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post #1 of 103 (permalink) Old 07-06-2016, 09:28 AM Thread Starter
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Appropriate Dress To A Wedding And Bullying

I saw an article where a fitness instructor, Liz Krueger, was bullied at a wedding over the dress (or should I say miniskirt) she wore. Much of the backlash/bullying came from other women. Here is a quote from the article:

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Weddings should be a time to celebrate love and shower the couple getting married with attention. But unfortunately, when Liz Krueger attended a friend's wedding, the occasion became more about the dress Krueger was wearing. The fitness instructor attended the party in a minidress and many took issue with that choice, she wrote in a viral Instagram post.

"If only I knew that choosing this dress for a wedding on a 90-degree day meant so many women would be outrightly rude to me, and even come up behind me slap my ass as I'm standing alone," she wrote. Someone even spilled beer down her arm on a dare, because she was "a target."

But her reaction to the bullying and harassment is inspiring. Instead of letting it get her down, she still had fun at the wedding and shared a lesson that everyone can learn from what she faced. She announced over Instagram that she's starting a movement called #KruegerKindness to challenge women to support one another through volunteering and random acts of kindness.

"If you want to join me in this movement, share your stories on social media with #KruegerKindness and let's kill all the mean girls with kindness," she wrote. "We live in a world that needs more women willing to put themselves out there for a good cause!!!"
Here is what she wore to the wedding:



I don't in any way condone bullying, but maybe the underlying question, is wearing an outfit like this to a wedding disrespectful and meant more as an attention grab away from the bride/groom?

Curious to hear thoughts of those here (in particular females since they seem to be the hardest on each other).


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Ummm.....can anyone say "LOOK AT ME! I'm dying for attention?"

A wedding is about celebrating the union of two people, as mentioned in the article. I wouldn't condone the treatment the other people gave her at the wedding, but save the dress for going to the club, honey.

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It's a hell of a dress, that's for sure. And it makes me wonder whether the women in question were more upset at the perception that Krueger was attempting to upstage the bride and groom, or at the likelihood that their men's eyes strayed once too often.
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Um.....wow. That screams "look at me...look at me!

If it were my wedding I would politely tell her to leave. I would find it disrespectful.
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Ummm.....can anyone say "LOOK AT ME! I'm dying for attention?"

A wedding is about celebrating the union of two people, not "look at me...I'm a fitness instructor!!" I wouldn't condone the treatment the other people gave her at the wedding, but save the dress for going to the club, honey.
It may have been that, but it could also be that some people are just that clueless, out of touch, and wrapped up in their own world for it to even cross their mind what is appropriate in given situations...not sure which is worse...

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It was an inappropriate dress to wear to a wedding. In fact, it's inappropriate for a lot of events. It's great that she's healthy and isn't ashamed to show it off but . . . not at a wedding. It's too bad that no one close to her could have pulled her to the side beforehand and said "Look. You're giving the wrong message at the wedding.". Or maybe someone did and she didn't give a crap.

Regardless, I wouldn't have treated her badly. I just would have felt sorry for her.
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She's an attractive woman with a great body. That said, I would consider the dress to be tacky and classless. It's more in the range of clubwear, which means it's not likely to be appropriate for a wedding. Even if the dress had been acceptable on the formality scale for the event, though, she still looks a little mutton-dressed-as-lamb in it. It's definitely designed to be an attention grabbing outfit.

But I also wonder if she's not a bit over-sensitive to the reactions of others. Did someone really pour a drink down her arm on a dare? Why would that even happen? I'm guessing that this was actually a combination of drunk people behaving poorly (spilling, etc.), an over-reaction to perceived slights on her part, and what seems to be a tendency to fuel drama with both her appearance and her online presence. If people were really, verifiably, targeting her for ill-behaved slights over a tacky outfit, perhaps she needs better people in her social circle. But this whole thing feels like social-media drama-seeking to me.

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She's an attractive woman with a great body. That said, I would consider the dress to be tacky and classless. It's more in the range of clubwear, which means it's not likely to be appropriate for a wedding. Even if the dress had been acceptable on the formality scale for the event, though, she still looks a little mutton-dressed-as-lamb in it. It's definitely designed to be an attention grabbing outfit.

But I also wonder if she's not a bit over-sensitive to the reactions of others. Did someone really pour a drink down her arm on a dare? Why would that even happen? I'm guessing that this was actually a combination of drunk people behaving poorly (spilling, etc.), an over-reaction to perceived slights on her part, and what seems to be a tendency to fuel drama with both her appearance and her online presence. If people were really, verifiably, targeting her for ill-behaved slights over a tacky outfit, perhaps she needs better people in her social circle. But this whole thing feels like social-media drama-seeking to me.
Agreed on all you wrote. Well maybe execpt for the attractive woman part. I think she is an ok looking woman with a great body. Too many people think skinny/fit equals pretty/handsome. Just my opinion.

But I do very much agree that its classless, and potentially made up to seek social media fame.

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My older daughter - similar physique - wore a similar height dress to a wedding last week. But the dress was elegantly flowing, not skin tight, and a subdued single color to match the theme of the wedding.

It was reported that the bride's mom wore something "wild" and was duly ogled by all male celebrants😂
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She looks amazing! But the dress is not wedding appropriate. However that does not excuse other women being sh!tty to her! They were just jealous, that's pretty obvious...clearly they did not have the self control or sense of decency to keep their catty feelings to themselves.


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She looks amazing! But the dress is not wedding appropriate. However that does not excuse other women being sh!tty to her! They were just jealous, that's pretty obvious...clearly they did not have the self control or sense of decency to keep their catty feelings to themselves.
The bolded is the part that is fascinating to me. There is no doubt that in general women face a ton more scrutiny in society/media over their appearance, yet the harshest critics appear to in many cases come from other women.
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The bolded is the part that is fascinating to me. There is no doubt that in general women face a ton more scrutiny in society/media over their appearance, yet the harshest critics appear to in many cases come from other women.
Sexual competitiveness?

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Sexual competitiveness?
Could very well be. As well, low self esteem / confidence (i.e. feel better about yourself by tearing other people down).
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Could very well be. As well, low self esteem / confidence (i.e. feel better about yourself by tearing other people down).
This is an unfortunate reality for many, many people.

People tend to want a level field. They want to feel a sense of equality, and when that balance is perceived as off, they tend to take action to level it, especially when they are on the lower end of it. This can be accomplished in one of two ways...build themselves up, or tear the other down. People tend to follow the path of least resistance, take the easiest road available, and unfortunately many people find it easier to destroy than to build.

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The bolded is the part that is fascinating to me. There is no doubt that in general women face a ton more scrutiny in society/media over their appearance, yet the harshest critics appear to in many cases come from other women.
Oh, no doubt! Women are the worst! Its ok to feel some jealousy...am I jealous of how she looks? Hell yes I am! But that isn't HER fault..she clearly works her ass off to look like that, and I am lazy and choose not to do so, so that's why I don't look like her! lol... However it would never cross my mind to be rotten to her because of it. Petty and immature...I mean aren't we supposed to be mature adults?

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