It's totally ok for you to feel the way you do about her weight gain. When my husband and I met, I was a part-time model. Over the course of 5 years, I packed on about 30 unattractive pounds. Then I had two kids and was left with a big fat body. Well, my husband did the usual "No you're fine. You had kids." blah blah blah. One day he snapped and told me I was disgusting and this is not what he signed up for. Sure i wanted to die a little but it got my big fat butt in gear. He since apologized and did everything he could to help me lose my weight (took me 4 months btw...now that's what a fire under your ass can do!). In the end, I lost the weight and am a curvier version of my younger self. If my husband isn't attacking me, he's staring from across the room, or asking me for pics thru text. lol! Most importantly, our sex life is spank-tac-ular now. Ladies, don't judge. Men and women need different things from their spouses and a tiny waist is one of them. Good luck!
Wow, your story about your husband is really sad. You should know that not all men are like that. I guess I'm not suprised that you are buying into what your husband said, having been a model where your looks are what you have to offer.
We all eventually lose our looks and there has to be something more (or something left) that defines who we are and what we are worth.
Some of us are really lucky to be married to men who love and treasure us for lots of reasons besides what we weigh on the scale. If my husband ever said what yours did, I'd kick his ass to the curb. So no, not ALL men require a tiny waist to love and desire their wives.....just some men, luckily.
My husband wouldn't want me to have a tiny waist. He loves my curves and I am learning to love them too. What man wouldn't want a round, firm bum to palm and slap during sex?
My husband wouldn't want me to have a tiny waste. He loves my curves and I am learning to love them too. What man wouldn't want a round, firm bum to palm and slap during sex?
Sounds like my husband LOL!
When I met him I was about 5 pounds smaller than I am now (not noticable at all) and the first time we had sex, he couldn't stop talking about my ass. LOL Made me feel a little weird...but I got over it when i saw how much pleasure my big, german ass gave him.
i wouldnt care care if my wife weighed 75 or 200 pounds, she is sexiest thing I have ever seen, she still makes my heart skip a beat when she walks thru the door, its just like the 1st time I ever saw her when she was 22, 16 years ago, with just a smile......over and over again...yes she had put on few pounds and makes comments aboutself, and I always reply the same, quit washing youre clothes in hot water and leaving them in the dryer for hours and hours, of course there going to shrink...and you look best the best in nothing...actually I think when she comes out of the shower, with her long hair still damp, in her PJ's ready for bed, no make up...WOW!!! the most beautiful thing I have ever seen...
thats just what they tell you so as not to hurt your feelings.
and most women want men with really small packages and no job.
And some people spell like they did not finish primary school.
It might be hard for a simpleton to understand, but some men actually like some junk in the trunk.
lol! You ladies can think what you want, but I know better. I have many guy friends and they are all very candid with me. The fact is, ALL men have an idea of who they want to be with (physically). Some are just too big of cowards to ever say it outloud. You only live once...why would you spend it settling for a cow with a good personality? There are plenty of sexy females out there with just as good of personalities.
just ask yourself this...would you want to have sex with yourself? If you can't say "heck yes! I'd tap that!" then why would anyone else?You can fall in love with a personality, but sexual attraction is a HUGE part of a healthy relationship.
lol! You ladies can think what you want, but I know better. I have many guy friends and they are all very candid with me. The fact is, ALL men have an idea of who they want to be with (physically). Some are just too big of cowards to ever say it outloud. You only live once...why would you spend it settling for a cow with a good personality? There are plenty of sexy females out there with just as good of personalities.
just ask yourself this...would you want to have sex with yourself? If you can't say "heck yes! I'd tap that!" then why would anyone else?You can fall in love with a personality, but sexual attraction is a HUGE part of a healthy relationship.
That's the point. Not all men think skinny is sexy. Not all men like curves You go for what you want. My husband is exactly what I love. Lean, not muscular, a little belly, big package and my height. I love it. Not all women do.
My friend Kevin always dated skiiiiny girls in HS. He left for the Marines and come back 3 years later with a wife who was HUGE. We didn't say anything but it shocked us, as he always dated such tiny girls. He told a guy friend that he's always loved big women, he just didn't want to be made fun of. They are happily married 14 years later and have 4 kids
lol! You ladies can think what you want, but I know better. I have many guy friends and they are all very candid with me. The fact is, ALL men have an idea of who they want to be with (physically). Some are just too big of cowards to ever say it outloud. You only live once...why would you spend it settling for a cow with a good personality? There are plenty of sexy females out there with just as good of personalities.
just ask yourself this...would you want to have sex with yourself? If you can't say "heck yes! I'd tap that!" then why would anyone else?You can fall in love with a personality, but sexual attraction is a HUGE part of a healthy relationship.
Yes, dear. I make love to myself all the time. Who told you that I would not?
Men and women are sexually attracted to different things, sweetie. If your hilarious words were so true, nobody over size 2 would ever fall in love and get married. Bricks.
*high five* for big booties! lol! I totally agree with you. Everyone has an idea of what they want. In this case, the husband wants his wife to be what she used to be, which is totally acceptable. He's got buyers remorse! I hope, for their marriages sake, she can start working on her own happiness and self-image issues. I just hate when women do the "my husband loves me for me, unconditionally" thing. Yeah, my husband does too...doesn't mean he wants to have sex with me. I love my best friend with all my heart. She'll always be my best girl. I have never found her sexually attractive. Both are equally important in EVERY marriage.
lol! You ladies can think what you want, but I know better. I have many guy friends and they are all very candid with me. The fact is, ALL men have an idea of who they want to be with (physically). Some are just too big of cowards to ever say it outloud. You only live once...why would you spend it settling for a cow with a good personality? There are plenty of sexy females out there with just as good of personalities.
just ask yourself this...would you want to have sex with yourself? If you can't say "heck yes! I'd tap that!" then why would anyone else?You can fall in love with a personality, but sexual attraction is a HUGE part of a healthy relationship.
Yes, dear. I make love to myself all the time. Who told you that I would not?
Men and women are sexually attracted to different things, sweetie. If your hilarious words were so true, nobody over size 2 would ever fall in love and get married. Bricks.
Infidelity is the #1 reason from divorce rates being what they are. This is due to spouses packin on the comfort pounds. The statistics on failed marriages in the U.S. say I'm right on the money, honey.
just ask yourself this...would you want to have sex with yourself? If you can't say "heck yes! I'd tap that!" then why would anyone else?You can fall in love with a personality, but sexual attraction is a HUGE part of a healthy relationship.
To whom are you speaking? hahaaha My husband loves my ass and we have sex almost every night! It's the one thing that never suffered, even when separated. Now that we're back to good, it's even better.
I don't know if I'd tap my own ass...but I know I always want to tap his and he feels the same about me
Infidelity is the #1 reason from divorce rates being what they are. This is due to spouses packin on the comfort pounds. The statistics on failed marriages in the U.S. say I'm right on the money, honey.
This is not true.
Thin people get cheated on. Fat people get cheated on. Old people get cheated on. Young people get cheated on.
The reason is that needs are not being met...whatever those needs may be. Not enough sex, no communication, no time together...etc.
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You go for what you want. My husband is exactly what I love. Lean, not muscular, a little belly, big package 
Who told you that I would not? 
Bricks.
