Hi everyone! New here.
SO here goes, My husband has a group of friends he has had since before I knew him. When I started dating him, I was okay with his friends, but just OK. Cause they were pretty mean about girls, making fun of them, gossiped allot about each other, drank and partied EVERY night. Not kidding. I dealt with them, then we got married. I started not being happy when my husband went out with them, since they were going out with girl after girl, drinking it up...you know bachelor stuff. I felt uncomfortable about him hanging with them.
We have been married 6 years now....and everything is the same with his friends. None are married....and they go out...drink...pot....unemployment...etc...
My husband is a manager at a firm, we have a daughter, we are doing well financially. We have small arguments here and there of course, but everytime the topic comes up about him and hanging out with those friends....WE FIGHT. Really FIGHT.
He cant stand that I am judgmental of them. That I dont know them....he defends them to the death. I don't like that his friends make us fight.
What should I do? My husband won't even talk to me right now. It is so bad, that he left tonight. Why do I feel like the bad person in this whole thing? Am I really that horrible for thinking this way? Please tell me whatever you think....not what I want to hear.