Re: Codependent Sister-in-Law
It sounds like your sister in law has no empathy for you and your upcoming baby. Maybe she is even throwing all these fits to see if her brother would choose her instead of caring for the new baby because she has always been "the baby."
My baby is due any day now (37.5 weeks as of now) and I have 3 younger sisters which always act like they are in distress (29, 27, and 24). The youngest one has her act together since moving out to Irvine for college and has figured things out on her own now. My 2 middle sisters have not got their act together and are always teaming up or trying to team split my mother, husband, and I. Or really crazy, when my 29 year old sister is upset, she plays games with her daughter that we are not allowed to be near her when she's upset...but she lives in my apartment for free (barely cooking, always complaining, always having a problem, doesnt clean unless forced to with her baby bottles for my niece, and demands that my mom and I need to give up our full paychecks to make sure she has our apartment to stay in...she's not even in the lease and already my landlord is getting upset that she needs to leave because we've already had complaints about her dog attacking people, etc.)
So I may not in this case be the best person to answer how to help your situation, but maybe, speak with your husband how your child is upcoming and that you would like some favors to be done by your sister in law. Tell your husband how helpful he is and has been to your sister in law and that you need her help, too in preparing for this baby. It might actually turn her off. And then she can help by making pre-made dishes that can be frozen in your fridge and once the baby is born, she can help to defrost and bake/reheat them. Start praising your husband instead and ask him to ask his sister to help your growing family. Say that you want her support and need her help too. Yes...this is terrible that it may or may not be from the heart, but if your husband understands the idea that you need her help, too and want to include her into the family, then he might even shift his thought processes. and you can tell him that it will be so helpful since he may be working (I dont know if he will take paternity leave from work or not), but draw your husband back to you.