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People should be entitled to wear what they want.

If you want a guest to wear a certain "uniform" at your wedding, put it in writing on the invitation.

I'm tired of seeing women being shamed for what we wear.

If a man turned up to the wedding in jeans & T-shirt I guarantee you, there would be not one article about it.

And no I'm not a feminist at all.
But I'm tired of us ladies being judged all the time on what clothing is appropriate.


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Likely right, at least from the guys attending. They wouldn't care. Though if he was hot, ripped, and the shirt fit just right, there would be plenty of approval from many of the women attendees.


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I'm tired of seeing women being shamed for what we wear.

If a man turned up to the wedding in jeans & T-shirt I guarantee you, there would be not one article about it.

And no I'm not a feminist at all.
But I'm tired of us ladies being judged all the time on what clothing is appropriate.
The guy would be publicly ridiculed and probably asked to go change or go home.

Women tend to be more passive aggressive about it. They also have a wider range of styles to choose from, so more opportunity for error.

Yes, her dress screams look at me. But I've seen worse. Honestly I think the biggest mistake she made was wearing something that skimpy in a color that too closely matches her skin tone. Go black, or dark blue on that same dress and it wouldn't look near as scandalous.
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But to judge somebody on what item of clothing they are wearing is wrong in my opinion.
I would get to know someone first, before I judge on whether they are a good or bad person.
There's a difference between judging a choice and judging a person.

Just because you make a bad choice doesn't make you a "bad person."

I have friends I love to death who I know are great people, but if one of them had shown up to a wedding I was at in this outfit, I'd have asked them wtf they were thinking.
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It's not a dress that I would wear anywhere, never mind a wedding.
But to judge somebody on what item of clothing they are wearing is wrong in my opinion.
I would get to know someone first, before I judge on whether they are a good or bad person.
Just my opinion.
I judge people via their personality.
Not on looks, clothing, race or age.


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I'm not sure people are judging whether she's a good or bad person. She might be an angel who donates heavily to worthy charities, volunteers at the homeless shelter and is kind to animals and children. What she isn't, however, is dressed appropriately. Nothing to do with judging her moral value or relative worth as a human being. Everything to do with judging her inappropriate dress for the event amd her apparent desire to seek added drama over it via social media. It's possible to be a great person who dressed inappropriately.

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It's possible to be a great person who dressed inappropriately.
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Where did she say that her worth as a person was questioned? I read that there were rude comments, some bizarre ass slapping and a drink spilled on her allegedly on purpose. I'd say that's negative feedback on her choice of apparel.

Sometimes when you go out of your way to get attention, you'll receive it. Negative attention. That's life. As far as I can tell, this was done to her by other women.

If I were at a wedding and she showed up, it wouldn't bother me a bit and I doubt many men would care any more than me. The women folk would no doubt be whipped up about it. If anyone is shaming women for how they dress it's other women.
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Bless it! He's been inappropriately dressed since at least the late '70s.

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There was an article about this because the lady in question went to social media to post about it.



Likewise, listing dos/don'ts for a wedding is unnecessary IMO (unless you want a black tie affair) as there should be some expectation as to common sense or what the norm is.


I'm all for people wearing what you want but you have to take into consideration where you are going. A wedding is an event where everyone should be commenting on the brides dress not a guest.

Wearing that dress was just as inappropriate as a guy wearing jeans and tshirt in my opinion.
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Perhaps the women in the room were intimidated by her overtly expressing her body & were likely jealous because the men in the room were looking at her in a sexual way.

I would consider the dress to be one for a night club, not for a wedding.
Maybe she was flirting with husband & boyfriends?
Maybe she's an attention seeker? Perhaps.

But I'm not going to judge a person on the internet when I wasn't there & didn't witness her behaviour.

This is definitely the Kardashian (or whatever there called) influence.
On one hand you have them wearing these types of dresses during the day, there are praised for great fashion, yet ordinary women are scolded while the famous ones are put on a pedestal via the media.

It's mixed messaging yet again.






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I don't condone bullying.

With that said, how did we get to a place in society where people once dressed up just to go to town, regardless of how poor you were, to wearing pajamas to the grocery and a dress like that to a wedding? I think that dress is inappropriate for a wedding. Why would one wear it unless they want to be the center of attention.

Improper dress occurs in every aspect of society these days. I'll give an example that pokes at my own neck of the woods. I live in the country, and many years ago, most people were poor here, but you could bet they had at least on good shirt, pair of pants, and dress that they wore at events anytime they had a chance because they took pride in the fact that they could look nice and appropriate to the occasion. They could "clean up pretty good" as the saying went.

These days, if there is an occasion that calls for a little dressing up, country boys can't always dress accordingly, because they're just "country boys, right?" Instead of dressing nice for the occasion, they wear overalls, Redwing work boots, and their John Deere cap; and if the clothes look a little worn and the cap has a little field dust on it, that adds to the effect too.

The opinion among some is that people have the right to wear what they want. Well, that is true. Since I am an adult and can wear whatever I want, so, I choose to wear things appropriate to the occasion. Why would one not?


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She's got a gorgeous body. I've always said, if you've got it, flaunt it. However, this dress is nowhere near appropriate to wear to a wedding. Is she that clueless about proper wedding attire? I had read this article before this was posted. She indicated that it was super hot weather so this dress would fit the bill. However, there are plenty of other summer dresses that would have been way more appropriate here. That said, the bullying is shameful.

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Super hot? Lol, the last thing I want to wear when it's super hot is something super tight with spandex. Loose and cotton is what I'd choose.

I also don't really buy the bullying, ass slapping and drink spilling. If those are the kinds of people she runs into at a wedding, she needs to find some new friends and family.

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Super hot? Lol, the last thing I want to wear when it's super hot is something super tight with spandex. Loose and cotton is what I'd choose.

I also don't really buy the bullying, ass slapping and drink spilling. If those are the kinds of people she runs into at a wedding, she needs to find some new friends and family.
The bolded, I am having a hard time believing as well. Would random women really go up to another woman and slap her ass b/c of teh outfit she was wearing
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The bolded, I am having a hard time believing as well. Would random women really go up to another woman and slap her ass b/c of teh outfit she was wearing


Are you kidding? I do it all the time :b
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Yes I'm feeling that this was an excuse to take a picture of herself, write a shameful injustice article and get exposure.


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The bolded is the part that is fascinating to me. There is no doubt that in general women face a ton more scrutiny in society/media over their appearance, yet the harshest critics appear to in many cases come from other women.


Women like to attack men for the "double standard" but is far more often perpetrated at the hands of other women.

When we had our first daughter, I talked to my wife about trying to raise her free of this viewpoint. My wife intellectually agrees but still has a gut reaction to slvt shame other women. Knowing that, she agreed to try and check her reaction around her kids.

We failed in that goal. Not because of us, but because of peer pressure influence. I still try, but both of my older girls will be catty with women who flaunt their sexuality like this.
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