landtech06

Hello I am new here and it's my first post.

My wife and I of 7 years together 6 years marriage, 3 kids together.

We agreed to a open marriage closed on mine open on hers. She says shes bi sexual.

I am willing to see if this is what she wants or not. She has had no exp. but wants to explore that side of her.....

Can a bi sexual women have love for her husband and a girlfriend?
Any ladies out there that have this exp!?

SunnyT

Sure she can.... who wouldn't looooooooooooooooooove a hubby who LETS you cheat on him?

I would think.... that as a spouse, it would suck to know that your partner does not really want to be committed to you, and that they might like someone else who comes along....

Hope1964

IMO you are asking for TROUBLE with this. Whether it's with another man or another woman, you're allowing her to have 'fun' outside your marriage. That's just going to end BADLY.

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SunnyT

I think I'd tell her... sure you can have girlfriends, as long as I can too.

COGypsy

So you're willing to let her date and sleep around until she decides whether she really loves you or gay bars more?


What if she'd said she loves blondes AND brunettes? Would you stay home and babysit while she sampled that too?

Cheating is cheating.
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michzz

You just got played.

Darkhorse

Bi doesn't mean you get two at the same time. Wtf. She's bi, meaning she likes men and women. So she needs to pick one and be with that one...or not be married and just troll around.

If it's open, it should be open for you BOTH. Bet her tune will change then.

The nerve of some people. SMH.

SockPuppet

Im going to go out on a limb here and say it would be possible for a relationship to function happily if the relationship is open for one and not the other. That being said, I doubt I will ever meet anyone who I think this would apply for.

Your gf is bisexual, so you offer her the opportunity to date other girls.... Keep in mind that dating isnt just her "experimenting". She is seeing these other girls and looking for a spark.

This really is no different than if you gave her the green light to date other guys, just to see if there is someone better out there. Genitalia make no difference.

I wouldnt be surprised if the subconcious reason men are ok with this type of relationship is because they are hoping it will land them a threesome or some awesome pics of wifey and another girl.

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Shaggy

Heres the thing with bisexuals. It's not that they get around by both sexes, they are open to complete relationships with either sex.

So by telling your wife she can explore you are really telling her it's ok to go out and find another person to date and have a full on relationship with. As in, she and the OP and nt you.

Btw, very often the other women in these relationships inst interested in bring number three and the odd person out. Instead they want your wife all for themselves. So what could possibly go wrong wth your marriage?
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FirstYearDown

Why are you allowing an open marriage, that is closed on your side??

Man up and wise up, bricks.

landtech06

Well, she had said she would need to reconsider our marriage if had to suppress these feelings. Feelings for a woman so she may feel fulfilled and/or see if she is even interested in woman or not like she thinks she is. Of course watching "the L word" all the time, doesn't comfort me at all. I have 3 lil kids, she doesn't work, ::sigh:: its tearing me up.
Your right its hurts that she doesn't want to be completely commited to me.
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expatforlife

Of course she said that, she is walking all over you because you let her. You have became her doormat.

If she wants to explore other relationships male or female its either you both have an open marriage or you need to let her go.

COguy

So basically your wife is saying she's attracted to other people and she's going to reconsider your marriage (where she committed to loving you and only you until death do you part) unless you let her go cheat on you....

Your problem is not with your wife, your problem is that you lack the self-respect to stand up for yourself. At this point your marriage is already in shambles. You either need to find out what needs to happen in order to fix your marriage (counselling, manning up, discussion on what lead to this point), or start divorce proceedings.

Unless you enjoy financially and emotionally supporting someone who has no respect for you or your feelings...in that case, carry on.

Has this really come up out of the blue or has she been dropping hints like this before you were married and all throughout it? If this is a sudden thing, you're dealing with a cheating spouse.

Cooper

How are you going to feel when one of her girlfriends who is also bi decides to bring one of her boyfriends along for the party? And remember every person she has sex with is also having sex with others, no telling what kind of nasty gift she could end up giving you. Personally I couldn't imagine being involved with someone who was activly seeking out sex with strangers, I don't care what gender they are.

For me it's black and white, be commited to your spouse and kids and marriage or....get a divorce.

LimboGirl

This isn't just about you and your wife. Your children will learn that men are doormats and not to be respected. With all the messages in the media that already support this they don't need Dad saying it too. If you think you can have an arrangement like this and the kids not know, you are kidding yourself. This would be a toxic arrangement for your family.