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post #16 of 103 (permalink) Old 07-06-2016, 10:57 AM
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Lol, that is such a tacky dress! I know young women want to look like Kardashians these days, but she's really screaming for attention. I'd never say anything to her, though. I keep my mouth shut, too, when my cousins' daughters dress tacky like that and then lament why none of the guys they meet want actual relationships with them. Live and learn, everyone needs to make their own mistakes.


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I saw an article where a fitness instructor, Liz Krueger, was bullied at a wedding over the dress (or should I say miniskirt) she wore. Much of the backlash/bullying came from other women. Here is a quote from the article:

Here is what she wore to the wedding:

IMO, that would be more appropriate for a bachelor party.
As the stripper, that is.

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Social convention. Bah.

Is it illegal? No. Then it's appropriate if you think it is.
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Social convention. Bah.

Is it illegal? No. Then it's appropriate if you think it is.
Of course people are free to wear anything they wish, no matter the dictates of social convention. The flip side of that, though, is that everyone else is also free to make judgements about you based on your unwillingness to conform to those social conventions. Is it okay to be nasty to people? Never. But I also find it a bit disingenuous to clutch your pearls and claim victimhood if people note your non-adherence to social norms, when you've obviously gone out of your way to flout them.

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People should be entitled to wear what they want.

If you want a guest to wear a certain "uniform" at your wedding, put it in writing on the invitation.

I'm tired of seeing women being shamed for what we wear.

If a man turned up to the wedding in jeans & T-shirt I guarantee you, there would be not one article about it.

And no I'm not a feminist at all.
But I'm tired of us ladies being judged all the time on what clothing is appropriate.


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People should be entitled to wear what they want.

If you want a guest to wear a certain "uniform" at your wedding, put it in writing on the invitation.

I'm tired of seeing women being shamed for what we wear.

If a man turned up to the wedding in jeans & T-shirt I guarantee you, there would be not one article about it.

And no I'm not a feminist at all.
But I'm tired of us ladies being judged all the time on what clothing is appropriate.


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There was an article about this because the lady in question went to social media to post about it.

Likewise, listing dos/don'ts for a wedding is unnecessary IMO (unless you want a black tie affair) as there should be some expectation as to common sense or what the norm is.
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If a man turned up to the wedding in jeans & T-shirt I guarantee you, there would be not one article about it.

There was not one article about this woman's dress choice either until she, herself, posted about it on her social media. This level of spectacle about this event is of her own creation.

Like it or not, social conventions do still exist in some places. Not dressing inappropriately at certain venues is one of them. And, yes, if a man had shown up in jeans, he too would have been equally inappropriately dressed.

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People should be entitled to wear what they want.

If you want a guest to wear a certain "uniform" at your wedding, put it in writing on the invitation.

I'm tired of seeing women being shamed for what we wear.

If a man turned up to the wedding in jeans & T-shirt I guarantee you, there would be not one article about it.

And no I'm not a feminist at all.
But I'm tired of us ladies being judged all the time on what clothing is appropriate.


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If she had turned up in t-shirt and jeans, there wouldn't be an article about it, either. The only reason there is an article is because SHE put it out there on her blog or Instagram or whatever to get more attention. Which she is getting, so mission accomplished!

If that hypothetical guy had shown up in spandex speedos and tank top, I suspect he would have gotten some ridicule, and if he needed more clicks and attention for his body-building business, he'd write a blog and there would be an article about him, and every single person would say his attire was not appropriate for a wedding.

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There was an article about this because the lady in question went to social media to post about it.

Likewise, listing dos/don'ts for a wedding is unnecessary IMO (unless you want a black tie affair) as there should be some expectation as to common sense or what the norm is.
It's not a dress that I would wear anywhere, never mind a wedding.
But to judge somebody on what item of clothing they are wearing is wrong in my opinion.
I would get to know someone first, before I judge on whether they are a good or bad person.
Just my opinion.
I judge people via their personality.
Not on looks, clothing, race or age.


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I'm having a hard time seeing this woman in the victim role.

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But I'm tired of us ladies being judged all the time on what clothing is appropriate.
At what point did us having any sort of basic feelings of social decorum mean people were "judged all the time."

Who would honestly wear the pictured outfit to church? I mean, maybe it's because I was raised Catholic but ... no.

Like this concept we can no longer have any sort of basic dress code at school without it being "**** shaming." I'm sorry, but when I was a kid I managed to wear T-shirts and shorts of an appropriate length to school yes with no air-conditioning and somehow survived. My mother never would have come to school to argue about how wearing a visible bra and a tank-top with the armholes down to my hips was a necessity because of the heat.

Are we breeding people these days who are physically incapable of dealing with sweating? Like it's 90 degrees therefore I need to wear the minimum amount of clothing possible regardless of location or occasion? What happened to sun dresses or peasant skirts?

I went to a wedding in Reno in August years ago and I can't even really put into proper words how hot that was. It was like Satan's armpit, and I wore a yellow sundress. Was I "dressed down" for the occasion? Possibly, but that's a better equivalent to the man in a jeans and a T-shirt scenario than this.
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People should be entitled to wear what they want.

If you want a guest to wear a certain "uniform" at your wedding, put it in writing on the invitation.

I'm tired of seeing women being shamed for what we wear.

If a man turned up to the wedding in jeans & T-shirt I guarantee you, there would be not one article about it.

And no I'm not a feminist at all.
But I'm tired of us ladies being judged all the time on what clothing is appropriate.


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My mother kicked out a wedding guest at my sister's wedding because he wore a track suit.
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It's not a dress that I would wear anywhere, never mind a wedding.
But to judge somebody on what item of clothing they are wearing is wrong in my opinion.
I would get to know someone first, before I judge on whether they are a good or bad person.
Just my opinion.
I judge people via their personality.
Not on looks, clothing, race or age.


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I agree, you try not to judge someone, but at the same time there is a reason you hear about first impressions, you have to assume (whether right or wrong) you are being judged when someone first sees you. When I say judged, it doesn't have to be a bad t hing, but we all do it, we look for similarities and differences in each person we see.

I will be honest, I don't find her terribly attractive, so it is not like if she walked into a wedding all I would be thinking about is dirty thoughts. Based on her dress and the event (a wedding) my assumption would naturally be she is seeking attention.

Either way though, I don't believe bullying type behavior is in any way appropriate.
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Lol, that is such a tacky dress! I know young women want to look like Kardashians these days, but she's really screaming for attention. I'd never say anything to her, though. I keep my mouth shut, too, when my cousins' daughters dress tacky like that and then lament why none of the guys they meet want actual relationships with them. Live and learn, everyone needs to make their own mistakes.
yeah, I was thinking she looks like Caitlyn Jenner.
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Are we breeding people these days who are physically incapable of dealing with sweating?
Haha, best question in this thread
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