling he IS the "wing beneath her wings".... now there is a REAL man, the type I admire... I count my husband one of these.