I am not even sure being raised a certain way has anything to do with this at all ..... and I will tell you why... My Mom & Dad were NOT physical Touchers hardly at all -least not to me. Very rarely a hug, My step Mother surely was not -with me. My dad & her together --OH YEAH!
But anyway....I do recall me & my best girlfriend scratching each others backs, I enjoyed that very much even though I was not used to being touched. I also felt like my self esteem was kinda low back then, I wasn't the happiest young girl around the block, I mean, I had good times, good friends, but I surely did NOT feel loved at home.....
Then when I met my boyfriend, he was pretty touchy feely, and guess what, I came alive - I was happier, and well, this is likely what I have been missing my whole childhood. We didn't have sex but we had ALOT of other touch, he would scratch my back every single day, when we watch movies, he would run his fingers through my hair the whole time -been doing this for 30 yrs now ! I love this.
I have the book on "Childrens love languages"... TOUCH for children could be brushing your daughters hair, a slap on the back to your son, I mean, innocent things but STILL touching, it is important to these children ! I know for a fact my daughter is this.... I can tell -she LOVES her back scratched -just like me, she loves to peel masks off my face, she thinks nothing of jumping on our friend and sitting on his lap and loves to be hugged. ( Her husband should be very happy someday
The mistake I made with my husband was... when we started having kids, I was touching them more than him, holding them at night - he felt less loved during that time.
I did a thread on this issue, you and husband can take the Love Languages test and see where you & he are at , so you can work toward fullfilling each other. I would not be happy if I was with someone who didn't touch me alot. I would slowly "wither", get grouchy and mean. Your husband may be similar so be very very careful to do this for him. It means THAT much to those of us who ARE this way.
If I ever found myself single, I would not even entertain the idea of being with a man without this on the top of his list, plus quality time. What R You & Spouse's Love Languages & How does this affect your Marraige?