It's funny too because my guy friends are candid with me as well and many say they like a woman with some meat. Hugging a skeleton is not sexy. Their words, not mine.
I agree that all different types of people get cheated on. I never meant to make it sound like all guys want "Kate Moss" looking women. I am saying that all men want their version of a hot chick. They marry that version and when it goes away, it's hard to not be resentful like the OP. I'm definitely a "curvy" girl but make sure my tummy stays small. There's a big difference between curves and fat. Apparently the OP doesn't like fat chicks.
have u looked @ ur self lately? maybe she doesnt find u attractive anymore. i am sorry, but this post just made me frustrated and i only read the first page. i am lucky because i cant c 2 judge any man bye there looks, but if it was me with u, i would file 4 a divorce, u put her down on this form, i can only immagine that u put her down @ home.... if u dont i am sorry for making that statement. if more people looked passed the outer beauty and focused on the inter beauty then this world would b so much better!!!! maybe its because i am blind and have never been able 2 c n my whole 24 years, but some sighted people...... just get on my nervs with that stuff, especially men. i thought when u get married the love is supposed 2 b unconditional?? think about it, how would u feel if the tables were turned?!? y cant u b a saportive partner in still show her some love? if she feels she is attractive and u her still interested n her, but u also talk to her about losing weight, she might b more. enthuestatic to do it. do u guys buy a lot of junk food? if so dont or try 2 not buy that much. Posted via Mobile Device
I agree that all different types of people get cheated on. I never meant to make it sound like all guys want "Kate Moss" looking women. I am saying that all men want their version of a hot chick. They marry that version and when it goes away, it's hard to not be resentful like the OP. I'm definitely a "curvy" girl but make sure my tummy stays small. There's a big difference between curves and fat. Apparently the OP doesn't like fat chicks.
Thin people get cheated on. Fat people get cheated on. Old people get cheated on. Young people get cheated on.
The reason is that needs are not being met...whatever those needs may be. Not enough sex, no communication, no time together...etc.
Agreed. And in some cases, one's not keeping up their physical appearance can lead to anger, disappointment, resentment, lack of sexual attraction, etc. In other words, things that can help create a marital environment conducive to infidelity and divorce.
This discussion shouldn't really be about skinny vs fat because, as already has been well noted, different guys are attracted to different body types.
But I think when you commit (i.e. marry) to a person of a certain body type you have a reasonable expectation that body type will be maintained. Of course, it's natural to pack on a few pounds as you age. That's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about the formerly fit husband or wife who truly lets themselves go post-nuptials and packs on significant weight. Or begins sporting a wardrobe of sweats, sweats, sweats and sweats. Or says farewell to good hygeine.
This goes both ways. A woman whose husband trades his six pack for a spare tire has as much right to be upset by it as the guy who's formerly svelte wife goes Kirstie Alley on him.
Anyhow, it's less about skinny vs fat than about a fair expectation that the body type you have on your wedding day is the at least a close proximity to the one you maintain from that time forward. And if not, it's not unreasonable for your spouse to disapprove of it. Posted via Mobile Device
It's funny too because my guy friends are candid with me as well and many say they like a woman with some meat. Hugging a skeleton is not sexy. Their words, not mine.
I agree with this TG.
I find the female figure with curves appealing. Too skinny does absoutely zero for me.
To all of you that crucified the original poster: Women divorce their mates because of weight issues, hair loss, job loss issues all the time.
Fact is, when you got married to a small person, you have an idea that they will always be somewhat close to that size.
Usually tho, the deal breaker for women is if the man quits working or gets laid off. For men, an appearance premium is put on the wife's looks.
I know, not everyone is like this. but it is generally true.
A woman who would leave her husband, just because he has less money never really loved him in the first place.
"For richer or poorer..." I take that very seriously. My husband lost his job soon after my engagement ring was on my finger. We weren't even married then and I stayed.
Anyhow, it's less about skinny vs fat than about a fair expectation that the body type you have on your wedding day is the at least a close proximity to the one you maintain from that time forward. And if not, it's not unreasonable for your spouse to disapprove of it. Posted via Mobile Device
This.
At my age, I expect women within my reasonable age range to have already put on some weight over the years. I can live with that as long as I see that she makes a good effort to keep what she has under control and does not let herself go. I'm close to my fighting weight of 10-15 years ago through my own effort and I don't think it's too much to ask a future LTR/marriage prospect for her effort.
At my age, I expect women within my reasonable age range to have already put on some weight over the years. I can live with that as long as I see that she makes a good effort to keep what she has under control and does not let herself go. I'm close to my fighting weight of 10-15 years ago through my own effort and I don't think it's too much to ask a future LTR/marriage prospect for her effort.
I suspect many think the effort is a reflection of priorities. Your spouse sits in front of the TV eating rather than diet and exercise a little. You start to think they prefer those things over you (because if they did not, they would not let themselves go). May not be correct or even rational (especially if you don't communicate that to your spouse) but I would not be surprised if it it there.
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Maybe she does, too, to keep that high school skinny body.
