12-05-2011, 09:38 AM
Join Date: Dec 2010
| | Re: Long distance relatioships
Have you tried just pulling back and not contacting him and seeing how he responds? He doesn't seem vested in the relationship at all, and therefore it is completely one sided. He can take advantage of you and treat you poorly and you are still there at his beck and call. As a wife, this seems like the right thing for you to do, but it's actually causing him to lose respect for you. Stand up for yourself and refuse to be treated this way. You say he doesn't want to break up, but his actions show otherwise. Change the way you would normally respond.
As for long distance relationships, they don't work unless you are both on the same page. Even more openness and honesty is needed than in a "normal" relationship because the foundation of this is communication. While it could seem a curse to be separated by distance, it actually gives you a chance to grow a foundation that is solid and learn more about each other than would be possible in person. But if one or both of you are playing games or taking advantage of the other and not on even ground, then this can't happen. He really doesn't seem that into this relationship and you are settling for that.
__________________ ~ You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don't trust enough. ~ Or, you could be a big sap and trust your husband, and he could end up being a lying, spineless, cheater.