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Originally Posted by fcc  I don't think my H understands where to draw the line sometimes. Is this normal with men? Do they just not even put a second of thought into what they are saying before they say IT. Example telling your inlaws just very randomly that you have your period??? It completely freaked me out...is that crazy or what.
Just wondering what you all out there think and how do you deal with this. Its not like I can tell him everytime what he can tell them and what he shouldn't ...right!!?!! |
I am not uptight about things like this , after all half the human race gets a period -it is not like any big secret. I coudln't see my husband doing that anyway -well he might if such a subject was brought up 1st, maybe some snide joke about me pmsing, but it wouldn't bother me in the least. We are very verbally open. And yeah, with our friends too, his co-workers. He even told one of the guys at his work I posted on this forum one day -now I did get a little upset over that ! Nothing else was ever said, so I don't think anything became of it.
His family, not so much, they are more "proper" than we are at home.
I do think it is a matter of how people may be raised, combined with an extroverted personality & natural openness. Maybe I am doing my kids a disservice by allowing them to say whatever is on thier minds in our house, and pretty much to each other. No one is offended. I mean, they fight, but my daughter is not treated with kit gloves by her brothers. I think that might be good for her. I DO teach them that not everyone is like US, they SHOULD always be mindful to not step on others personal boundaries, keep their mouths shut. They seem to honor that well, I don't see them getting in trouble or disliked for their behavior by anyone yet.
Like I have a girlfriend, she is like a Privacy queen, I mean, if you even say anything about her -when she is not in your presence, she feels violated, she doesn't even tell her children where she is going when she leaves the house, feeling it is none of thier business (i think she is crazy on that part, then she wonders why her kids are so secretive with her as they grew older) .
As we may be "too much - a little Too Open" -- she is "too closed, too private" on the other side of the spectrum. Maybe in how she was raised also, or just our personalities, some are more embarrassed, and some of us can just laugh it off , and not worry what others think.
I am only going by the "period" comment, of coarse if it was more intimate things, or putting you down in front of his family, I would not have answered this the same way. Yes, we should watch our mouths , and be respectful of how our spouses feel.
Just talk to him about it, what else can you do .
crossing the line 
