My sex drive is non-exsistant now and I don't feel like its the most important thing in a relationship.
You are so very very wrong.
He told me that is how men are,they relate love to sex and women relate companionship with love and no sex.
He is very very right.
I know that my husband will never divorce or the other way around because he doesn't believe in divorce,
Damn, you`re wrong again!!
..he believes in working issues out.
We all do but what your not getting is that his idea of "working this out" is him getting intimate attention from his wife.Soooo...this isn`t going to work out until you get your sex drive back.
When he realizes this isn`t going to work out ever...then he`ll start believing in divorce.
But I am not attracted to him sexually at all or anyone else. I feel like it is just a hassle to be lovey dovey and I feel like he is extremely needy. He gets mad if I don't kiss him and say hi right when he walks through the door. I know the issues lie with me, but I really don't know what to do about. Do I just force myself to be more affectionate and be miserable or just stick my ground and be affectionate when I feel like it?
I don`t know but the path you`re on leads to one of a few destinations.
-An utterly miserable life for your loyal non- believing in divorce husband and for you too by association.
-An affair, it`s usually the ones who won`t even consider divorce who rationalize an affair being better than destroying the family.
The affair usually destroys the family anyway but you can`t tell that to someone who is in an affair.
Any of those looking good to you?
You better do something.