I'm having this conversation with my daughters about friends and those who think they can say anything to us we're thinking of dropping as friends.
I had my 50th birthday this summer. My sister and her family, from Seattle no less, joined us for the surprise party where we live in the midwest. So did my friends. Two of my friends took me aside and said, "that's your sister?" One of the husband's said, "you sure got the looks of the family." Sister is morbidly obese. I am very fit. She is younger than me but both friends said she looks older. I was shocked that they said this. I would never say something like this. Was it a backhanded compliment to me? Do they not think I know the differences between us? I am kicking myself for not saying something like, "what a rude thing to say."
Or, am I being overly sensitive?
One of these same friends, when she saw our family Christmas picture said "DD is not going to like it, she looks heavy." I said she doesn't care. Are we that good of friends in that they think they can say whatever they're thinking? Or simply rude?