That once a women goes through menopause she has no desire to have sex ever again. I hear that so often mostly from men who'd wives are going though menopause and they don't have a desire to have sex, or they heard that's what will happen so they are anxious about it. My desire actually increased after I went though menopause.
Everything the Red Pill and MGTOW bunch say about women ... is crap.
Evolutionary biological behavior theory ... is crap science (for men and women).
The 1960's/1070's feminist public figures and their beliefs were ... mostly crap. (feminists from the late 19th/early 20th century were much more on point and reasonable in their beliefs)
Women want beta providers ... is crap.
Women lust after so called "bad boys" or alpha-types ... is crap.
Women have rape fantasies ... is crap.
Women have hamsters in their heads ... is crap.
Women are irrational, over-emotional or BSC ... is crap.
Women are taking men's jobs away ... is crap.
Women are taking away men's opportunities at universities ... is crap.
Women are conspiring to raise their sons to be unmanly ... is crap.
Women are conspiring to raise their daughters to hate men ... is crap.
That the average number of sexual partners is less for women than men. Women round down (well down), men exaggerate (a lot). We're both about the same. Anyone with a brain and a bit of life experience knows this.
That the average number of sexual partners is less for women than men. Women round down (well down), men exaggerate (a lot). We're both about the same. Anyone with a brain and a bit of life experience knows this.
That we dress nice or wear make up to impress men out there, or to get their attention. For me (in a happy relationship) and MANY others - it's for our own pride and enjoyment. Also competitiveness with other women. I don't want to compete with them for men, but I like them to know that I WOULD be their competition - if I chose to. When you've spruced yourself up, you feel like a boss >
If I am going to be around male acquaintances, I dress pretty tame and don't wear makeup. But if I'm going out somewhere nice with hubby, or will be someone around lots of women, I dress up (or at least make an effort).
From a purely innocent point of view, I watched my wife and daughter talk about monthly cycles as our young son was listening to the conversation. He is in elementary school and old enough to understand the conversation, but was not old enough to understand that as a boy he would not have cycles. He slowly become terrified, and started asking questions. My wife then explained to him that boys NEVER have to worry about bleeding once a month nor having to deal with any of the cramps. His face suddenly had a huge smile and he began running and jumping all over the house about how happy he was to be a boy.
So as for misconceptions people have about women, men are simply grateful that we never have to have a period. I doubt many men stop and spend any real time wondering what that feels like for a women, and just expect everyone to behave as if the periods do not exist, and we are shamed if we ever make jokes about PMS so we have to pretend as if everything is completely normal when we suspect a women "might" be having her period.
I thought all women wanted to be nurtured and protected. But reading here at TAM for the last 3 years has taught me otherwise.
Some women are very happy to nurture and protect the man in their lives. It is very fulfilling for her, and is just what the man needs. Win/Win.
This is complete role reversal for me, and is still not something that automatically comes to mind. But I believe it is true, and thus perfectly legitimate for those couples.
I thought all women wanted to be nurtured and protected. But reading here at TAM for the last 3 years has taught me otherwise.
Some women are very happy to nurture and protect the man in their lives. It is very fulfilling for her, and is just what the man needs. Win/Win.
This is complete role reversal for me, and is still not something that automatically comes to mind. But I believe it is true, and thus perfectly legitimate for those couples.
I wanted this too.....just as much as you.. but Yeah I love to give back..the areas may be a little different.. that yin & yang at play...
Some of the things I read on this thread - I can look at and see in myself.. I still wanted a Beta Provider (as I wanted to be a Mom, staying home).... I do like Rape fantasies (should be called Ravishing fantasies, the hot pages in romance books, love them!)... but then other things don't fit.. true.. we women are just not all the same, how we think.. what we deeply want..
The sad cases are when we are physically attracted to those types of men who are just NOT GOOD FOR US... I do find some Bad boy characters very appealing in TV movies, but I can separate this from real life.. I know this is not reality.. and not healthy for me in any way- not for what I wanted in life.
When weighing emotions..
-this has been my personal experience ....I've seen it with female friends where I was in the middle trying to get them to mend fences, years went past they didn't speak- I got them back together!...they are generally more Emotional, they need to VENT those emotions, they are more catty / cliquish, more likely to cut each other off - when their feelings are hurt.. it could be the end of the relationship.. Last night, my boss opened up to me about one of her friends cutting her off over something she said "in Jest"... how this really hurt her.. they never overcame it...
Generally speaking.. men can take a harsher approach.. without this fall out... but this is Not true of all women, of course not...I much appreciate my female friends who logically want to talk things out.. when they feel slighted or hurt.. God bless them...
I've also had some conversations about sex with older women who most definitely lost their sex drives after menopause, and this can be a real problem for many couples .....if it's hit your home... it's very REAL... some loose their ability to orgasm suddenly.. so although this doesn't happen to every woman...it most definitely IS true for a great majority ... I personally don't want menopause to hit due to this concern.. this will greatly SUCK ! The women I have spoken to who didn't loose their drive.. were taking some form of hormones - to help that along.
I think with any generalization made...we are going to be more sensitive to the negative -if it hits home with us, we fit the category but not the negative spoken about it...this would make anyone want to shout - "Hey wait a minute - not so fast!@#" & give our personal experience.. nothing wrong with that..
That women are difficult to understand. We really aren't. Treat us like we are worth knowing/respecting and sexy creatures to boot, you will be treated like a sexy man who is worth getting to know. Ignore us, take us for granted, don't value us until you have use for us... you won't get much. Posted via Mobile Device
That women "envy" men and that they actually want to be men.
That the only reason women get married is to have children, dump the *great* husband, and go for the jugular in a divorce so they can live comfortably off of alimony and child support.
"Men get married hoping the woman will never change. Women get married hoping to change the man"!
Just read this in another thread, it really irks me, such a stupid generalisation...
Another that is said around here...
"If you want to be happy for the rest of your life don't make a beautiful woman your wife". Seriously messed up thinking.
That women become raving lunatics with menopause, that it is years of hell for their partners etc. Um no, not here. Breezed through it with NO change to my sex drive. If anything sex is better as there is no worry about pregnancy.
That when a woman says something about women to a man, that she speaks for all women. Women love generalizations about women, just as long as they're positive, and that they make them themselves. Although if a man makes a positive generalization about women, that's ok too sometimes, depending on if it suits her in the moment, and also depending on her mood. Moods are very important.
Another one that comes to mind is that women are the romantic gender. How about you Ladies, are you super romantic (yes we know you are SA which is very sweet :x)
It has taken me many years to be comfortable with romance, MrH is quite the romantic, very loving and caring. I'm more like a bull at a gate and can be very brash.
Oh and another one is that women read romance novels, nope never even read the back cover of one.
That you can group all women into one misconception.
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