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Old 10-08-2011, 09:42 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Stealing from a thread that has been VERY popular in the Men's clubhouse:

I've heard it said that Women think that Men are sexist, egotistical and stubborn, and that we have little power over anything, including oursleves!

What do Women really think of Men? I'm curious to hear the good, the bad and the ugly.
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This will greatly depend on the self-esteem level of the woman responding.

If you are a strong woman, independent, and "pro women's lib"...
Men are not as strong as women.
They are predicatable.
They are totally "lost" in the new age of not knowing where they belong in a relationship.

If you are a bit old fashioned...
Men are everything you said. Because that's what they "show" to the world. Ego first.
Truly, They are still totally lost in the new age of not knowing where they belong in a relationship.
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I think men are more capable than society lets them be.

I think men are in a constant struggle between being human and feeling emotions, and being a "man" and shutting all emotions out. This leads to frustration and sometimes anger.

I think men want to be loved, but don't know how to just come out and say it--- in fear of looking like a pu$$y.

I think society gives boys (who grow up to be men) mixed signals on how to be a man. Finding the balance is hard, I believe. Can't be too sensitive, can't be too macho, and if you are, there's a stigma for that too.

I think men have grown up in a world that expects them to behave like women (girls). In school, in social settings, etc...and this leads into the betaman syndrome. Boys are not girls. Learn the difference and you'll raise a wonderful man.

I think men are confused as to what women want. I think this comes in part because women are confused to what they want. Our society has stripped us from our traditional roles (roles that worked well) and made everyone somewhat gender-neutral. No one really knowing WHAT type of man or woman they are which leads to unhappy unions between the sexes.

I think men express their feelings through actions rather than words.

I think men need to feel needed and valued. They like to fix things and need to feel wanted.

I think my husband's body is probably the sexiest thing I've ever seen. If there was ever a perfect body, his is it....and funny thing, he's not perfect by the media's standards.

I think men want to be with one woman...a GOOD WOMAN...for the rest of their lives, but are told they should want more. More sex, more women, more more more.

I think I am making these assumptions based on the men I've known. I know not all men are equal or the same. I actually prefer to hang out with men. I've always been like that. They settle issues better, they rarely hold grudges, and they don't have to talk all the time-- especially about things I don't care about (makeup, movies, etc...) I am very happy that my new boss is a man. Less drama in the office.

I do love men, though. I've known some awesome men in my life....family members, friends' dads, my friends. My husband takes the cake though. He's the perfect balance of sensitivity and machismo. Sexy and strong.
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Stealing from a thread that has been VERY popular in the Men's clubhouse:

I've heard it said that Women think that Men are sexist, egotistical and stubborn, and that we have little power over anything, including oursleves!

What do Women really think of Men? I'm curious to hear the good, the bad and the ugly.
I think that SOME men are as you described but those are not men I care to have in my life.
Of the men I know, they are loving, protective, caring, emotional, intelligent, funny and problem solvers. They want to know that what they do (in all senses) matters. They want to be admired and respected. They want to feel loved. They want a safe place to land. They want to be good fathers and role models.
I do not, nor will I ever think a man has little power over anything. If that is the case, then it is by his choosing....victimhood. That goes for both sexes though.
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I think that SOME men are as you described but those are not men I care to have in my life.
Of the men I know, they are loving, protective, caring, emotional, intelligent, funny and problem solvers. They want to know that what they do (in all senses) matters. They want to be admired and respected. They want to feel loved. They want a safe place to land. They want to be good fathers and role models.
I do not, nor will I ever think a man has little power over anything. If that is the case, then it is by his choosing....victimhood. That goes for both sexes though.
I started to keep it exactly the same as the post in the Men's Room and say that I've heard women are in "awe" of men!!! Of course, I've never heard that, but I have heard comments similar to what I wrote above.
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I am in awe of men.

lol.

Mostly when my husband has friends over to work on the cars...and they'll be out there for HOURS and no words will be spoken.

O_o

Then they'll hang out with beers and say one or two words--- then laugh. Then silence.

When the guys leave, I hear, "Great night, man...gotta do it again soon..."

LOLLLL It's awe inspiring.
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I started to keep it exactly the same as the post in the Men's Room and say that I've heard women are in "awe" of men!!! Of course, I've never heard that, but I have heard comments similar to what I wrote above.
Ah but it isn't the same. This thread is going in a vastly different way....focusing on the positives of men. The other thread focused on porn stars, ball busters and harpies. What's the difference? Well, when a woman is being attacked and lumped together as a singular group, we fight back.
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Ah but it isn't the same. This thread is going in a vastly different way....focusing on the positives of men. The other thread focused on porn stars, ball busters and harpies. What's the difference? Well, when a woman is being attacked and lumped together as a singular group, we fight back.
I could also point out that women seem to invade the men's clubhouse - while we tend to mind our own business a bit better!!!
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This will greatly depend on the self-esteem level of the woman responding.

If you are a strong woman, independent, and "pro women's lib"...
Men are not as strong as women.
They are predicatable.
They are totally "lost" in the new age of not knowing where they belong in a relationship.

If you are a bit old fashioned...
Men are everything you said. Because that's what they "show" to the world. Ego first.
Truly, They are still totally lost in the new age of not knowing where they belong in a relationship.
I totally disagree. You can be pro womens liberation and see men as your equal. I would argue that feminism has nothing to do with men at all, it has to do with how women see themselves and their opportunities. A woman who views herself as equal does not see a man as lost, not as strong and predictable as this would be a reflection of her. She sees men as her partner, her cohort and her confidant. A worthy man views her the same way.
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I appreciate Men.

In my lifetime, pretty nearing from toddlerhood, to my parents, to relatives , to even my friendships today, if I had to compare ....MEN have been kinder to me over women in my life -by a long shot. I have never cared for the pettiness of women, the backbiting, even I seem to offend them , men are more gracious, more forgiving, more understanding. It has always been MY experience. So I speak out of it- I guess.

Even as a toddler, I consider my bestest friend to have been a neighborhood boy -I just liked him better -he was more fun, I didn't want to play with dolls. He taught me how to ride my bike, we climbed trees together, and buried my mom's jewelry, Then he moved away, little girl me missed him very much.

I am sure it helps I have never let a man use me, abuse me in romantic relationships, I always put the brake on. I married correctly, and I hold firm boundaries with the men in my life. Living in a house full of testosterone, reading endless books on boys, men, I understand them well, and love & appreciate many of their ways. Even if they are more mysterious, even back offish in comparison to women.

My answers here are more a reflection on the Old Fashioned type man.... the Good, responsible ones....who want to PROVIDE, live to PROTECT, live to give pleasure, caring more about the woman's sometimes more than his own- how beautiful is that, if you have one like this. I love their sacrifice in war, bravery unto death. I would NOT be so brave.

I look to men as a comfort, the physcially stronger to Sheild us, how on the Titanic, women went 1st in those row boats. This is a Good man's belief system towards us women, the weaker physically. Though men are weaken in the Sexual sense and we need to PROVIDE here willingly to show our respect & love for them --our role as women.

I LOVE how they will readily help a woman in near anything, if they see her stranded beside the road, open a door for her, pick up her books, Gentlemen ROCK!

I love a sensitive man , but strong minded at the same time. Stable, not seeking to impress but just BE. A quiet confidence is so attractive TO ME. A loud obknoxious drunk would be VILE, or a Bragging athlete to how many women he can get in bed.

I love how FUNNY men are- when they are just being themselves, not even trying to make us laugh- women can not compare. When I was in 2nd grade, the teachers had to literally put me outside of the classroom cause I could not stop laughing at these 2 boys, I was disrupting the whole class. Been laughing ever since.

I love how men are assertive, they tell it like it is, no Bullshi**, I always find it rather amusing how women can never handle their honesty -- but I see it as a HUGE plus. I love how laid back they are in comparison to women, not so worried about "Proper etiquette", I alwyas find it amusing how they don't care how dishelved they look, how dirty they smell, sometimes like Dogs, --how they almost NEED a woman to straighten them out, how if they live alone, their fridge is empty, no decorations on the wall, clearly they need a woman's touch. We can do so much for them! They are almost lost without us!

I love how they genuinelly want to FIX things, I like this, but where they go wrong is not listening to their women's feelings before they do all this FIXING. Women are generallly a little better listeners. Comforters even.

Some things I don't like...thier LUST for sports, some of them are near insane when they get around some football fans. Their LUST for computer Games , I don't get it, games bore me to tears.

How they can not stop and ask for directions when they are clearly in a pickle, I find this very silly - as a woman.

Men who need inordinate amounts of time in thier Cave, lots of personal space, I know how NORMAL this is for the majority of men, but it's not a trait I particularly care for . My husband is different for some reason - I love that he escaped this need.

I wouldn't want the Work a holics male-where thier family, homelife is clearly behind the ladder of worldly success -feeling this is thier contribution-what more do you want attitude- to thier lonely wives. I'd rather live mediorce , struggle a little and be romantically entangled , I prefer a more needy emotional man -if that makes sense. NOt one so independent, he could happily live without me.

I appreciate the sexual side of Men. The way God designed them. It doesn't bother me personally that men are visual creatures, even my own husband. How boring it would be to take this DRIVE from man. It would emasculate them somehow. To those who choose to respectfully & responsibly restrain, sure he LOOKS, but he would never touch, USE -controls his lusts and is only devoted hopelessly to one woman, these are the finest of men. God help women to understand them.

For those who struggle to keep it in thier pants, going crazy wanting "variety", this is not a good thing at all - this is infact a curse. ONe of the bigger problems men struggle with. Not one of their better traits . Though too high of Test is at the root.

..... A man who keeps himself from addictions by right living....where character is more important that the world's riches or climbing ladders of worldly success.... can love ONE woman passionately for his entire lifetime.....who finds his destiny in Providing & protecting his family.... where his children will look up to him with admiration on how he raised them, being that manly example...... his wife feeling he IS the "wing beneath her wings".... now there is a REAL man, the type I admire... I count my husband one of these.

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I could also point out that women seem to invade the men's clubhouse - while we tend to mind our own business a bit better!!!
And you are here because?

We "invade" the men's clubhouse because so much of what is written there is vast generalities about women and it paints women in a very negative light. I like to hang out there because I like to learn more about men. If I wanted to learn more about women, I would call my friends.
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There is nothing sexier than a man who is confident and knows who he is.

There is nothing more disgusting than a man who lies about who he is, to himself and other people.
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There is nothing sexier than a man who is confident and knows who he is.

There is nothing more disgusting than a man who lies about who he is, to himself and other people.
There you go.

For instance referring to yourself as a "nice guy" is pure silliness for precisely that reason. Its purely self flattery which is always a chicken **** phony shame. Deceitful to its core.

My divorced, lonely, boring azz brother in law prides himself a "nice guy" and its total bull****. He is not a nice guy. Hes a fake that pretends to be nice because he thinks that will win him the prizes he desires from life.

I laugh while I puke when I see him in action because he cant figure it out. We dont get along despite my eagerness because I dont have a brother. He acts like a woman. My buddies and I wonder if he's gay.

Nice guy pfft.

I skimmed the free online copy of "No more Mr nice guy" to see if it would help him and found it pretty weak Captain Obvious material. Besides, I wouldnt want to mess up the sideshow that his lying wussy azz provides me pretending to be nice.
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I could also point out that women seem to invade the men's clubhouse - while we tend to mind our own business a bit better!!!
I didn't realize women weren't allowed

This is a chat board, no? If we all minded our business, it wouldn't work very well. lol.
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I wholeheartedly agree. I was gonna make a thread about it sometime actually.

Great idea. Id love to read other perspectives on that nauseating silliness.

There seems to be a fad among guys to refer to themselves as nice guys, when really most of the time they're not. They might be passive,shy, doormats or whatever but that doesn't equate to being a genuine nice guy.

Only wimps with a self esteem crises, engage in self flattery

What makes "nice guys" nicer than any other normal average alright guy?
Self described "nice guys" are not nice. They have hidden anger because they dont get what they think they deserve.

Success with women that dismiss their phony act because women are looking for a source to satisfy primal and compansionship needs of which phony "nice guy" pansies cant meet.
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