There may be a lot like me who are not particularly into boobs but who ARE very much into doing things that turn on our partners. In that case you just need to let them know what you enjoy.
I would have thought you would understand this dynamic better. Especially after the responses from women here on this thread.
What you are saying is akin to us saying to you that since your wife has O's and obviously enjoys sex, you should just be able to tell her that you need it more often, after all she loves you and enjoys sex. Should be that easy.
I am not doubting that YOU would be eager and willing to take on any sexual task given in order to please your partner. But the fact is that most women have experienced showing or telling a man what you want, and having him do it for only a short moment, then reverting to not doing it or doing something else. And this includes men who want to please their partners. And after doing it once for 30 seconds or so (when you wanted 10 minutes of devoted pleasure and ongoing play throughout love making) they think they've done what you asked. When you explain again that no, what I wanted was more, and I wanted it done this way/that way, they are just bewildered that you weren't overly pleased about their efforts. If they don't have game in this area, they just don't.
This can apply to other types of sexual instruction too, but with a non-boob man, I've experienced it specifically more than once. They simply don't have the inner drive/desire towards breasts to maintain enough interest to keep doing it on their own or get that much better at it.
I have one guy friend who said his wife turned him from a non-boob man into a boob man. She was able to do it because she's very bossy and direct, and he is not wimpy but very much able to keep up with her...so when they were new together and she wanted her breasts played with, if he wasn't doing it enough she would tell him bluntly to get his hands on her. He said if he stopped she told him again, get your hands on my breasts. He said she was direct like this over and over until he knew it was just going to always be part of their sexy time to play with her breasts. He said he saw her enjoyment and over time, grew to really appreciate her breasts more like a boob man and automatically played with them the way she liked, all the time.
And even though this sounds like good news...I just wouldn't want to put that much energy into changing someone. I need a man to have his own well of inner lust for breasts and my breasts in particular to draw from. He needs that so that he can fuel the ongoing expressions of love and desire he has for them, that are true and honestly felt from within him, not something he learned to do to please me.
If I had experienced telling a non-boob man once or twice what I'd like and then he was able to execute what I'd asked for in a way that worked for me, I would think it was that simple. But that has not been my experience, and as with some of the women who replied on this thread, most women I've talked to who have asked a non-boob man to pay more attention to her breasts have experienced the same thing.....namely, they can't do it or sustain it.