Re: Appropriate Dress To A Wedding And Bullying
I’m not always sure what people mean when they say we shouldn’t “judge” someone based on whatever the case may be; people throw this out all the time. Well, I can’t make a judgement on anyone that will affect anything. I’m not a judge that sits on the bench, and I’m certainly not God. He has never asked me for an opinion about anyone’s character, nor will he ever.
With that said, we all have to make judgements all the time in our everyday life; how else would we function? I can’t tell by looking at this woman if she is a robber, drug dealer, if she’s mean to her kids, if she is cruel to old people, or is just basically an evil person; If people are getting all that from a piece of clothing, maybe that is overboard; however, I can conclude that she doesn’t mind looking like a stripper in public and that she doesn't care about social convention, which is very disrespectful in my opinion. Personally, I wouldn’t want to look like a stripper in public, so I can judge that her thought process is different to mine, which could also indicate other general differences in our personality.
As another poster stated, how we present ourselves is how people perceive us. We all know this. The key there is, "we all know this." I don't always buy that people are as ignorant as they pretend to be.
If I go out in public with a Stetson hat, cowboy boots, a huge belt buckle, jeans, and a western shirt, I wouldn’t think it weird if people looked at me and thought the rodeo must be in town, or that I must be a cowboy from out west. I’m not, but I wouldn’t think it weird if people thought that. At the least, I must be a cowboy wannabe and want attention.
I’ve noticed that people also like to use the weather as an excuse for their attire. “Oh, it was so hot outside today.” The worst case scenario there would be a little discomfort. Personally, I can endure a little discomfort to show respect at someone else’s event.
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