Originally Posted by charlene
Yes, make that decision. You have to figure out if you want that adrenaline in your life, cause as i see it he won''t change this about himself.
Can it work out at all? I mean I'll basically be the one who will be supporting him and working while he work just enough to get by or to continue his life style?
I have always wanted a man who I can look at as a life partner. I donít care if he make less than me as long as he is serious about his career and trying to get somewhere in life. Jack isnít like that. Heís the type that would figure out how much he need to make for the week and get it out of the way then it is all play time for him.
I do really envy Jack for being able to do that and thatís what I really like about him. I have had so much fun with him and got to do so many things Iíd have never tried or experienced if it wasnít for him. But when it comes to being a responsible adult, I hate to say this but heís worthless.
On other hand, in my two previous marriages I was married to a career oriented man. I think part of the reason it doesnít work out with either is because we were always so busy that when we were home, neither of us really enjoy being around each other. They would complain about everything, want to be left alone to zone out in front of the tv, doesnít want to exercise (one of them end up obese over years!) and whenever they were off, neither want to do anything besides staying home.
Jack is nothing like that. He never complain about anything, doesnít really care for tv, is quite pleasant to be around and always want to do something even after sleeping for only a few hours, work, going out to have fun on his own before dropping by at evening.
In fact in nearly a year I have knew him, today was first time he told me heís too tired to do anything. That was after being on go for five days with almost no sleep then doing a rescue diving last night.
With all of this, hereís how I picture it if I decide to let him in my life, Iíd basically be pretty much the one who bring the bacon home, pay the bills, and other things. Jack on other hand will just work part time for his own money, be living with me, run off to do whatever he wants to, take care of the house which he is good about, and I know Iíd never have to worry about cooking again ever.
I have never heard of life arranged like that and would feel weird to ask him to help pay with mortgage. The only thing I could see him really helping with contribute financially is paying bills.
Have anyone ever heard of a couple with two very different lifestyles living together over long term successfully?