Re: Ladies, do you care about your man's fitness/body?
I tend to find tall, somewhat stocky, men attractive - all the men in my family are built that way, so it's what I tend to associate most with "manly". That said, I've only dated one man who was over 6' tall, and at 6'4" I found his height very attractive, but his weight was beginning to get away from him. I found his lack of healthy behaviors a bit of a problem and can imagine that if we'd stayed together I might have eventually found myself becoming less attracted to him because of his increasing weight. I don't want a gym rat or a crossfitter, or someone who's so into his body that he won't have fun indulging in great food from time to time. But being unwilling to take care of yourself enough to at least give yourself a chance for a long and healthy life isn't attractive either.
That said, both my ex-husband and my current SO were under 6' (a little under 5'10" and right at 5'11", respectively) but both solidly built. Not a thin runners build, but not muscle-bound either. Average body, I would say. Strong, cuddly, with a little extra weight, but not obese. My SO has a heart condition, so I worry about his body from the standpoint of wanting him to stay healthy enough to be around with me for as long as he can. But we are both foodies and love to cook and to eat. We both enjoy food and dislike the gym and I find that compatibility attractive, even if neither of us are ever going to have very trim physiques. Happily, he seems to feel the same about my size 10-12 self. I don't think either one of us would find it attractive if the other became obese, however.
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