Ladies did ever lost lust/physical attraction for your husband?
Ladies have ever lost lust/physical attraction for your husband after your baby was born? If yes why? Do you think you can continue your relationship without it? Did it ever came back?
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I have always been physically attracted to my husband but yes after the birth of our daughter the lust dwindled. My focus just seemed to shift to her and her needs. It was also extremely stressful. My husband worked alot leaving me with her almost all the time. I barely ever had time to shower, nasty but the truth. Finally my husband saw the stress I was under and started helping more giving me little breaks when he wasn't working. I started to feel some relief and slowly my lust returned. I know my relationship could of continued that way but it wouldn't have been a happy time. I'm glad he started to help me more.
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Yes, my 'lust' factor kind of bottomed out after the birth of each of our kids. I was also breast-feeding which contributes even more to a depressed libido. It is not uncommon for a woman's libido to be depressed after childbirth - part of it is the hormonal changes that are going on and is kind of nature's way of intending the woman spends her energy and effort on the current infant she has.
However, my H and I continued to press onward together, slowly but surely, and once the breastfeeding was over and the mostly sleepless nights were over it got much better.
How old is your baby?
Is your wife currently breastfeeding?
Is she working outside the home, or have a lot of other stressors - lack of sleep, crying baby, no time to self?
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Ench: My wife is 29 she was breastfeeding for the first 2 years. Now the baby is almost 4 years. Sex was always a problem, but I never complained. Baby was never a problem I was the one who used get up during a night and early mornings. Now she told she lost her lust.
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Originally Posted by LexusNexus
Ladies have ever lost lust/physical attraction for your husband after your baby was born? If yes why? Do you think you can continue your relationship without it? Did it ever came back?
If she is breatfeeding, hormonally this will lower her sex drive:
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Never!
My husband is still the SEXIEST man I'd ever laid eyes on, even 13 years later. We have 3 beautiful children(2 are his, 1 from a previous marriage). Posted via Mobile Device
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Square: I never left her with baby, I was with the baby during a night. And her mother during a day. So she always had time to do stuff.
I had my mom to help me while he was at work but it is still a stressful time. We would even switch on and off who would take the night shift. I was also breastfeeding/pumping. My husband also thought I had time to do stuff cause I had my mom around during the day but in reality i just didnt have a lot of free time. Not sure what your wife does with her time when she doesnt have the baby around but for me my free time consisted of laundry, cleaning and whatnot that needed to be done. It was oh so much fun.
My daughter is 4 now but it didn't take a real long time for the lust to turn I would say from birth to maybe 6 months?? Give or take a month.
She stope breastfeeding 2 years ago. I think she lost her lust because we start dating young, we been together for 11 years married 4.So its the same routine.
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Never!
My husband is still the SEXIEST man I'd ever laid eyes on, even 13 years later. We have 3 beautiful children(2 are his, 1 from a previous marriage). Posted via Mobile Device
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She stope breastfeeding 2 years ago. I think she lost her lust because we start dating young, we been together for 11 years married 4.So its the same routine.
I've been with my husband 12 years married for 2. Been together since I was 16 and he was 18.
Have you asked her? I guess some people could get bored over time but I haven't. Maybe try a date night to get some alone time and reconnect?
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I've been with my husband 12 years married for 2. Been together since I was 16 and he was 18.
Have you asked her? I guess some people could get bored over time but I haven't. Maybe try a date night to get some alone time and reconnect?
I wish date night would work. We go out atleast 3 times a week just a two of us. All this years my wife was telling me I am not sexual person. At the end she told me I lost my lust for you. I asked her did you ever had your lust for me? She said she doesnt know. She said its not physical appearance because she is very attracted to my physical appearance. I work out 5-6 times a week and I have 8% body fat.
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She may not be relating to you emotionally. Try to have a conversation with her to fgure out what she needs from you emotionally. What you may be giving her is not what she needs.
Honestly, women don't base their attraction to men solely on looks. In fact, I would say for many women, looks and body are way down on the list.
I think it is pointless to ask her if she ever found you sexy. You are married. Focus on the here and now. What does she need right now to create a spark? She may not like herself, which will dampen her libido. It's not solely your fault that she lost her mojo. In fact, I'd say she's the biggest part of the problem.
Both partners have a responsibility to make the marriage fresh, to clearly communicate their needs and to try to meet their partners needs. It's a constant work in progress, a life journey, not a destination called "happiness".
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Laurae1967 Thank you for your reply.
Its been going on for 3 weeks now. I tried to have conversation first she said its not you, I feel terrible because you didn't do anything wrong, and you didn't deserve this, you always treated me with respect and love. She said I am confused who I am. Every time I tried to start conversation she keep telling I need space, I need time. Meanwhile we had 3 times intimate relationship.
I know women don't based their attraction on physical appearance but without communication I cannot resolve this problem. She always relied on me to resolve all the problems.
She is very attractive and she knows that, I always told her she is very smart and beautiful. We tired marriage counseling, I spent thousands of dollars, it didn't help because she doesn't know what the problem is. I feel like all she wants just left a lone, and let me deal with her feelings. It would be easier for me to understand if I did something wrong. I am not perfect. I just finished reading 5 languages of love, His Needs Her Needs, and No More MR nice guy. I know for sure I am Not Mr Nice guy. As far as needs I met all of her needs. 5 languages of love even now I don't know what her main language of love.
I feel the same way its both partners responsibility to make marriage work especially when you have child, but somehow she is not interested to make it work. Most of her answers I don't know, I need space, I am not sure if its going to work.
And, as Laurae pointed out, physical appearance is often not the most important thing to a woman. Go look at your signature line - the last line. What does it say? What is it about? Attitude. Are you meeting her need for having a strong man of character? Have you changed in your attitude since when you met and things were on fire until now? If so, can you put some of that attitude back into your daily life?
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As well, you mentioned that this has been going on 3 weeks? Was there something that happened at that point in time? Some catalyst? New job, new routine, new friends? Anything?
Ladies did ever lost lust/physical attraction for your husband? 
