Hi everyone. I thought I'd stop by with an update...
I'm divorced now from my second husband (the one I talked about at TAM when I was frequently posting here). The divorce was final in December 2015. It was the most difficult decision either of us have ever had to make. We still love each other...but we had to get to the point where we loved each other enough to set each other free.
I struggled a lot with the emotional impact of that decision, for quite a few months (both before and after the divorce was actually final).
Now he and I have emerged from all of that and are good friends. We see each other and talk frequently and have helped each other through this to the other side. It feels really good to be healthy enough now to cherish his friendship yet not want to be married to him or be with him romantically any longer.
In June, I started seeing a new guy. Things have been very nice with him, we are having a lot of fun, getting to know each other, and getting to experience that warm, fuzzy new boyfriend/girlfriend vibe.
The new boyfriend senses a threat from the ex-husband, so I have minimized my interactions with the ex-husband....because I totally get why the new boyfriend would have a problem with us hanging out together anymore.
I do not ever want to be legally married again (because then I can never be divorced again ) but I do think the new boyfriend might want that. I'm discussing things like this with him now so as not to lead him down any path with me that doesn't head to where he wants to go.
I did have quite a fun ride in dating before I met this guy...that helped me along also. I always enjoyed dating, and this go-round was no exception.
Anyway, just thought I'd stop in and say hello.....hello, TAM.
I'm divorced now from my second husband (the one I talked about at TAM when I was frequently posting here). The divorce was final in December 2015. It was the most difficult decision either of us have ever had to make. We still love each other...but we had to get to the point where we loved each other enough to set each other free.
I struggled a lot with the emotional impact of that decision, for quite a few months (both before and after the divorce was actually final).
Now he and I have emerged from all of that and are good friends. We see each other and talk frequently and have helped each other through this to the other side. It feels really good to be healthy enough now to cherish his friendship yet not want to be married to him or be with him romantically any longer.
In June, I started seeing a new guy. Things have been very nice with him, we are having a lot of fun, getting to know each other, and getting to experience that warm, fuzzy new boyfriend/girlfriend vibe.
The new boyfriend senses a threat from the ex-husband, so I have minimized my interactions with the ex-husband....because I totally get why the new boyfriend would have a problem with us hanging out together anymore.
I do not ever want to be legally married again (because then I can never be divorced again ) but I do think the new boyfriend might want that. I'm discussing things like this with him now so as not to lead him down any path with me that doesn't head to where he wants to go.
I did have quite a fun ride in dating before I met this guy...that helped me along also. I always enjoyed dating, and this go-round was no exception.
Anyway, just thought I'd stop in and say hello.....hello, TAM.