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Old 01-09-2009, 07:19 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Sorry for the rather vulgar title but it accurately sums up this little weird incident pretty accurately. I've been on this forum for a while now and I decided I'd take advantage of the anonymity of the net to ask for opinions on the only proper argument hubby and I ever had. It's something I've only mentioned to one friend in real life and she was mainly interested in reassuring and trying to calm me down.

Anywho here's what happened in all the painful detail, over a year ago I bought my sister in law and her equally chubby friend to the gym in an effort to get in good with the in laws.

I just wore a track suit to the gym and wasn't wearing any underwear, cause my work out kit was there and I had a clean set to wear after. my sister in law had ignored what I asked them to do and just come in tracksuits.

So they stand their looking at me in the changing room while I'm getting changed. Then she starts lecturing me about needing to wear a bra while I've got my sports bra in my hand. I'm the very model of patience. At that stage it hadn't occurred to me that I also shave my pubes and don't have a tan line.

Anywho The workout didn't go so well mainly because she was lazy and couldn't understand the need to get your heart rate up and sweat rather than bimbling on the thread mill and watching the tv.Although her friend in fairness was more interested.

In the locker room afterwards my sister in law discovered the shower was open plan, and didn't want to be naked in front of other people, so I said fine I'd shower first then stand outside and ask everybody to wait. although her friend did shower with me.We were going to dinner afterwards and waiting to shower at home wasn't an option.

When i got out of the shower my in law was changing into her fresh clothes and i just flipped (i'd been the picture of calm up untill then) I told her she was walking home unless she showered and that she was getting into the shower. the words 'dirty minger' were mentioned

She started welling up and we had a bit of a barnie but she did agree to shower in the end, and i did stand outside asking people to wait.

anyway my hubby and I talked about it that night and i agreed to apologize, for a quite life, which I did.

A few days later my hubby mentions in passing about how he'd prefer if i didn't shave my pubes anymore, I put two and two together went schiz and hubby and I had our first proper arguement. I knew before that my shaving my pubes made him uncomfortable but we had the conversation and I though we had settled it.

So i was about to track down good old sis and remove her from the family tree ,but eventually calmed down. But she has a big mouth and with a smalle circle of family it didn't help my reputation any. I never actually confronted her about it after promising hubby that I wouldn't but what really annoyed me at the time is how he seemed to be slightly embarressed by me and how he agreed with his sister that my waxing my pubes was some overt sexual statement.

Anywho I'd welcome any opinions that people might have, I know it sounds stragne but this is genuinely the only proper arguement that I've ever had with my husband.
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Old 01-09-2009, 07:57 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Frankly, IMO, it is none of the siter-in-law's business what you do to your body and your husband should have said as much to her. I can understand not wanting a family confrontation but I also think he should not have brought it up in the way it appears he did. On a side note...if this is the only arguement you have with your hubby, then congrats to the two of you and I hope this does not turn into a major issue.
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Old 01-09-2009, 08:52 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Get a grip and see the whole pictures....I love when my wife trims (trying to get her to way - she will shave ;-)) I don't want to do down there and have to dig through the bush....
Sounds like your sister in law isn't very happy sexually - or at least open in that area. Bess her and how that she gets good sex now and again!
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Old 01-09-2009, 10:36 PM   #4 (permalink)
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I have to say, your story was a little bit funny, I don't mean that in a bad way! I enjoyed reading it, only because it is really kind of ridiculous that he'd be embarrassed by you or your body or how you cut your pubes. I can tell you personally, that my hubby likes mine short, with only a small line in the middle , sorry for the TMI. He says when I let it grow it's like he's kissing a goat , when we have oral! LOL..... And really, I don't like it either, because I don't want it sticking out of my panties, or bathing suit. So I prefer it short too. It think it was really kind of sick, of your sister in law to mention something like that to her own brother, who does that? Anyway, I'd just ignore her, and her stupid comments. I cant' think of any time where my husband's siblings would be wanting to mention my pubes.... your sis in law sounds like she's a bit freaky deaky.... ;-) Wax on baby!
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The only thing you've done wrong is let your catty sister in law try to get to you. First she implies that your tits are saggy and need a bra, then wants yo to stage manage the shower room because she's too lard-assed to be seen naked?

You should not have told her she needs to shower. Sher could go stinko if she had to.

But her talking about your shaven pubes to other people? Maybe because she is that indiscreet about such things is why she wanted a solo shower, she worried you or someone else would talk about her lack of tone?

You can be as slick as a baby's behind if you want to be. or hairy as that goat someone mentioned. It's nobody's business but your own!
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Old 01-10-2009, 06:46 AM   #6 (permalink)
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First she implies that your tits are saggy and need a bra,
Just so everyone know my boobs are in no way saggy, I look after them and they're withstanding gravity quite nicely
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Old 01-10-2009, 07:34 AM   #7 (permalink)
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your sis in law is jealous of you.
comments like that when your obviously looking after yourself, its realy her with the issues.
we all have different reasons and how we look after ourselves down below in the nether regions, but its what you feel comfortable with.
i more in agreeance with MICHZZ here, she is very catty .
but i warn you here, she wil prob try and do it again in the future.
personally if it were me, i wouldnt have let her get away with it.
nip it in the bud.
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your sis in law is jealous of you.
comments like that when your obviously looking after yourself, its realy her with the issues.
we all have different reasons and how we look after ourselves down below in the nether regions, but its what you feel comfortable with.
i more in agreeance with MICHZZ here, she is very catty .
but i warn you here, she wil prob try and do it again in the future.
personally if it were me, i wouldnt have let her get away with it.
nip it in the bud.
This all happened over a year ago, I never really confronted her about it. To be honest I think she felt a bit hummilitated that I forced her to have a shower and it was her way of getting back at me. Hubby has never been comfortable with my shaving my pubes and she probably just realised it would push his buttons.

Women that shave their pubes wasn't something that hubby had encountered before me and he attached sexual connotations to it. I explained my reasons for doing it, in that I joined the army at 16 and its just easier to keep yourself clean, when you don't have access to running water or a change a clothes. A couple of years ago at his request I experimented with letting my pubes grow back, the first problem was that it came back like wire wool, instead of just running a razor over myself while i was doing my legs I had to trim it with a scissor it was just a hassle, and finally I just didn't like how I looked with it. None of my reasons had anything to do with sex.
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[QUOTE=sarah.rslp;33836]This all happened over a year ago, I never really confronted her about it. To be honest I think she felt a bit hummilitated that I forced her to have a shower and it was her way of getting back at me. Hubby has never been comfortable with my shaving my pubes and she probably just realised it would push his buttons.QUOTE]

oh yes my mistake, but i do think your right in your saying it would push his buttons. but again it does come down to her jealousy of your relationship. you obviously have a very good relationship with your H, if it was the only issue she could tell him about to get his buttons pushed, then unfortunately she is just very sad in herself.
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oh yes my mistake, but i do think your right in your saying it would push his buttons. but again it does come down to her jealousy of your relationship. you obviously have a very good relationship with your H, if it was the only issue she could tell him about to get his buttons pushed, then unfortunately she is just very sad in herself.
You were right though she did try and do it again. She lives a 100 yards down the road from us with her parents so she gets plenty of oppurtunity.
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Old 01-10-2009, 09:37 AM   #11 (permalink)
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she is just jealous Sarah that is all.

In America it is perfectly normal for a woman to shave her private area, even make designs, like a heart.


I actually shave my wife's which she loves, not bare, just to a small area, but its a little thing we like to do together, she likes that I enjoy doing it, she always gets a "treat" when I am done with my task

He should not be embarrassed at all, I guess just not Culturally acceptable yet in England?

for us Americans, we are shocked when women don't.
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As for your husband, although I do think most men prefer it to be clean shaven (or at least neatly trimmed), perhaps you should discuss with him why it bothers him. Is it insecurity on his part? Maybe he's worried about you not wearing panties to the gym and men might somehow see the goods while you're working out. Could you wear a thong as a compromise?
I did wear knickers and a sports bra while I worked out, I leave my work out kit at the gym where it gets laundered. I changed into an old tracksuit for the trip to the gym and didn't bother with undies cause it was only for half an hour. It didn't actually occur to me how that would look to anybody else. You can be rest assured my bits and bobs are well covered up when I'm working out.

Its kind or weird to broadcast intimite bits and pieces on the internet but what the hell.

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I LOVE a woman working out....

is your hubby in good shape does he work out too?

good for you!
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You were right though she did try and do it again. She lives a 100 yards down the road from us with her parents so she gets plenty of oppurtunity.
then theres your answer. i said in real terms you have it better. she doesnt have much better than to cause trouble because she doesnt have a life as good as yours.
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then theres your answer. i said in real terms you have it better. she doesnt have much better than to cause trouble because she doesnt have a life as good as yours.
To be honest I'm not that concerned about my sister in law, I've learned how to deal with over the last year.

But how much of a say would you give your hubby in your grooming. Like I said I did experiment with letting them grow back but I didn't like the way I was looking plus it was just alot more labour intensive.

Just to rehash even more embarressing incidents from my sex life The first time he saw that I did wax, we'd been snogging, and he was really nervous I could tell he didn't like me grabbing him sexually so I didn't. When he finally started rubbing me between my legs I decided to encourage him by undoing my trousers and pushing them down. At which point he bolted. You can tell what that did for my self esteem when your bf sees your crotch and decides to leave you with your trousers down around your ankles.

Anywho Its not really an issue now, hubby's quite happy but still If I asked him now if he wanted me to stop waxing he's say yes. If it was a case of him pressuring me to stop, it would be one thing but he just honestly just doesn't like it.
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