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Perhaps it's a regional difference, or the company I keep, but I'm glad that most of the weddings to which I would be invited wouldn't be populated with people who felt it was incumbent upon them to do either.

Dress code Nazis at weddings? How American.
Indeed, perhaps it is a regional difference, or the company we keep; but I'm glad that most of the people I surround myself with don't feel even remotely put upon to withhold from wearing certain garments to certain events. What a tyranny!

@Rowan Great point, and a little addition to my previously related story, one of the other men removing that cousin was indeed his father. I wouldn't have put it on myself to do something physical--and taken him aside for a serious 'splaining instead--but it was in helping the husband of the deceased; the father of the man being removed.

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It's a nice dress. Nothing to write home about. It was hot and if she likes it, who cares. What I can't understand is that she stayed at an event where she was bullied. I don't slap other women's butt unless they are in my circle and I know them very well. So, I am surprised that women would do this to her. The beer being poured on her must have been a stupid person trying to get her attention.

This is just one of those dumb articles ,"it happen to me" things that yahoo publishes. Women need to learn how to be kind to each other, it seems like some of us never left high school. And she was stupid to stay around those people.
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This entire thread is an excellent reminder of the seemingly endless capacity for humans to want to control the victimless behavior of others.
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Perhaps it's a regional difference, or the company I keep, but I'm glad that most of the weddings to which I would be invited wouldn't be populated with people who felt it was incumbent upon them to do either.

Dress code Nazis at weddings? How American.
Here, attire like that at a wedding would be considered extremely disrespectful to the bride, groom, and seriousness of the occasion.

If someone comes into an event and behaves in a rude, disrespectful, or disruptive manner, they are generally asked by staff to either cease the poor behavior or to leave. This is the exact same thing.
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Here, attire like that at a wedding would be considered extremely disrespectful to the bride, groom, and seriousness of the occasion.
I suppose they could ask her to take off the dress, at the risk of finding the behavior even more disrespectful.
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I suppose they could ask her to take off the dress, at the risk of finding the behavior even more disrespectful.


In all seriousness, though, if someone came to my family event, which a wedding generally is, dressed and/or behaving inappropriately, they would be asked to leave. If I'm hosting an event, I want to have a good time and I want everyone else to have a good time. I don't have the patience or desire to deal with attention seeking disrespectful behavior.
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In all seriousness, though, if someone came to my family event, which a wedding generally is, dressed and/or behaving inappropriately, they would be asked to leave. If I'm hosting an event, I want to have a good time and I want everyone else to have a good time. I don't have the patience or desire to deal with attention seeking disrespectful behavior.
So the problem I have is this:

I get a little gas when I see others judging someone's personal tastes that harshly. She's not wearing crotchless panties (assuming she has any on at all!) while uncrossing her legs. There's no cutouts on the front for nipple clamps. No abortion pictures, political slogans, or animal blood splashed across the front.

If she came to the wedding dressed like that, acted respectfully to the bride and groom, didn't get drunk and loud, and didn't bang the best man in the confessional, then I'd say the people with the respect problem would be the ones who tossed her out, not the one (gasp!) wearing that dress.

What is so mind-numbingly important about the clothes on one's back that make you want to eject them from a wedding? That's what I don't (and probably never will) understand. I'm reminded of Joe Pesci in "My Cousin Vinny".

Then again, I would never patronize a restaurant that wanted to rent me a jacket before sitting down either. I'm way more interested in the person than in what they choose to wrap themselves.
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So the problem I have is this:

I get a little gas when I see others judging someone's personal tastes that harshly. She's not wearing crotchless panties (assuming she has any on at all!) while uncrossing her legs. There's no cutouts on the front for nipple clamps. No abortion pictures, political slogans, or animal blood splashed across the front.

If she came to the wedding dressed like that, acted respectfully to the bride and groom, didn't get drunk and loud, and didn't bang the best man in the confessional, then I'd say the people with the respect problem would be the ones who tossed her out, not the one (gasp!) wearing that dress.

What is so mind-numbingly important about the clothes on one's back that make you want to eject them from a wedding? That's what I don't (and probably never will) understand. I'm reminded of Joe Pesci in "My Cousin Vinny".

Then again, I would never patronize a restaurant that wanted to rent me a jacket before sitting down either. I'm way more interested in the person than in what they choose to wrap themselves.
You seem ok with judging personal tastes if that happens to be showing off beaver or carrying political protest signs. So is your objection simply where the lines are drawn?
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I predict this story isn't true and it is all a publicity stunt. She made it up.
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So the problem I have is this:

I get a little gas when I see others judging someone's personal tastes that harshly. She's not wearing crotchless panties (assuming she has any on at all!) while uncrossing her legs. There's no cutouts on the front for nipple clamps. No abortion pictures, political slogans, or animal blood splashed across the front.

If she came to the wedding dressed like that, acted respectfully to the bride and groom, didn't get drunk and loud, and didn't bang the best man in the confessional, then I'd say the people with the respect problem would be the ones who tossed her out, not the one (gasp!) wearing that dress.

What is so mind-numbingly important about the clothes on one's back that make you want to eject them from a wedding? That's what I don't (and probably never will) understand. I'm reminded of Joe Pesci in "My Cousin Vinny".

Then again, I would never patronize a restaurant that wanted to rent me a jacket before sitting down either. I'm way more interested in the person than in what they choose to wrap themselves.

Everyone has a right to judge whatever they want, you are judging people for judging. We do it every day. They don't have a right to be rude.

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Nice dress.

No problem with it.

If there's anyone gawking or distracted says more about them and their relationship than her.

Not inappropriate at all.
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Everyone has a right to judge whatever they want, you are judging people for judging. We do it every day. They don't have a right to be rude.
Yes, I am. The difference being that I wouldn't throw anyone out of a wedding to which I'd invited them for our difference of opinion.
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So the problem I have is this:

I get a little gas when I see others judging someone's personal tastes that harshly. She's not wearing crotchless panties (assuming she has any on at all!) while uncrossing her legs. There's no cutouts on the front for nipple clamps. No abortion pictures, political slogans, or animal blood splashed across the front.

If she came to the wedding dressed like that, acted respectfully to the bride and groom, didn't get drunk and loud, and didn't bang the best man in the confessional, then I'd say the people with the respect problem would be the ones who tossed her out, not the one (gasp!) wearing that dress.

What is so mind-numbingly important about the clothes on one's back that make you want to eject them from a wedding? That's what I don't (and probably never will) understand. I'm reminded of Joe Pesci in "My Cousin Vinny".

Then again, I would never patronize a restaurant that wanted to rent me a jacket before sitting down either. I'm way more interested in the person than in what they choose to wrap themselves.
The problem is that by coming to the wedding dressed like that, she has already behaved in a disrespectful manner to the bride and groom. She can behave politely in other ways, but the outfit would be viewed as disrespectful by pretty much any church going community, people of many other cultures that value modesty in dress, and people who just simply take manners seriously.

I'm sure that here in the Midwest, the offense would be classified as a misdemeanor. In the Bible Belt, it'd probably be a felony. And in places like LA, New York, or Miami, it wouldn't even register.


Like it or not, people look at the way a person is dressed and how they present themselves before deciding if they want to strike up a conversation. Maybe not all, but I'd say a vast majority. It's what we do.

If I saw that woman at a club wearing that dress and she seemed interesting somehow, I'd chat with her to see if she really was interesting. If I saw her at a wedding wearing that dress, I'd avoid talking with her for 2 reasons. 1) It's rude and could be attention seeking drama queen behavior. No, thanks, I have daughters. I don't need any more of that in my life. 2) I don't want to get hit by the tar and feathers.

Besides, there are many styles of dress she could have worn that would have been equally sexy and not nearly as tasteless.

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I predict this story isn't true and it is all a publicity stunt. She made it up.
I second this, it was before the tragic events in Dallas the top trending topic on Facebook. Feels like it was done on purpose, whether or not the reactions were totally made up or she was just gunning for fodder to fuel her celebrity, it worked wonders.
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