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Old 10-28-2011, 12:25 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Having a marriage that lasted 2mos..Who had beat me up to the point I was bleeding...Cheated on me, locked me out my home, found out he was selling drugs, found the drugs in the car, calls me names, disrespects me and is never accountable for his actions..

People like this, is the saying what goes around comes around...I wish he would just go to jail, hes been in prison before...But why does it seem like my husband gets away with everything?? Divorce seems to not affect him (thats how he acts), hes still working and doen god knows what....Is KARMA real?? I feel he should suffer the consequences of being a deceitful scandolous human being
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Old 10-28-2011, 08:00 AM   #2 (permalink)
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If you are asking me if the same things done to you ... will happen to him, then the answer is no. If you ask me if will he ever be truly happy, then my answer will probably be no. I'm a faithful person, people like your soon to be ex husband that do people wrong, they do get theirs in the end. God may not come down and smite him per se, but he could do someothing very little that we all take for granted... take away his inner peace... if he had any to begin with anyway. You ever wonder why a person who is a millionare, has everthing in the world, still attempt to commit suicide??? While poor people fill churches up and sing with a joyfull noise! All about inner peace, he may look find from the outside, but may be tormented on the inside.
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Old 10-28-2011, 08:20 AM   #3 (permalink)
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I do believe in karma..he may end up crossing the wrong person, or his inner demons may be the cause of his demise. I'm not a religious person so I don't believe in heaven and hell..when you're gone, that's it...but he will pay somehow...that's just the way it is.
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Old 10-28-2011, 10:08 AM   #4 (permalink)
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I agree....I do believe in karma, though it may not be in the same way it was dealt to you. And truly in the end.....he will have to stand before God and give an account of all the things "HE" did and that will be justification.
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Old 10-28-2011, 10:28 AM   #5 (permalink)
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I also don't believe in karma but I do believe that you "reap what you sow" as the bible puts it. If you do harm to people, harm will come to you. If you do good to people, good will come to you. That's just the way it works.
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Old 10-28-2011, 10:30 AM   #6 (permalink)
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He'll get his eventually.
The important thing for you to do is to not dwell on revenge. He did bad things to you, understood. Rebuild yourself and be happy. I'll bet a paycheck that he never will.
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Old 10-28-2011, 10:45 AM   #7 (permalink)
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The better question to ask yourself is "Why did I marry someone who was clearly abusive?" Work with a counselor on what is going on with you to allow someone like your abusive X to be a part of your life.

And yes, I do believe what goes around, comes around. Bad people end up getting what's coming to them one way or another, so I never feel the need for vengeance. The Universe keeps count, as they say.
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karma is just another word for consequence. He faces the consequences of his choices all the time, and that means sooner or later he will get his.

More importantly, it is good you got out of it (you have gotten out of it right?) and hopefully soon you will stop caring or wondering what happens to that person from your past.
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karma is just another word for consequence. He faces the consequences of his choices all the time, and that means sooner or later he will get his.

More importantly, it is good you got out of it (you have gotten out of it right?) and hopefully soon you will stop caring or wondering what happens to that person from your past.
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Old 10-28-2011, 11:43 AM   #10 (permalink)
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Don't worry about whether he will "get his or not."

Fact is he beat you and cheated on you and hasn't stopped and is now harrassing you. Focus on you and stay far away from him. See the divorce through.
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Old 10-28-2011, 11:44 AM   #11 (permalink)
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IMO I think his time will come. I don't think it will necessarily be like what someone has done to you, but he will end up having to face some kind of consequences at some point. I agree that karma=consequence.
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Old 10-28-2011, 12:17 PM   #12 (permalink)
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There are no 50 year old drug dealers.

There "retirement plan" always ends in blood.

Take solice in that fact.
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He is responsible for his behavior and he will have to accept the consequences of that behavior. That is absolutely 100% on him, no question about his part. That's the karma for him.

But that said, there is karma for you too ... do not let his issues distract you from your responsibility for picking him in the first place. If you do any reflection from here, it shouldn't be about him, it should be about yourself and your (possible) propensity for picking the loser(s). And how you could do a better job vetting potential boyfriends and husbands in the future. The good guys out there will root for you to do this so that you may have the opportunity to recognize one of us as someone you might want to be with.

Dalrock has an excellent post today on this very topic of responsibility for picking correctly. The post is not without its flaws which are amply pointed out in the comments, but the points made are still worth mulling over if you are open minded enough to accept your responsibility for picking him.
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Old 10-29-2011, 10:22 AM   #14 (permalink)
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I don't believe in karma, but there's no doubt if this guy is selling drugs and beating people up, he's not going to last long. With that lifestyle, he'll either get killed or end up in jail in a few years.
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I also don't believe in karma but I do believe that you "reap what you sow" as the bible puts it. If you do harm to people, harm will come to you. If you do good to people, good will come to you. That's just the way it works.
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Sometimes it takes a long time for the consequences, but they come nevertheless.

Why on earth did you marry someone who has done time? You did not deserve the abuse...but one would think that prison time would be a red flag, no? Did you think that he would change for you?

I know the US has very harsh penalties for drug crimes. Did you call the police when he had drugs around and beat you? Since he has prior charges, this fool will at least go to county jail.
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