I posed a question yesterday & have been getting a lot of very insightful responses, which leads to my next question (which is more for the ladies):
I am in my mid/late 20's, have been sexually active since I was 21, and have never orgasmed. And it's not like I haven't tried!!! Good lord, I've tried! I feel like I've tried the vast majority of popular vibrators & toys out there on the market, but none have done it for me. I have also only ever done any sexual act with my then boyfriend / now husband of 2 years.
I like sex well enough, but the penetration alone does nothing for me from an orgasm standpoint... not even doggie. (In fact, doggie kind of hurts... like he's poking me in the uterus and not in the g-spot. It's not painful but also not the most pleasant thing). When my husband tries to stimulate my clit, I freak out & squirm all around because it feels like I'm being tickled to death!!! Like, someone pinning me down and tickling my feet nonstop (which are VERY ticklish!) I don't stimulate my own clit with my fingers because physically I can't do it. You try tickling yourself! When I've used a vibrator, I've gotten the same reaction. It's like too much sensation & too much of that tickling feeling which I can't handle! Anyway, me squirming away from him is not exactly the sexiest thing in the world, so we usually just skip the foreplay & go straight to penetration so he can get off & fall asleep. Meanwhile, I lay there for hours still sexually unsatisfied & unable to fall asleep! (And that's another reason why our sex life has dwindled lately). Also, side note about foreplay: he LOVES to suck my breasts and focus on the nipple, which I HATE for the same reason: too much sensation. It's not exactly a tickle, but it's definitely not arousing! I'm not sure if that's somehow connected to my hyper-sensitive clit.
Also, I should note that I grew up in a very religious home where sex was something that should be only for marriage and anything other than that was a sin (including self-stimulation). I did't even touch myself until I met my husband... like, didn't even use a tampon because it involved touching my vagina!! I didn't start using a vibrator till I married my husband 2 years ago, simply because I wanted to finally orgasm already!! I feel like any mental block I had about sex and orgasming before should have gone away now that I'm married. I don't feel ashamed about sex or my body or my sexuality... in fact, quite the opposite. However, I still haven't been able to orgasm. :|
Anyway, I'm curious to see if anyone else out there has experienced an extreme tickling feeling with clitoral stimulation. I've searched the internet high & low for an answer, but haven't found one that matches my experience. I planned on asking my gyno about it next time I go for a check-up. Thanks for your input, ladies!
I am in my mid/late 20's, have been sexually active since I was 21, and have never orgasmed. And it's not like I haven't tried!!! Good lord, I've tried! I feel like I've tried the vast majority of popular vibrators & toys out there on the market, but none have done it for me. I have also only ever done any sexual act with my then boyfriend / now husband of 2 years.
I like sex well enough, but the penetration alone does nothing for me from an orgasm standpoint... not even doggie. (In fact, doggie kind of hurts... like he's poking me in the uterus and not in the g-spot. It's not painful but also not the most pleasant thing). When my husband tries to stimulate my clit, I freak out & squirm all around because it feels like I'm being tickled to death!!! Like, someone pinning me down and tickling my feet nonstop (which are VERY ticklish!) I don't stimulate my own clit with my fingers because physically I can't do it. You try tickling yourself! When I've used a vibrator, I've gotten the same reaction. It's like too much sensation & too much of that tickling feeling which I can't handle! Anyway, me squirming away from him is not exactly the sexiest thing in the world, so we usually just skip the foreplay & go straight to penetration so he can get off & fall asleep. Meanwhile, I lay there for hours still sexually unsatisfied & unable to fall asleep! (And that's another reason why our sex life has dwindled lately). Also, side note about foreplay: he LOVES to suck my breasts and focus on the nipple, which I HATE for the same reason: too much sensation. It's not exactly a tickle, but it's definitely not arousing! I'm not sure if that's somehow connected to my hyper-sensitive clit.
Also, I should note that I grew up in a very religious home where sex was something that should be only for marriage and anything other than that was a sin (including self-stimulation). I did't even touch myself until I met my husband... like, didn't even use a tampon because it involved touching my vagina!! I didn't start using a vibrator till I married my husband 2 years ago, simply because I wanted to finally orgasm already!! I feel like any mental block I had about sex and orgasming before should have gone away now that I'm married. I don't feel ashamed about sex or my body or my sexuality... in fact, quite the opposite. However, I still haven't been able to orgasm. :|
Anyway, I'm curious to see if anyone else out there has experienced an extreme tickling feeling with clitoral stimulation. I've searched the internet high & low for an answer, but haven't found one that matches my experience. I planned on asking my gyno about it next time I go for a check-up. Thanks for your input, ladies!