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But to judge somebody on what item of clothing they are wearing is wrong in my opinion.
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How we present ourselves is how people perceive us. We all know this. If a woman appears at a wedding dressed like a stripper/prostitute, people are going to treat her accordingly.

It's not about how she dresses so much as what she is saying about herself by dressing like that to someone else's formal event. By wearing that dress to a wedding, she's saying she doesn't care about social convention. Well, if you don't care about social convention and being a member of polite society, don't cry when polite society calls you on it by snubbing or making comments.

For me, it's not at all about sexuality. It's about thumbing your nose at social convention like a rebellious, attention seeking teenager and being downright rude to your hosts and other guests.

Frankly, I think she's very unattractive. She has nice muscle tone, but her face is not at all attractive in my view and her skin looks like leather. I saw the pic before I did any reading and honestly thought she was a trans man dressed as his female self. And that made me think that perhaps s/he didn't know any better than to wear that dress to a wedding because s/he had lived as a man and was just learning the ins and outs of women's clothing.

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The bolded, I am having a hard time believing as well. Would random women really go up to another woman and slap her ass b/c of teh outfit she was wearing
I sure don't know any! Like I said, my cousins' daughters (late 20's) like to dress like Kardashians and wear the heavy make-up. They showed up dressed in short, clingy dresses at my sister's wedding a couple years ago (though not that short, clingy or nude colored - such an unflattering color for most women). No one said boo to them (nor about them behind their backs), much less came close to slapping asses, not even any drunk uncles or random groomsmen or anything.

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Um.....wow. That screams "look at me...look at me!
And if that wasn't enough, then she starts a support group/movement and names it after herself.

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I saw an article where a fitness instructor, Liz Krueger, was bullied at a wedding over the dress (or should I say miniskirt) she wore. Much of the backlash/bullying came from other women. Here is a quote from the article:



Here is what she wore to the wedding:



I don't in any way condone bullying, but maybe the underlying question, is wearing an outfit like this to a wedding disrespectful and meant more as an attention grab away from the bride/groom?

Curious to hear thoughts of those here (in particular females since they seem to be the hardest on each other).
I don't think you would look good in that dress, ER. Something a bit less shiny and maybe with a few narrow vertical stripes would be more flattering. The neck line can be low, but you don't want to expose your cleavage. Besides, no one likes hairy cleavage, anyway.


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I don't think you would look good in that dress, ER. Something a bit less shiny and maybe with a few narrow vertical stripes would be more flattering. The neck line can be low, but you don't want to expose your cleavage. Besides, no one likes hairy cleavage, anyway.

Dude, I would rock that dress like no other dress had ever been rocked before

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Dude, I would rock that dress like no other dress had ever been rocked before

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Curious to hear thoughts of those here (in particular females since they seem to be the hardest on each other).
It would be a great anniversary dinner dress or date-night for going out for dancing, but I agree that it isn't appropriate to wear to a wedding.

Other guests that went out of their way to make her uncomfortable, however, are just as out of line.
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I sure don't know any! Like I said, my cousins' daughters (late 20's) like to dress like Kardashians and wear the heavy make-up. They showed up dressed in short, clingy dresses at my sister's wedding a couple years ago (though not that short, clingy or nude colored - such an unflattering color for most women). No one said boo to them (nor about them behind their backs), much less came close to slapping asses, not even any drunk uncles or random groomsmen or anything.
Just curious, but where do you live? Maybe different regions have different sets of acceptable dress and behavior at events.

I'm in the Midwest. I have been to many a wedding with many a niece or young cousin. Around here, someone shows up to a wedding dressed like the woman in the pic and they will be asked to either change into something appropriate to the occasion or leave. Usually, the Maid/Matron of Honor, Best Man, or the parents of the couple would be elected to say something.

And there would certainly be a LOT of gossip and snark toward the woman after she either changed or left.

Now, going out clubbing with some folks after the celebration has a whole different set of rules and no one would bat an eye at an outfit like that.
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Appropriate wedding wear? HELZ no. She looks like a slvt. That said, treating someone like a slvt just because they look like one isn't acceptable either. Was she acting like a slvt? Because then I can *maybe* see getting her azz slapped.


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Just curious, but where do you live? Maybe different regions have different sets of acceptable dress and behavior at events.

I'm in the Midwest. I have been to many a wedding with many a niece or young cousin. Around here, someone shows up to a wedding dressed like the woman in the pic and they will be asked to either change into something appropriate to the occasion or leave. Usually, the Maid/Matron of Honor, Best Man, or the parents of the couple would be elected to say something.

And there would certainly be a LOT of gossip and snark toward the woman after she either changed or left.

Now, going out clubbing with some folks after the celebration has a whole different set of rules and no one would bat an eye at an outfit like that.
I'm in Chicago; that's what the young women wear to the clubs and on dates, out to eat. I think it's crazy, but we have lots of crazy people in our family and, well, these girls are family and we love them. No one paid any attention, least of all the bride.

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I'm in Chicago; that's what the young women wear to the clubs and on dates, out to eat. I think it's crazy, but we have lots of crazy people in our family and, well, these girls are family and we love them. No one paid any attention, least of all the bride.
I'm in a suburb just south of Detroit. Blue collar working family area. Ethnically diverse.

Young women here wear the same kind of thing when they go out on dates or clubbing. They just couldn't get away with it anywhere else without people remarking on it at the very least.

Bachelorette party, GNO, no problem. Wedding, Baptism, baby shower, big problem.
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I’m not always sure what people mean when they say we shouldn’t “judge” someone based on whatever the case may be; people throw this out all the time. Well, I can’t make a judgement on anyone that will affect anything. I’m not a judge that sits on the bench, and I’m certainly not God. He has never asked me for an opinion about anyone’s character, nor will he ever.

With that said, we all have to make judgements all the time in our everyday life; how else would we function? I can’t tell by looking at this woman if she is a robber, drug dealer, if she’s mean to her kids, if she is cruel to old people, or is just basically an evil person; If people are getting all that from a piece of clothing, maybe that is overboard; however, I can conclude that she doesn’t mind looking like a stripper in public and that she doesn't care about social convention, which is very disrespectful in my opinion. Personally, I wouldn’t want to look like a stripper in public, so I can judge that her thought process is different to mine, which could also indicate other general differences in our personality.

As another poster stated, how we present ourselves is how people perceive us. We all know this. The key there is, "we all know this." I don't always buy that people are as ignorant as they pretend to be.

If I go out in public with a Stetson hat, cowboy boots, a huge belt buckle, jeans, and a western shirt, I wouldn’t think it weird if people looked at me and thought the rodeo must be in town, or that I must be a cowboy from out west. I’m not, but I wouldn’t think it weird if people thought that. At the least, I must be a cowboy wannabe and want attention.

I’ve noticed that people also like to use the weather as an excuse for their attire. “Oh, it was so hot outside today.” The worst case scenario there would be a little discomfort. Personally, I can endure a little discomfort to show respect at someone else’s event.

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I'm tired of seeing women being shamed for what we wear.

If a man turned up to the wedding in jeans & T-shirt I guarantee you, there would be not one article about it.

And no I'm not a feminist at all.

But I'm tired of us ladies being judged all the time on what clothing is appropriate.
Jeans as a t-shirt are not equivalent to the dress that the woman in the OP is wearing.

I tried finding an outfit on a man that would be equivalent. Maybe some version of the one below?

I have no doubt that the men at a wedding would not be happy at all if some hot young man showed up like this.
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I tried finding an outfit on a man that would be equivalent. Maybe some version of the one below?
Maybe this Jim Carrey outfit

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