Re: Re-assurance / Appearing weak
Well, the fun-flirting that I do is more of a habit (I'm a joker too - and I can't stop flirting just the same way I can't stop taking the piss outta everything - even myself or wifey hehe), and I have no need for re-assurance myself, always carrying myself with confidence (a lifetime of people complimenting me has left me a bit "up myself" heh). It's something which is difficult to change, it's just me.
When I do fun-flirt I don't exactly exclude my wife either. The thing is though, reassuring my wife does make me feel like "I'm getting her too relaxed", even when she tells me she loves me I like to tease and tell her "I love me too!" heh - make it a little harder for her. I also encourage her to play the same game back.
However, when I do get lovey dovey I can be very passionate and romantic - like when she gives me a good week and make me fall in love with her all over again each and every night. Still, sometimes I wake up from all the lovey dovey and go "darn, I shouldn't have said all that lovey dovey crap" etc...
I want her to feel secure and confident, but I don't want her to become complacent or lazy - that's the stakes. In recent times she was too lazy to bother turning me on and instead just jumped on me 3x a day like I'm her man-slave for a while - but she's changed since then.
But meh I don't know, I just don't want her to get complacent, that's all, I fear it - and we had a lot of fights over it. Had to remind her that I can still walk if she pushes too far, but at the same time, I have to make her feel secure... bah!