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post #46 of 69 (permalink) Old 01-02-2017, 10:57 AM
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VERY important. ''Nipple foreplay'' with my fiance really turns me on pretty quickly. Love it so much!


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My one complaint, was that despite trying to steer him a certain way many times, he never really touched them in a way that aroused me. It was lovely when he snuggled them, very erotic if he used them for friction, but merely amusing and frustrating at times when he just played with them for his own amusement. Think lots of squeezing (which could be painful), light sucking, and the occasional motorboat (a little too silly at times). Whereas I prefer more attention to the nipples: pinching, more forceful sucking and nibbling.
I went looking for some kind of instructional video that gives advice on how to handle breasts (for her pleasure). I didn't come up with much, and the ones I did find didn't necessarily give advice that would be pleasurable for me. And of course different women are going to find different breast play styles more and less pleasurable so there couldn't be any one size fits all instructions...but I thought I might at least find something that felt like a good enough video.

Part of the problem is the lack of showing any actual breast play. I wasn't looking in porn type vids, I doubt there would be any there anyway, and I don't have time to wade through the entire internet looking for one. So the ones I did find couldn't actually show real touching, sucking, pinching, playing. They tried to simulate it, but that doesn't really work. Also they were basically lame when it came down to it...none of them showed anything that would benefit a guy's skills. AND they were sort of coming from the place of assumption that all men are boob men to begin with...and they just aren't. I needed one that would explain to a non boob man what he's missing and why he should do it and how to do it...didn't find one.

Here's a couple I did find...not saying I'm recommending anyone watch them, just showing an example of how little of this kind of video I could find and how not helpful they were...NSFW but also no nudity.




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Men are visual.

Breasts add to the "looking" feast. I find them very touching.

Is it no wonder some women are forced say to men, "Hello, my face is up here!"

Balance, everything is balance. A good fitting bra helps a women's [ballast] balance.

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That second one was hilarious... her description of the 3 guys lacking skill was priceless.

One work-around I found when craving a certain touch was to do it myself while with H since he also enjoyed watching me play with them almost as much. A decent compromise in the right situations.


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I've dated a few guys who were horrible at this, to the point where it felt like they were hurting me. I like a lighter touch on my nipples, nothing hard. Pinching is okay, but not too hard. But squeezing my breasts, or pushing them together ugh...doesn't feel good at all, let alone it isn't arousing. I never wanted to make them feel bad, so I never said anything, but maybe I should have. Thankfully, I'm with someone now who is honestly my sexual match, in every way. Even the things I dislike, he dislikes. LOL!

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An ex-GF was a D cup - had to be the most perfect set of tits. She loved having me fondle them through her bra before we'd get clothes off. I'd caress her nipples with my hand, and they'd get nice and hard. When that happened, she'd say "they're pushing you away - what are you going to do about it?" Of course, this led to my mouth and tongue taking over for some sensual sucking and licking. Talk about a major turn-on.
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post #52 of 69 (permalink) Old 01-02-2017, 06:36 PM
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There may be a lot like me who are not particularly into boobs but who ARE very much into doing things that turn on our partners. In that case you just need to let them know what you enjoy.

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There may be a lot like me who are not particularly into boobs but who ARE very much into doing things that turn on our partners. In that case you just need to let them know what you enjoy.
I would have thought you would understand this dynamic better. Especially after the responses from women here on this thread.

What you are saying is akin to us saying to you that since your wife has O's and obviously enjoys sex, you should just be able to tell her that you need it more often, after all she loves you and enjoys sex. Should be that easy.

I am not doubting that YOU would be eager and willing to take on any sexual task given in order to please your partner. But the fact is that most women have experienced showing or telling a man what you want, and having him do it for only a short moment, then reverting to not doing it or doing something else. And this includes men who want to please their partners. And after doing it once for 30 seconds or so (when you wanted 10 minutes of devoted pleasure and ongoing play throughout love making) they think they've done what you asked. When you explain again that no, what I wanted was more, and I wanted it done this way/that way, they are just bewildered that you weren't overly pleased about their efforts. If they don't have game in this area, they just don't.

This can apply to other types of sexual instruction too, but with a non-boob man, I've experienced it specifically more than once. They simply don't have the inner drive/desire towards breasts to maintain enough interest to keep doing it on their own or get that much better at it.

I have one guy friend who said his wife turned him from a non-boob man into a boob man. She was able to do it because she's very bossy and direct, and he is not wimpy but very much able to keep up with her...so when they were new together and she wanted her breasts played with, if he wasn't doing it enough she would tell him bluntly to get his hands on her. He said if he stopped she told him again, get your hands on my breasts. He said she was direct like this over and over until he knew it was just going to always be part of their sexy time to play with her breasts. He said he saw her enjoyment and over time, grew to really appreciate her breasts more like a boob man and automatically played with them the way she liked, all the time.

And even though this sounds like good news...I just wouldn't want to put that much energy into changing someone. I need a man to have his own well of inner lust for breasts and my breasts in particular to draw from. He needs that so that he can fuel the ongoing expressions of love and desire he has for them, that are true and honestly felt from within him, not something he learned to do to please me.

If I had experienced telling a non-boob man once or twice what I'd like and then he was able to execute what I'd asked for in a way that worked for me, I would think it was that simple. But that has not been my experience, and as with some of the women who replied on this thread, most women I've talked to who have asked a non-boob man to pay more attention to her breasts have experienced the same thing.....namely, they can't do it or sustain it.

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Apparently, I'm missing out.

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In regards to my wife, playing with her breasts does absolutely zero for her. We have talked about it, including me asking if changing techniques, etc. would help. She says that her breasts just don't give her pleasure. She doesn't mind if I enjoy them, but no pleasure for her in that regard.

I've only been with 20 women (including my wife), and I'd say maybe half of them liked breast play, the other half was ambivalent towards it. Similar to my wife, they said they just didn't get anything out of it (not just me but other partners too).


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I am certainly a breast man (or maybe a nipple man?)and my wife of 28 years has great breasts that are very sensitive.

When we first got together (she was 18) I could actually get her to "O" just by paying attention to her breasts - certainly kissing and and getting real close was well - but the breast play is what she loved (not sure how descriptive I can be on this forum?).

Now that we are older (me 54 and her 51) I have learned that she does not like me going for the breasts right away (although she will rub her breasts on my chest early on) - she likes kissing and other things as foreplay - but, once she is going good and we do POV - then she wants the breast play - and this gets her to "O" every time.
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Maybe I should have gotten one of these...


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In regards to my wife, playing with her breasts does absolutely zero for her. We have talked about it, including me asking if changing techniques, etc. would help. She says that her breasts just don't give her pleasure. She doesn't mind if I enjoy them, but no pleasure for her in that regard.

I've only been with 20 women (including my wife), and I'd say maybe half of them liked breast play, the other half was ambivalent towards it. Similar to my wife, they said they just didn't get anything out of it (not just me but other partners too).
I think a significant number of women don't receive much or any pleasure from breast play. It isn't across the board, for sure. And for me, my breasts are temperamental WRT what kind of play they want and when and where, etc. They are not in the mood for the same treatment every day. Different times of the month, they may be sore and unable to play rough, for instance. This is always a good time for more sensual play than aggressive, where as other times sensual play doesn't do that much for me and I want it more aggressive.

Women I've talked to over the years have described a wide array of ways they enjoy or don't enjoy their breasts being played with, everything from don't touch me ever to being able to O from breast play alone (as a few here have testified as well).

A match between a woman who isn't into it and a non-boob man can work well, as can a boob man and a woman who enjoys her breasts and shares them with him. Mismatches in this area are like so many other mismatches: It can be quite frustrating to whoever is the HD for boobs.

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I developed breasts later than everyone else. So even when I become a C cup at around 16-years-old, I always thought of myself as "flat".

The first guy who saw my breasts told me that I should start lifting weights to try and make my upper chest as full as my breasts. Okay, whatever. He was an okay guy, but I can't say as his opinion really mattered to me that much.

But my husband told me the same thing. He also didn't like that my arms were too thin and that my collar bone protruded.

So, at that point, even when he would touch them, or play with them; I would be thinking that they weren't as full and as round as the kind that he liked to look at.

I had hyper-sensitive nipples when I was young. He would tug on them a lot, which I couldn't stand. But he'd get kind of upset if I asked him not to do that, so I endured it quite a bit.

But having my breasts caressed all over was really nice.

Breast sex is nice too. I did that with my first boyfriend and my husband. I guess they liked it; even if they didn't feel that my breasts were full enough on top.

I'm between a D and DD now. Now my husband says that large breasts aren't all they're cracked up to be. It's not like he's vicious or anything; he just makes a casual type of remark. And since his opinion is the only one that matters, it hurts.

I found a website a couple of years ago. It was called the Natural Breasts Gallery [iirc]. That made me feel *a lot* more peaceful with myself, lol.

When I was 19 I found a soft, wiggly cyst in one of my breasts. I was really scared. The doctors never knew what to do; aspirate or not aspirate since they couldn't see anything on the mammogram. So I didn't do anything; and eventually it went away? Anyways, I agree with this statement by @joannacroc


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I've decided not to be so neurotic about them, and just enjoy the fact that they are there, and healthy. Some breast cancer survivors in my family, so perspective is helpful.
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My first sexual experience beyond kissing and holding hands encompassed me playing with a girls breasts for a long time and then we had sex, ever since then I can't get breasts off my mind, it was an absolute rush of feelings I wasn't prepared for. I need them involved in a big way and can get extremely hard just looking at a woman's breasts. I could play with them all day long and couldn't imagine sex without my wife's boobs involved, my wife can also O just from breast play.

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