Physically speaking...One thing I wish I would have done earlier in our marriage -with my husband -is have him wear contacts over his glasses, he is a good looking man (at least I feel) but those darn glasses he wore most of our marriage kinda took away from his looks. As we have gotten older, it is the one thing I requested he change - pretty much, so now he wears contacts if we do anything together, and I find he just looks more like a "Stud" that way.
So important...Be a man of your "word"
Fix what needs fixed around the house -take the initiative before the wife starts whining - I personally find a handyman
attractive . I am in awe of the things he has done -that seems impossible to me- so often I feel if he starts that project, we are going to have to hire a mechanic to finish it - but he tackles it anyway! Has the garage littered with parts. He has crafted his own tools in a pince to finish very difficult jobs on our vehicles. He may do alot of swearing when he comes to these problems, but it amazes me how he manages to complete these things on his own, he does NOT like to ask for help, very stubborn on that. If it was me, I would have blown the garage up! He is doing the job and I am the one who gets more irritated. Patience
is very attractive, a calm cool demeanor. Humor
- especially Dry humor -if she is getting out of hand, a little down - knowing how to bring a smile to her face with YOUR attitude, making light of the situation. If a friend hurts me for example, he will tell me everything wrong with that person and make fun of thier faults to uplift me- to the point of me
- always on my side, my biggest fan.
Not sucking up to other people.
I so appreciate my husbands willingness to help the kids with thier homework
, that is about the only thing I don't like doing -that Mom's generally do. He steps up to the plate on that one. LISTEN
to her when she wants to talk -if she had a bad day, etc - men often want to FIX, but sometimes we just need heard and understood before that fixing tendency takes over. (my husband shines here -but I hear so many women complain about this one).
, hold her in the mornings before you get up, kiss her when leaving for work, wrap you arms around her when you come home -who needs to spend $ on flowers, just her feeling she was missed & thought of -this goes along way.
If you hear a love song on the radio, let her know you was thinking of her. Always touching, brings back memories of good times.
Get out without the kids -show her you want to revive what once was between you . Go out on dates, sit close at the movie theaters , holding her hand. Re-visit a necking site, if you have one, bring the memories of the past into the present. Act young, re-experience youth again.