Some of you know my story.
So tonight I got the "truth" out on my wife keep in mind this is now over TWO years from her original disconnect and ILYNILWYA speech. No cheating I'm aware of and yes I've snooped a lot. Last two months she seemed much closer to me but then I guess I pushed her a little too far last night by leaving her a gift bag with items and a "nice" note.
This was after I gave her items to help with libido...after that she seemed short with me so I pressed her on a reason tonight via text an hour later this was her response....
....I need time to fall in love with you again. That is my problem... (not a libido issue take the items back)
Keep in mind her and I had sex last time in July. Only 7 times in two years since ILYNILWY. Lately I had been pressuring her at bit at the two year point to make a decision of which way this was going... she seemed to be moving closer. Until tonight. At least I got clarity evidently its not her libido (Although I do believe she has a low libido... we only averaged 15-20 times per year before married (18 years ) she is now 45)
Keep in mind I've "fixed" all my behaviors already even gave up drinking cold turkey that night. She along time ago said you have done great..its me.
So what is the prognosis... dire? or Just wait her out? I'm getting tired of waiting for her to figure this out, I need sex this is sort of crazy!
Need advice. How should I proceed?
I still love her and we have two teenage boys.
So tonight I got the "truth" out on my wife keep in mind this is now over TWO years from her original disconnect and ILYNILWYA speech. No cheating I'm aware of and yes I've snooped a lot. Last two months she seemed much closer to me but then I guess I pushed her a little too far last night by leaving her a gift bag with items and a "nice" note.
This was after I gave her items to help with libido...after that she seemed short with me so I pressed her on a reason tonight via text an hour later this was her response....
....I need time to fall in love with you again. That is my problem... (not a libido issue take the items back)
Keep in mind her and I had sex last time in July. Only 7 times in two years since ILYNILWY. Lately I had been pressuring her at bit at the two year point to make a decision of which way this was going... she seemed to be moving closer. Until tonight. At least I got clarity evidently its not her libido (Although I do believe she has a low libido... we only averaged 15-20 times per year before married (18 years ) she is now 45)
Keep in mind I've "fixed" all my behaviors already even gave up drinking cold turkey that night. She along time ago said you have done great..its me.
So what is the prognosis... dire? or Just wait her out? I'm getting tired of waiting for her to figure this out, I need sex this is sort of crazy!
Need advice. How should I proceed?
I still love her and we have two teenage boys.